I made a mistake using two posts but I believed that they were two seperate things. My son did not play with the other children, his toys were there and the other kids tore them up in his absence. He came back and saw that they were tore up and had to be informed that the other kids did it. I am not maniputlating anyone here. The bio mom ended up in jail because my son is on K chip medical card and in order to have it we had to get her to pay child support, and when she did not pay the child support the state pressed charges of felony non support two charges. We were not even aware she was in jail till she called us. We did not force her to terminate, she was not even a part of his life for years. We did not tear him away from the bio gp, you know as a parent when your child is upset and when situations are not good for your child. The biogp visits were upsetting and hurtful to him. Why keep hurting him when he has been through enough.I am being brutefully honest here. I do not want smiley face answers but truthful. And I can get a restraining order, I did find out today. I do not have issues with bio mom except that I want to protect my son until he is old enough to grasp everything and right now is not the time. Bio mom has her own life and we have ours.