Scaredwife10
Junior Member
My husband has been a police officer for 20 years and he has cheated on me multiple times. I finally just accepted it and moved on. Lately, he has had an affair with a woman who he met apparently on a call. The story is that she and her boyfriend had a fight, he responded, he took her number for a report then started calling and texting her a few weeks after.
She has been seeing him a year, I had no idea she had been in my home when I was gone, he has had sex with her on duty, texts saying he loved her, texts of her saying it back, and there is evidence I have been told of text messages admitting these things, he texted her boyfriend that he was having an affair, with screen shots she had sent him, and she has evidence of him verbally abusing her, badly. Apparently he started being jealous and being incredibly verbally abusive, which he is, I have lived with it. I think even one night they had an argument, she said to take it out on me, not her, and we ended up with a bad fight.
She cut off all contact, contacted a domestic violence counselor, took her texts that apparently she had kept for months, and is now filing complaints with the department against my husband along with some lawyer and counselor. I also found out she is a victim of sex abuse and has bipolar, has been suicidal, and is on a lot of medications. She is not unhinged, but it seems she is really damaged.
My husband says that he probably wont get fired, but they have suspended him and the sex on duty part is what the department is upset over. And how he first met her.
Could this really make him lose his job? I think she is at fault, she knew he was married and she had sex with him. If he loses his job we will have no money. He said she may try to prosecute him. I cant get anything out of him...prosecute for what? Nothing was physical, he just verbally abused her except for some complaint he threw something at her and punched a wall.
She has been seeing him a year, I had no idea she had been in my home when I was gone, he has had sex with her on duty, texts saying he loved her, texts of her saying it back, and there is evidence I have been told of text messages admitting these things, he texted her boyfriend that he was having an affair, with screen shots she had sent him, and she has evidence of him verbally abusing her, badly. Apparently he started being jealous and being incredibly verbally abusive, which he is, I have lived with it. I think even one night they had an argument, she said to take it out on me, not her, and we ended up with a bad fight.
She cut off all contact, contacted a domestic violence counselor, took her texts that apparently she had kept for months, and is now filing complaints with the department against my husband along with some lawyer and counselor. I also found out she is a victim of sex abuse and has bipolar, has been suicidal, and is on a lot of medications. She is not unhinged, but it seems she is really damaged.
My husband says that he probably wont get fired, but they have suspended him and the sex on duty part is what the department is upset over. And how he first met her.
Could this really make him lose his job? I think she is at fault, she knew he was married and she had sex with him. If he loses his job we will have no money. He said she may try to prosecute him. I cant get anything out of him...prosecute for what? Nothing was physical, he just verbally abused her except for some complaint he threw something at her and punched a wall.