Perfect storm coming: I am desperate. Please help with advice....

[OHRoadwarrior]

You should really just quit before you dig yourself deeper and deeper into the hole.

You have already buried yourself. Please show us the medical report where dad was deemed mentally incompetent to conduct his own affairs. You are again letting your personal traumas affect your answers, with no basis of fact. Statistically dad could live without being put into a home for several years or being declared mentally incompetent. Please provide the statistics you think prove that wrong. All you need to do is go to Alz.org to find out I am correct. I think they have a bit more credibility than you do.

 

[>Charlotte<]

It is true, though, that in its early stages an Alzheimer's diagnosis does not necessarily equal incompetence. An early-stage patient can cope for years with only mild cognitive difficulties. My grandmother did. My father kept a discreetly close eye on her, but didn't really need to step in or curtail her independence for five years or so.

 

[LdiJ]

It is true, though, that in its early stages an Alzheimer's diagnosis does not necessarily equal incompetence. An early-stage patient can cope for years with only mild cognitive difficulties. My grandmother did. My father kept a discreetly close eye on her, but didn't really need to step in or curtail her independence for five years or so.

Its also true, that the mild stage can go very quickly, as it did in the case of my father. Within less than a year of diagnosis, he was not competent to care for himself. In this particular scenario, where dad lives in Canada, and his son lives in FL, keeping a "discrete eye" on dad is not possible. My beef with OHroadwarrior is that he automatically, without reading and without experience defined everything as greed.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Its also true, that the mild stage can go very quickly, as it did in the case of my father. Within less than a year of diagnosis, he was not competent to care for himself. In this particular scenario, where dad lives in Canada, and his son lives in FL, keeping a "discrete eye" on dad is not possible. My beef with OHroadwarrior is that he automatically, without reading and without experience defined everything as greed.

This is what I said, when you started hijacking the thread with incorrect information. Please tell me where I said anyone was being greedy at that point. What I said was why can't they leave dad alone. In case you cannot read, the plan is to have dad declared mentally incompetent, thrown in a nursing home in Canada, where no one will see him again and take his assets.


"Why can't everyone leave dad alone? He obviously has made his choices. He is not bothering anyone. If he gets bad enough they will forceably hospitalize him. Obviously no one has cared enough to go to Canada, disable the stove and help dad find an alternate arrangement to feed himself. Yet miraculously, they want to have him locked up and take control of his assets. "

 

[>Charlotte<]

Its also true, that the mild stage can go very quickly

Yes, that's true. For my grandmother's sister, it progressed extremely quickly if I recall correctly. I was just disagreeing with your comment that "dad is no longer capable of making his own choices". That could very well be, but it's not a given by any means.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Yes, that's true. For my grandmother's sister, it progressed extremely quickly if I recall correctly. I was just disagreeing with your comment that "dad is no longer capable of making his own choices". That could very well be, but it's not a given by any means.

If its any consolation, my uncle lasted about a decade. The autopsy concluded he had more damage from over using Viagra on all the middle age woman he ran with, than damage that was caused by the Alzheimer's.

 

[>Charlotte<]

If its any consolation, my uncle lasted about a decade. The autopsy concluded he had more damage from over using Viagra on all the middle age woman he ran with, than damage that was caused by the Alzheimer's.

If he could talk now I'll bet he'd say it was worth it!

My grandmother survived more than 10 years after her diagnosis, and then congestive heart failure got her.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

If he could talk now I'll bet he'd say it was worth it!

My grandmother survived more than 10 years after her diagnosis, and then congestive heart failure got her.

As pathetic as this sounds, we actually had to "work" with the coroner to reclaim my fathers remains, cremate them and bury then per his wishes, in secret. My sister had decided regardless of his wishes, she wanted a service so all her friends could come and pay respects to her. She was willing to allow his remains to lay unclaimed at the coroners until she was permitted to do so.