Parties after prom

[ecmst12]

Food for thought - it takes more maturity to say NO to drinking, even just "a few beers" and even "in a responsible manner" because it's against the law and could screw up your future, then it does to drink the beers, even (relatively) responsibly.

 

[Ohiogal]

Your opinion is warped by worst case scenarios.

I don't like being 'drunk' (I was 'spinny' once and I hated it). I have 2 or 3 good quality brews and that's it. My friends are the same. It's more about hanging out. We're not 'lucky'. We just don't take risks. No driving, no wandering off by water, stay together.

The fact that you admit to being spinny is downright scary since he was pretty much crazy. But continue. I can see your future is to devolve into spinny.

 

[xteer76]

The fact that you admit to being spinny is downright scary since he was pretty much crazy.

.....?

Spinney?
...Pliny?


ecmst12 - yeah, I get you.

 

[Ohiogal]

.....?

Spinney?
...Pliny?


ecmst12 - yeah, I get you.

The others know who Spinny is.

 

[stealth2]

I think the thing is that most of these "rules" (like wrt after prom parties) are put into place for the lowest common denominator. They cannot/will not distinguish between the kids who act/drink responsibly, and those who don't. It is a blanket rule.

Now, in my state, a parent is permitted to provide alcohol to their own child. I happen to think that it is like any other behavior we teach our kids. I have always told mine that I would much rather they learned about (responsible) consumption of alcohol from me, than from their peers. My one didn't drink at all until he was in college. My other? Yep, she will have a beer now and again. Yes, she is aware it is illegal anywhere but at home. And that I will not jump to her aid if there is a problem.

 

[Silverplum]

You could always invite a couple of parents and teachers to hang out with you. Remove the mystery.

 

[Proserpina]

The fact that you admit to being spinny is downright scary since he was pretty much crazy. But continue. I can see your future is to devolve into spinny.

(Before the thread gets locked)

(Spinny's GAL had to obtain an anti-harassment order against spinny )

 

[Isis1]

(Before the thread gets locked)

(Spinny's GAL had to obtain an anti-harassment order against spinny )

i'm seriously thinking we have been advising that guy all wrong. he seems to be very oppositional. tell him one thing and he runs to do the exact opposite.

 

[ecmst12]

No way. This guy is actually WAY smarter and more well spoken. And he seems to occasionally listen.

 

[CdwJava]

Yep. He has intelligence, he is simply possessed of the hubris of youth. I see teens every day (and hear my own) that possess the same view on alcohol, parties, and their own immortality and righteousness of opinion. Age, experience, and education tend to temper such opinions. Unfortunately, I also see too many that never gain that opportunity ...

 

[xteer76]

The others know who Spinny is.

I did think it would be kind of obscure for you to reference Franklin C Spinney.

You could always invite a couple of parents and teachers to hang out with you. Remove the mystery.

I have a beer with my dad sometimes. Where we party at the parents come down and say hi.

 

[xteer76]

Yep. He has intelligence, he is simply possessed of the hubris of youth. I see teens every day (and hear my own) that possess the same view on alcohol, parties, and their own immortality and righteousness of opinion. Age, experience, and education tend to temper such opinions. Unfortunately, I also see too many that never gain that opportunity ...

What was your view of alcohol when you were a teenager?

 

[Proserpina]

I did think it would be kind of obscure for you to reference Franklin C Spinney.



I have a beer with my dad sometimes. Where we party at the parents come down and say hi.

You want to see a train-wreck?

Look for posts by signspinner. No, really.

 

[CdwJava]

What was your view of alcohol when you were a teenager?

I watched my sister and her friends descend into alcoholism starting at age 14. I had my own problems with it, but not nearly as severe and not until I was 18 and older. I did not view it as necessary to have fun and saw a lot of my friends do stupid and dangerous stuff when they were drunk. I lost three classmates in my senior year as a result of alcohol induced stupidity. I viewed it for what it was: Dangerous, illegal, and unnecessary. But, as a teen, I would imbibe periodically because - like you and many others - I felt that I knew what I was doing and could control it. I was wrong. So are you.

I stopped drinking 22 years and 306 days ago. And, you know what? I have managed to have plenty of good times without it before and since!

 

[xteer76]

I watched my sister and her friends descend into alcoholism starting at age 14. I had my own problems with it, but not nearly as severe and not until I was 18 and older. I did not view it as necessary to have fun and saw a lot of my friends do stupid and dangerous stuff when they were drunk. I lost three classmates in my senior year as a result of alcohol induced stupidity. I viewed it for what it was: Dangerous, illegal, and unnecessary. But, as a teen, I would imbibe periodically because - like you and many others - I felt that I knew what I was doing and could control it. I was wrong. So are you.

I stopped drinking 22 years and 306 days ago. And, you know what? I have managed to have plenty of good times without it before and since!

Thanks for responding. I don't consider it 'necessary' for fun. I spend the vast majority of my time with friends NOT drinking. Yeah, I do feel like I can control it - I don't find it hard to stop.
I don't know anyone who has suffered really serious consequences from drinking. I can guess how that stuff changes your views.