O/T Article from Slate

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? N/A

Ok, so I'm going to admit to being trashier than I really want y'all to think I am. But I'm fascinated by the Britney/K-Fed custody thing.

This article is about that, on the surface, but it's got some great points in it, in general.

http://www.slate.com/id/2175128/nav/ais/

Judges don't like to be ignored, and they take a particularly dim view of parents who don't seem to understand that they're supposed to be proving themselves worthy of the court's trust by cleaning up their act.

A good judge overseeing a custody dispute shouldn't care why a mother is digging her way out of the unfit pit. He should just encourage her to keep shoveling. That doesn't necessarily mean giving the kids back right away if there's real reason to worry about their physical safety. But it does mean recognizing, in some concrete way, that the parent is trying. Family courts are supposed to operate for the benefit of kids, and it's rarely in a child's interest to take him away from his mother or father for anything like forever. However exasperated they get, judges need to keep rooting for the miscreant parent.

Or maybe Gordon was showing her that you just can't defy a court order that concerns your kids. Once the law has a window into your family, you have to behave as if you're being watched.

 

[seniorjudge]

Ya has to be purty lousy to lose your kids to Ex Lax....

 

[CJane]

Ya has to be purty lousy to lose your kids to Ex Lax....

LOL

Or Fed Ex.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Guess she's in the Freeadvice outhouse, huh? Can you imagine the OP's question?

I just can't believe that the judge would find me unfit? It's not like there wasn't a nanny watching 'em while I was out partying. And my daddy let me drive the car when I was two .... Like I've been driving forever .... why would I need a California license?

 

[CJane]

Guess she's in the Freeadvice outhouse, huh? Can you imagine the OP's question?

I just can't believe that the judge would find me unfit? It's not like there wasn't a nanny watching 'em while I was out partying. And my daddy let me drive the car when I was two .... Like I've been driving forever .... why would I need a California license?

I think that's why I'm fascinated. Sometimes, I read the posts of new people and think "This could totally be K-Fed". Cracks me up.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

And see ... you aren't the only one who keeps up with the trashy news! Mine was duplicated in both of the newspapers that I read ... and no, it isn't the Enquirer and Star ...
I reserve those magazines for when I'm stuck in the checkout lane of the grocery store.

 

[Silverplum]

That girl is in endless trouble.

ps -- and I, too, know waaaay too much about these idjits!

 

[CJane]

And see ... you aren't the only one who keeps up with the trashy news! Mine was duplicated in both of the newspapers that I read ... and no, it isn't the Enquirer and Star ...
I reserve those magazines for when I'm stuck in the checkout lane of the grocery store.

Ya know, the weekly world news went out of business... and now, I cannot keep up with the love life of the Bat Boy.

SP ~ She's like a real life Kelly.

 

[JacobJoel]

Now Now...

she has a interim CA license as of this week. and working on her permanent one.

i feel bad for her. she was so classy ... a million years ago

the couple i am waiting to see if they break up is Brangelina. now THAT is going to be a custody dispute.

 

[kik1999]

I, too, have been watching this thing unfold for what seems like, forever! This article made a very good (but kinda strange) point ~ "signaled that Gordon didn't unrealistically expect Britney and K-Fed to suddenly kick their habits, but he was ready to demand that they keep it away from their boys." The judge simply asked that they keep their habits away from their kids...and she couldn't even do that!!!! She was photographed drinking less than 12 hours prior to visitation. It's like she is oblivious to the fact that there is this entire world going on around her. It reminds me of what I say about my daughter and sd ~ "it's their world, we're just living in it".

Soo sad for those kids. I mean ~ if your best shot for a fit parent is K-Fed...

 

[kik1999]

she has a interim CA license as of this week. and working on her permanent one.

i feel bad for her. she was so classy ... a million years ago

the couple i am waiting to see if they break up is Brangelina. now THAT is going to be a custody dispute.

I feel bad for her b/c she had the world at her fingertips and she lost it all b/c of the stupid, impulsive decisions she's made! Definitely sounds like someone who has been abusing drugs. I did notice that she hasn't had those dumb lolipops in her mouth lately, though...

Ok - I need to get a freaking life. I'm waaaayyy too old to engage in gossip about Hollywood! I sound like my 8 year old talking about Zak Effron!

 

[Just Blue]

Well....I didn't know about this until someone told me...TODAY! So either I am living under a rock (very likely!!) or I am the classiest dame at FA!!

Let's take a poll!!

 

[CJane]

Well....I didn't know about this until someone told me...TODAY! So either I am living under a rock (very likely!!) or I am the classiest dame at FA!!

Let's take a poll!!

Speaking of classy...

I'm sitting on my front porch eating my evening snack of french onion sun chips and pepsi while my son pushes his 'hippopomanus' toy around in the yard.

But the people just down the way... their kids who are probably about the same age as Twain (not yet 2) are just running from the front porch into the road. And Every. Single. Time. they do, their Mom SCREAMS at them to "Get the h*ll OUT OF THE GD ROAD!"

Apparently, the last straw was me raising my eyebrow at her because she threw down her cigarette, grabbed the kids, swatted their butts, screamed some more and put them in the car - so she could 'finish her GD cigarette in peace!"

So glad I don't live in a trailer park.

 

[Just Blue]

Speaking of classy...

I'm sitting on my front porch eating my evening snack of french onion sun chips and pepsi while my son pushes his 'hippopomanus' toy around in the yard.

But the people just down the way... their kids who are probably about the same age as Twain (not yet 2) are just running from the front porch into the road. And Every. Single. Time. they do, their Mom SCREAMS at them to "Get the h*ll OUT OF THE GD ROAD!"

Apparently, the last straw was me raising my eyebrow at her because she threw down her cigarette, grabbed the kids, swatted their butts, screamed some more and put them in the car - so she could 'finish her GD cigarette in peace!"

So glad I don't live in a trailer park.

That is an example of what I call a breeder...

 

[Just Blue]

Dude... she's like 3X bigger than me. I got my sh*t together and came in to make dinner.

I didn't mean you should have said anything...just that I would have...I grew up in Lynn...Very little scares/intimidates me!!