AmIUnreasonable
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What is the name of your state? Nevada
This may be long but I need to know how to proceed........
My exwife and I have been divorced since Feb 2003. We have both since remarried. Ever since our divorce I feel my ex wife has not worked with me on ANYTHING! In the beginning we would try to talk to one another about thing regarding out two girls (now 6 & 8) but we always had a he said/she said type aspect. We would agree to things and then she would lie and say we never talked about it or she never agreed. Or if I had a concern and asked her something she would always say "I'll think about it". Well, things began to get worse so I decided to start putting everything in writing and would always end things with "please respond in writing."
So a year ago I had an issue with wanting my monday morning pick up changed from 5:30 am to 7:30 am because I felt it was to early for them to get up. (they were not school aged and it seemed unfair to do that to kids) btw, we have joint physical custody where I have the kids m-thurs. So I sent a letter with my suggestion for a change. She immediately sent a letter with her suggestions for the change although she stated she didnt feel that 5:30 am was too early. (the girls would have to get up at at least 4:45 am). To make the matter simple I went with her suggestion in my next letter. Poof she ignored me. This went on and on for two more months!!!! Then in July 2004 I get a letter from Ins. company stating that my two girls were approved for visits to a therapist!!!! (recvd the letter on a Sat.) I figured it had to be a mistake. Monday I get the girls and they tell me and my wife that they went to talk to someone about "there life". I was so furious! I went to talk to the therapist who told me the girls were fine. So I continue writing letters asking my ex WHY!?!?!? She never answers and cancels the follow visit the girls had with the therapist. Finally in August - She finally sends a letter saying we can change monday mornings but doesnt want it filed. I insist and it happens. I still periodically ask her why she felt the need to take the kids to a therapist and she never once answers me almost like it never happened.
Unfortuatlly it feels to me now like even if I have concerns with her I cant write her a letter because it will only egg her on. I do have concerns with many things but have no idea how to tell her. Like the fact she only has the kids on fridays for school yet my youngest has missed on friday a month for the past five months.
Ok, so fast forward to 2005. Last week my wife is scanning through the caller id (she always does it after work) She notices the therapist number on our id. I look at the number and remember it as a call where someone rang twice and hung up. So we decide to call the insurance the next day and no referral was made. Im thinking, it must be a mistake! SO I call the doctors office. Later they call me back to say the girls have an appointment for that day at 2pm!!!!! AGAIN without telling me?!?!?!?!?!?!?! So my wife and I show up. yes there faces looked shocked. So we go in after the therapist talks to mom and step dad and then the girls. She asks why we are here. Well, my wife and I have NO idea. She says mom is concerned about one of my punishments (sent to bed without dinner) and that I have called my oldest fat. btw, the sent to bed without dinner was a one time thing and I NEVER called my oldest fat. My wife and I are very angry. AGAIN she is playing with the kids to hurt me; isnt this obvious???? So on the therapist advice she says to try and voice my own concerns with mom. I do so in a letter because I feel more comfortable with that.
So now heres the kicker. Two days out of my four days that I have the girls this week; her husband calls and wants to know if I will be taking the girls on Fathers day?!?!?! What?!?!?!?! I have always taken the girls on fathers day. Why wouldnt I??!!?!?! What kind of game is this to them????
Does anyone think a lawyer will do something?!?!?! Do you think I can obtain physical custody of the girls because of this bizzare behavior? I feel she is just using the girls to upset me. There a little tiny incidences but nothing as big as these! What do you think???
This may be long but I need to know how to proceed........
My exwife and I have been divorced since Feb 2003. We have both since remarried. Ever since our divorce I feel my ex wife has not worked with me on ANYTHING! In the beginning we would try to talk to one another about thing regarding out two girls (now 6 & 8) but we always had a he said/she said type aspect. We would agree to things and then she would lie and say we never talked about it or she never agreed. Or if I had a concern and asked her something she would always say "I'll think about it". Well, things began to get worse so I decided to start putting everything in writing and would always end things with "please respond in writing."
So a year ago I had an issue with wanting my monday morning pick up changed from 5:30 am to 7:30 am because I felt it was to early for them to get up. (they were not school aged and it seemed unfair to do that to kids) btw, we have joint physical custody where I have the kids m-thurs. So I sent a letter with my suggestion for a change. She immediately sent a letter with her suggestions for the change although she stated she didnt feel that 5:30 am was too early. (the girls would have to get up at at least 4:45 am). To make the matter simple I went with her suggestion in my next letter. Poof she ignored me. This went on and on for two more months!!!! Then in July 2004 I get a letter from Ins. company stating that my two girls were approved for visits to a therapist!!!! (recvd the letter on a Sat.) I figured it had to be a mistake. Monday I get the girls and they tell me and my wife that they went to talk to someone about "there life". I was so furious! I went to talk to the therapist who told me the girls were fine. So I continue writing letters asking my ex WHY!?!?!? She never answers and cancels the follow visit the girls had with the therapist. Finally in August - She finally sends a letter saying we can change monday mornings but doesnt want it filed. I insist and it happens. I still periodically ask her why she felt the need to take the kids to a therapist and she never once answers me almost like it never happened.
Unfortuatlly it feels to me now like even if I have concerns with her I cant write her a letter because it will only egg her on. I do have concerns with many things but have no idea how to tell her. Like the fact she only has the kids on fridays for school yet my youngest has missed on friday a month for the past five months.
Ok, so fast forward to 2005. Last week my wife is scanning through the caller id (she always does it after work) She notices the therapist number on our id. I look at the number and remember it as a call where someone rang twice and hung up. So we decide to call the insurance the next day and no referral was made. Im thinking, it must be a mistake! SO I call the doctors office. Later they call me back to say the girls have an appointment for that day at 2pm!!!!! AGAIN without telling me?!?!?!?!?!?!?! So my wife and I show up. yes there faces looked shocked. So we go in after the therapist talks to mom and step dad and then the girls. She asks why we are here. Well, my wife and I have NO idea. She says mom is concerned about one of my punishments (sent to bed without dinner) and that I have called my oldest fat. btw, the sent to bed without dinner was a one time thing and I NEVER called my oldest fat. My wife and I are very angry. AGAIN she is playing with the kids to hurt me; isnt this obvious???? So on the therapist advice she says to try and voice my own concerns with mom. I do so in a letter because I feel more comfortable with that.
So now heres the kicker. Two days out of my four days that I have the girls this week; her husband calls and wants to know if I will be taking the girls on Fathers day?!?!?! What?!?!?!?! I have always taken the girls on fathers day. Why wouldnt I??!!?!?! What kind of game is this to them????
Does anyone think a lawyer will do something?!?!?! Do you think I can obtain physical custody of the girls because of this bizzare behavior? I feel she is just using the girls to upset me. There a little tiny incidences but nothing as big as these! What do you think???