Just Blue
Senior Member
READ THIS! DO NOT POST AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE DONE READING!Why does it matter, I love my husband and no he didnt cheat . He knew her before me but that doesnt matter
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=387214
READ THIS! DO NOT POST AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE DONE READING!Why does it matter, I love my husband and no he didnt cheat . He knew her before me but that doesnt matter
Why does it matter, I love my husband and no he didnt cheat . He knew her before me but that doesnt matter
I apologize and will FOLLOW the rulesREAD THIS! DO NOT POST AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE DONE READING!
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=387214
Listen, I'm NOT trying to be mom! I'm just supporting my husband but I will not use WE again and I will only back off when neccessary. I pay his chil support so why cant I be involved. Yes, I pay it because he's currently in college full timeIt's nice that you believe in a two parent home.
You are NOT this child's parent, but, just for sake of your argument, let's "count" you as one..... suppose you die tomorrow? What lovely "2 parent home" should your step son be shipped off to live in? I mean if mommy isn't stable because she's not married, clearly daddy wouldn't be either, would he?
I'll be the first to say that if a child is lucky enough to have both parents happily married to each other, living under the same roof, its a good thing. But it's not the ONLY way to have a family. Just because daddy married you doesn't make him a better parent. In fact, if he's letting you interfere and possibly damage his son's relationship with mom, he's not doing such a great job.
A poster here, CJane, may not even read this since you chose to use "biomom" in your title, but she could tell you what happened when her ex's wife decided she was a "better mommy" to CJane's kids than Cjane.
IMO, it matters because you were mocking the stability of single mothers. yet you're with a man for less than a year, and are trying to control the situation between the MOTHER and FATHER (neither of which are you)
I take offense to this comment, I'm not a sugar momma, I'm his wife! wouldnt you support your husband? thats what better or for worse is all abouthe is ordered to pay child support. not you. you voluntarily chose to pay. you are not ordered by the court to pay HIS child support. it still gives you no legal standing. you are a sugar momma. that's all.
OP - I am a SINGLE mom. Yes, I have a live-in BF who pays for a large portion of the household expenses. We both work. We've talked about what his role would be when we get married. He did NOT like my answer - he would be NOTHING legally to my daughter. No matter what our opinion may be of her father, she still has one - and it won't be my BF.
And yes, my BF will tell my daughter, "didn't you hear what your mother tell you to do? You need to respect your mother." That is a role that you can take. It can be to support the position of your husband. But, it does NOT allow you to be the decision maker.
Babies can be sweet and cuddly. But this one is NOT yours. It already has a mother and father. If you want one to have both mommy and daddy in the same house, then have one of your own.
This mother is viewing your actions as trying to replace her. You want her to think of you as an ally who will support both hers and your husbands positions as mother and father. You can either help create more friction, or just back off and let them work it out themselves.
But earlier you said this:I dont know her and she really dont know me, it's just that she came out of nowhere saying that the chil is his (which it is).
So it was NOT out of nowhere. You can not use that as any excuse whatsoever. Dad KNEW. Maybe he didnt tell YOU about it. Thus, the issues you have with trusting him--they have NOTHING to do with Mom.My husband knew she was pregnant but left her because he wasn't sure it was his.
This is true dad did KNOW but I still dont know her and she still dont know me. We were never properly introduced.You are full of it because you say this:
But earlier you said this:
So it was NOT out of nowhere. You can not use that as any excuse whatsoever. Dad KNEW. Maybe he didnt tell YOU about it. Thus, the issues you have with trusting him--they have NOTHING to do with Mom.
So you think you should get some kind of rights because you are CHOOSING to pay your husbands bill. So by that theory any parents that are receiving Welfare should expect Joe and Daisy Taxpayer to have legal rights to their child...Listen, I'm NOT trying to be mom! I'm just supporting my husband but I will not use WE again and I will only back off when neccessary. I pay his chil support so why cant I be involved. Yes, I pay it because he's currently in college full time