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Peaches24
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What is the name of your state? California
My ex and I lived in GA. I got divorced in 5/98. My ex husband got sole legal custody of our then 1yr old daughter. I was ordered to pay child support. I met my future husband 2yrs later in GA, he was in the army and then he finished serving his 3yrs. We moved to his home state(California) and have lived here ever since. According to my divorce papers I have mutually agreeable visitation rights, but my ex refuses to let me bring my daughter to California where I live for my visitation. I will pay for our plane tickets from GA to CA and to take her back to GA and for me to fly back to CA. He will not hear of it so the only way that I can visit her is if I go to GA,where I have no where to stay really.I haven't payed child support,but according to the law I have visitation rights regardless.I plan on paying child support and back child support as soon as I can.My visitation rights are as follows:
The Defendant (me) shall have the right to visit with said child at any time mutually agreeable to Plaintiff and Defendant. In addition, if the Plaintiff and Defendant cannot agree to visitation,then and in that event, the Defendant shall have the following specific rights to visit with said child1) On the first,third,and fifth weekends of each month between the hrs.6pm friday and 6pm on the following Sunday,commencing on the first Friday following the execution of this agreement. (2)For two weeks during the months of June,July and August of every year. Said weeks may be consecutive or separate at the option of Defendant,provided that the first day of such visitation shall not be before the laspe of 7 days following completion of the minor child's regular school year. (3) In each even # year the Defendant shall have the right to visit with the child for a period of 7 consecutive days beginning at 2pm on Dec.25 and ending at 6pm on Jan 1 of the next succeeding yr. On each odd # yr,Defendant have right to visit with child for a period of 7 days 6pm of Dec.18, ending 2pm Dec.25. (4)In each even 3 yr,I have right to visit with her on Valentine's Day,Labor Day. Odd 3 yr.I have child visit with me on Easter, Thanksgiving, Memorial Day. (5) On birthday of child in each even # yr. I have right to visit with child from noon or close of school day until 9pm unless B-Day falls on an otherwise regularly agreed upon visitation date for Defendant. On B-Day of child in each odd 3 yr. the Defendant shall be entitled to visit with child celebrating on B-Day from6:30pm to 8:30pm. The plaintiff agrees to inform the Defendant of following special occasions at least 24hr. in advance of B-Day parties,religious events,graduations,school openhouses,weddings,award ceremonies, and I have right to attend in any such occasion. I shall collect and return child for each visitation at or to Plaintiffs residence. All transportation expenses incident to exercise of visition rights shall be borne by the Defendant.(me)
He abides by none of these rules and he never has. He also told me after the divorce that I do not have to pay child support because I didn't make nearly as much money as him. I raised my daughter for the 1st yr of her life. I took care of her everyday. We seperated. I allowed him to visit her and he then snatched her and never gave her back. He got custody because he had a place for her to live, I didn't. He had a car and money, I didn't. My family took his side because they wanted me to stay with him and I didn't want to. I had no family support. He got custody because at the time he could provide for her better. I had no where to go except for my friends houses, from palce to place. I met a great man and moved with him to California because I love him and because I had nothing in GA. I had no choice but to move and start a new life, but I love my daughter and I miss her so much. Losing her was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever been through and the pain will never go away until I have her in my life. It takes lots of money to go back to court but I plan to. She is now 6 yrs old. He and his mom tell me to forget about her and go on with my life.When I call to talk to her, they will not let me. I sent her a letter and pictures of her baby bro and I and when I called to see if she got the package, his mom told me that she would not read her the letter.The letter just expressed my love for her and how much i want her to come and visit me in CAand how much I miss her.My ex mother in law said to forget about her because calling her and sending things to her just confuses her. I begged her to read the letter to her and show her, her new bro's pictures, she said absolutely not. I have an 8 month old with my fiance. My daughter and all of my family in Ga have never even met him yet. I'm so afraid that they are going to make her hate me and make her think that I abandoned her. They already told me that they will tell her that on top of lots and lots of other things. If anyone can give me advice about this huge issue I will greatly appreciate it and God will bless you for being a kind hearted person. Someone please help!!!!! I deperately need any advice on this... Thank You with all of my Heart!!!!!!
