Ok, new question re: childcare

[stealth2]

Wait a minute.... stepmom stopped watching the kids for you when you stopped working? Then technically, she no longer is the child care provider. Suppose they were going to a third party, then you stopped sending them when you stopped working - they would no longer be obligated to watch them when you went back to work. THEY are not bound by your order. Neither is stepmom.

 

[GrowUp!]

then I guess he's hungry for more crow......I say feed him!

And include one of those nice little wrapped packets you get from take-out or the drive thru that include a fork, knife and napkin. LOL

 

[CJane]

No offense intended CJane but you chose them. And you seem to be the common denominator. So figure out why you choose imbeciles, learn from that, and do not do it again. Okay dear?

No offense taken. I know I chose them. And thankfully, no matter how idiotic I find the ex husband, he's a good dad. I'm lucky there. I've done my reflection, and my therapy and thought about switching teams and I'm not on the path for making my next mistake. Really.

Stealth ~ When I lost my job and quit taking the girls to the ex's house, we agreed that once school started back up, she would be the childcare provider again - that we were just taking the summer off. We had done the same thing previously with the daycare center that the girls went to before he got married. I realize that SMom or a daycare center are not bound by the order... but my concern is that I'll find somewhere else that he won't 'agree' to, or he'll try to get me on contempt for not using the 'current provider', or something crazy like that. Since it's specifically in the order that we HAVE to use the current provider, I'm not sure what to do.

 

[Zephyr]

No offense taken. I know I chose them. And thankfully, no matter how idiotic I find the ex husband, he's a good dad. I'm lucky there. I've done my reflection, and my therapy and thought about switching teams and I'm not on the path for making my next mistake. Really.

Stealth ~ When I lost my job and quit taking the girls to the ex's house, we agreed that once school started back up, she would be the childcare provider again - that we were just taking the summer off. We had done the same thing previously with the daycare center that the girls went to before he got married. I realize that SMom or a daycare center are not bound by the order... but my concern is that I'll find somewhere else that he won't 'agree' to, or he'll try to get me on contempt for not using the 'current provider', or something crazy like that. Since it's specifically in the order that we HAVE to use the current provider, I'm not sure what to do.

well now you have the email from him admitting she was not the provider.....he just eliminated his "fallback position" if that was his game

 

[GrowUp!]

well now you have the email from him admitting she was not the provider.....he just eliminated his "fallback position" if that was his game

and while he eliminated his "fallback position", he just added to his problems as it'll show he lied to the court if taken back for modification.

 

[LdiJ]

He is going to burst a gasket when he finds out that the kids being in daycare increases his child support.

 

[CJane]

He is going to burst a gasket when he finds out that the kids being in daycare increases his child support.

Yeah, I'm waiting for him to figure that out.