No, I am not suggesting that I can personally help you. What I am saying is that the person who has permanent guardianship of your children and how they fit into the dynamic of everything honestly matters. Based on the fact that your parental rights have not been terminated and based on the fact that things have been stated as "permanent guardianshIp" it sounds to me like either the children are in the custody of extended family or extended stepfamily.
If I am correct that honestly matters. If the children are in the custody of stranger foster parents that is an entirely different story.