My ex and I lived in GA. I got divorced in 5/98. My ex husband got sole legal custody of our then 1yr old daughter. I was ordered to pay child support. I met my future husband 2yrs later in GA, he was in the army and then he finished serving his 3yrs. We moved to his home state(California) and have lived here ever since. According to my divorce papers I have mutually agreeable visitation rights, but my ex refuses to let me bring my daughter to California where I live for my visitation. I will pay for our plane tickets from GA to CA and to take her back to GA and for me to fly back to CA. He will not hear of it so the only way that I can visit her is if I go to GA,where I have no where to stay really.I haven't payed child support,but according to the law I have visitation rights regardless.I plan on paying child support and back child support as soon as I can.My visitation rights are as follows:
The Defendant (me) shall have the right to visit with said child at any time mutually agreeable to Plaintiff and Defendant. In addition, if the Plaintiff and Defendant cannot agree to visitation,then and in that event, the Defendant shall have the following specific rights to visit with said child1) On the first,third,and fifth weekends of each month between the hrs.6pm friday and 6pm on the following Sunday,commencing on the first Friday following the execution of this agreement. (2)For two weeks during the months of June,July and August of every year. Said weeks may be consecutive or separate at the option of Defendant,provided that the first day of such visitation shall not be before the laspe of 7 days following completion of the minor child's regular school year. (3) In each even # year the Defendant shall have the right to visit with the child for a period of 7 consecutive days beginning at 2pm on Dec.25 and ending at 6pm on Jan 1 of the next succeeding yr. On each odd # yr,Defendant have right to visit with child for a period of 7 days 6pm of Dec.18, ending 2pm Dec.25. (4)In each even 3 yr,I have right to visit with her on Valentine's Day,Labor Day. Odd 3 yr.I have child visit with me on Easter, Thanksgiving, Memorial Day. (5) On birthday of child in each even # yr. I have right to visit with child from noon or close of school day until 9pm unless B-Day falls on an otherwise regularly agreed upon visitation date for Defendant. On B-Day of child in each odd 3 yr. the Defendant shall be entitled to visit with child celebrating on B-Day from6:30pm to 8:30pm. The plaintiff agrees to inform the Defendant of following special occasions at least 24hr. in advance of B-Day parties,religious events,graduations,school openhouses,weddings,award ceremonies, and I have right to attend in any such occasion. I shall collect and return child for each visitation at or to Plaintiffs residence. All transportation expenses incident to exercise of visition rights shall be borne by the Defendant.(me)
He abides by none of these rules and he never has. He also told me after the divorce that I do not have to pay child support because I didn't make nearly as much money as him. I raised my daughter for the 1st yr of her life. I took care of her everyday. We seperated. I allowed him to visit her and he then snatched her and never gave her back. He got custody because he had a place for her to live, I didn't. He had a car and money, I didn't. My family took his side because they wanted me to stay with him and I didn't want to. I had no family support. He got custody because at the time he could provide for her better. I had no where to go except for my friends houses, from palce to place. I met a great man and moved with him to California because I love him and because I had nothing in GA. I had no choice but to move and start a new life, but I love my daughter and I miss her so much. Losing her was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever been through and the pain will never go away until I have her in my life. It takes lots of money to go back to court but I plan to. She is now 6 yrs old. He and his mom tell me to forget about her and go on with my life.When I call to talk to her, they will not let me. I sent her a letter and pictures of her baby bro and I and when I called to see if she got the package, his mom told me that she would not read her the letter.The letter just expressed my love for her and how much i want her to come and visit me in CAand how much I miss her.My ex mother in law said to forget about her because calling her and sending things to her just confuses her. I begged her to read the letter to her and show her, her new bro's pictures, she said absolutely not. I have an 8 month old with my fiance. My daughter and all of my family in Ga have never even met him yet. I'm so afraid that they are going to make her hate me and make her think that I abandoned her. They already told me that they will tell her that on top of lots and lots of other things. If anyone can give me advice about this huge issue I will greatly appreciate it and God will bless you for being a kind hearted person. Someone please help!!!!! I deperately need any advice on this... Thank You with all of my Heart!!!!!!