justme2001
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What is the name of your state? NY
I have the temp OP against my husband and the hearing is tuesday. I am confident the judge will rule my way when he hears all I have to say...thats not the problem. The problem is I'm scared to death to go. I'm afraid to talk in public...in front of all these people. To be questioned by his lawyer even my own. What if I can't say everything I need to say. What if I fall apart. I'm afraid I'm going to blow it. i don't know what to expect. Is the judge going to be understanding. Do I tell him I'm nervous? How long do I get to talk for? Everyone is going to be looking at me and I'm not going to be able to say a word. Plus, my husband of course is going to be there. I don't want to look stupid...there is so much at stake. I have my notes...and I even have a letter from our couples therapist stating that I have expressed concerned for myself and my daughter. He has seen my husbands temper as well. Will the judge even look at that?
Any thoughts or support would be great!!!!!!!!!!!!
Also,
My husband is a crackhead. Isn't that nice! I discover this becasue when he smokes there is something he does that I noticed (he doesn't realize it) and thats how I can tell he is using. This "clue" will be brought up for sure. Do I HAVE to tell? If he ends up getting visitation with my daughter this is my only clue to tell if he is using or not. Is there a way to just tell the judge and explain why I don't want to answer publicly?
I have the temp OP against my husband and the hearing is tuesday. I am confident the judge will rule my way when he hears all I have to say...thats not the problem. The problem is I'm scared to death to go. I'm afraid to talk in public...in front of all these people. To be questioned by his lawyer even my own. What if I can't say everything I need to say. What if I fall apart. I'm afraid I'm going to blow it. i don't know what to expect. Is the judge going to be understanding. Do I tell him I'm nervous? How long do I get to talk for? Everyone is going to be looking at me and I'm not going to be able to say a word. Plus, my husband of course is going to be there. I don't want to look stupid...there is so much at stake. I have my notes...and I even have a letter from our couples therapist stating that I have expressed concerned for myself and my daughter. He has seen my husbands temper as well. Will the judge even look at that?
Any thoughts or support would be great!!!!!!!!!!!!
Also,
My husband is a crackhead. Isn't that nice! I discover this becasue when he smokes there is something he does that I noticed (he doesn't realize it) and thats how I can tell he is using. This "clue" will be brought up for sure. Do I HAVE to tell? If he ends up getting visitation with my daughter this is my only clue to tell if he is using or not. Is there a way to just tell the judge and explain why I don't want to answer publicly?