Just to play devil's advocate here...Honestly OP, no one should be expected to sign an AOP/BC without DNA testing. You know the child is yours, how else is he supposed to know?
Nope, sorry. My mother and I have last names. She reverted back to her maiden name after my parents divorced. Coming up NEVER did anyone make her prove she was my mother.It has zero effect on attachment. What it does have an effect on is daily personal business. The constant need to prove its your child, which tends not to get asked if the child has your same last name.
Because DAD should have SOME say in the naming of his child and other significant events. She herself said it... she's going to be dealing with the child in almost every other aspect of his life, make 1 concession then.Everyone keeps saying it doesn't matter if the name is changed... so why shouldn't it stay the same????
I totally agree!Nope, sorry. My mother and I have last names. She reverted back to her maiden name after my parents divorced. Coming up NEVER did anyone make her prove she was my mother.
My boys and I have different last names. NEVER has anyone asked me to prove I was their mother. Maybe once or twice with my oldest since he became mine via adoption and we were obviously kind of close in age, but with my biological child... NEVER ONCE has anyone asked me to prove my relationship to him.
My sister and her children have different last names. NEVER has she been asked to prove, nor has she felt compelled to prove she was the mother of her children.
My kid and his last name being different than mine (nor anyone else that I know) has had zero effect on conducting personal business.
Even if one were to argue the inconvenience angle -- and I agree with other posters that it is a minor inconvenience (if that) and easily remedied -- inconvenience to OP has aught to do with best interest of the child. And that, according to OP, is what she was hoping to prove.What it does have an effect on is daily personal business. The constant need to prove its your child, which tends not to get asked if the child has your same last name.
Thank you, Captain Obvious. Being a custodial parent, I didn't know that. Kind of like someone telling me I knew nothing about living in CA.In a single parent home, the CP usually spends MUCH more in the support of their child than the NCP, even with child support.
O/T And you would not believe how many people get ticked off when you do ask. We have a policy of asking for ID when a card is unsigned or has CID/Ask for ID written on it; signed cards, we spot check - especially if it's a large purchase. I have had my girls yelled at, cussed at, verbally abused for asking for an ID - even when the card asks us to ask for one. It's kind of unbelievable!I love it when people ask for ID when I use my credit card. That means they aren't letting any Joe Schmoe use my stolen cards to buy stuff.
That did kind of come off as "if he has to pay, he should get to play". I know you didn't mean it that way, but someone not knowing you better would have gotten that impression.Thank you, Captain Obvious. Being a custodial parent, I didn't know that. Kind of like someone telling me I knew nothing about living in CA.
And if I were an unmarried male, I would NOT sign a BC until proven father by a DNA test, either. It is completely valid for a man to NOT sign a BC until established as dad, and to want his child to also share his name.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
What are some pointers that I could possibly bring out to prove that my 6 week old son should continue to have my last name. Factors to consider are that Father was given an opportunity to sign birth certificate, but did not (I have written documentation to verify), Father resides in Atltanta, GA. I will be the one responsible for handling all the affairs of the child.
Any thoughts you have will help. I don't want to have to change my child's name when I gave the father the opportunity before i got all the affairs in order. Affairs like registereing for medical insurance, daycare, social security card, birth certificate.
Please Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You defied a court order. Stupid. You could have gotten screwed in court.I'm in Texas, and went to court with my son's dad when he was 2. I was ordered to change his name, although by that point, I had a SS Card, BC, Shot Records, Daycare Records, etc all in his birth name- which was MY last name.
I went through school with a different last name than my mother, and I never liked it.
My point in arguing against the name change was simply the fact that I knew his bio dad was not (and does not) have anything to do with my son, and has had no hand in raising him- why should MY son carry on the name of a family that he never sees, never sees him, and no one does anything FOR him? Why should HE have to go through school being asked "oh, you are related to the ******'s family?" when he knows already that yes, he is but no, he doesn't know them?
I argued against it, and they ordered me to change it anyway.
My boy is 15 1/2 and I've never changed it to this day, and still don't have any intention to. they can order you to do it, but the time/expense (y'all ever dealt with Social Security office? You ever try to even get a replacement card? Imagine trying to get a new card with a new name...what a nightmare) and the fact that my son isn't being raised by THEM, but by ME and MY family- THAT is the name he will have.
That's fine- it's not like the NCP ever gave a crap one way or the other to begin with- and wouldn't have- I'm sure him taking me to court over a NAME CHANGE wouldn't have looked to hot considering he owes me over 10,000 in arrears.You defied a court order. Stupid. You could have gotten screwed in court.