parenting plan

[lisagr33]

stealth2-I live about 10 minutes from the major airport in my city. I don't know what the nearest airport for him would be but I can guarantee you that he would not be willing to do that. He is not the nicest person to get along with anymore since he remarried.

 

[stealth2]

Fort Mill is less than 30 minutes from Charlotte.

 

[lisagr33]

stepmom&mom-like I said let me know how it goes for you and I will keep you informed of what happens. I really appreciate all of the advice I have been given.

 

[barrett21]

Notification

Well in my husband's case we have went through two moves in the last year and both times wound up in court. On the first move we did recieve a notification but it failed to state that we could file petition to the move and other details so we filed but it was to late the Judge did agree it was a bad notification but my husband and his ex settled so she got to stay where she was. For the second notification we got we did not agree with the move she made us have to file peition on her and then when we got to court the Judge was not to happy because she said it was the ex's job to file to modify to change the parenting plan, but every case is different. I hope it works out it is a long process we started in court in Sep of 2004 and just finished in Aug 2005 but like I said we went through two moves in that time.

 

[lisagr33]

Notification

barrett21-I am guessing that the ex was still awarded custody?

 

[barrett21]

yes but..

Yes and this may sound stupid my husband did not want to take his son from his mother he knows that his son loves his mother very much. We know that she is good to the child but toward my husband and all of our family she was very spiteful she used to cancel on my husband all the time and like even now if she is early for a drop off she will drive right by and then come back when it is right on time stuff like that but we have learned to let it go. Then when she moved the first time she tried to make us do all the drive and everything in which we did have to do until we got it in court. My Husband just wanted to show her hey even though you have primary physical custody that does not make you god almighty and you can't walk all over me like this and treat me this way so he thought he would take her to court and guess what it helped alot we have been so many times now when she tries to do something stupid like she tried to take the Fourth of July this past year for her summer visit when it was my husband's holiday and he's never had it he took her to court over it and we got it so she knows her games like that are done and he is not putting up with it When we started my husband only had Sat from 9-5. Now he gets every other weekend, holidays, summer time, yeah his son lives in Ky now and we meet halfway on the drop off but things are getting better. It's a hard process but just hang in there. GL!

 

[lisagr33]

I am concerned though because according to my attorney my ex does not have to be at the hearing tomorrow because he started going through the state to get his child support taken out of my paycheck. Paying on time in the first place. However, ex said he needed to talk to me before the hearing tomorrow. Per my attorney he said that anything my ex needs to say needs to be said through an attorney and then go to mine. I fear that my ex is going to try something that is even beneath him.

 

[barrett21]

True

My Husband and his ex tried to talk and it got bitter so after that they only used attorneys because the ex would say one thing to him then another to her attorney so I would advise if You have an attorney to keep them informed of everything said.

 

[lisagr33]

Thanks for the help

stealth2, casa, barrett21 and stepmom&mom-I want to thank you all for the advice you have given me. It's nice to know that there are people out there that have had/or are in the same situation I am in. You all are the best. It is not fun to have to deal with ex spouses who think that they can run the ncp's life and get away with.

 

[barrett21]

Your welcome

Your welcome for the advice and I hope it works out for You just remember hang in there and don't back down don't let them make You think that the cp is better than You because You are both parents You are the same. Good Luck!

 

[lisagr33]

update

Just got back from court and my attorney has let me know that he is contacting my ex's attorney today to let him know that he is filing a motion of contempt on my ex for visitation violation and discipline. My ex was at the hearing today for the child support but did not say one word to me. I still don't know if I am going to be able to get our children this weekend. What do I do? It's been a month since I last saw them and I am beginning to wonder if ex has harmed our children in some way that he doesn't want me to see them.