Public displays of affection during custody dispute

[ceara19]

OP - You want a LEGAL answer to your question from an ATTORNEY. Here it is http://www.searchanattorney.com/faq/divorce_tx_faq.html#Divorce65

 

[panzertanker]

She fears that if seen in public (by someone that might know her estranged husband), holding hands with me, that the husband could use that against her in the custody hearings.

She has well founded fears.

She believes that she is not allowed to enter into a romantic relationship during the custody proceedings.

There is no LEGAL standing for this statement. However, it is not advisable.

Are her concerns valid?

Yes.

Can the husband use this innocent display of affection in any way against her in the custody dispute?

Yes.
Will it have any effect? Unknown.

 

[ceara19]

Will it have any effect? Unknown.

One of the effects may be that mom dumps his selfish ass when she LOSES her case because he can't manage to keep his paws to himself in public!

 

[BUrywater]

She has well founded fears.

There is no LEGAL standing for this statement. However, it is not advisable.


Yes.

Yes.
Will it have any effect? Unknown.

PANZERTANKER:

Thank you for your professional response. It is greatly appreciated.

 

[panzertanker]

PANZERTANKER:

Thank you for your professional response. It is greatly appreciated.

You are welcome. I hope you take my advice to heart and do not display any public affection until her divorce is final. The proof of "another man" can have damaging effects on her case. It gives EVERYONE a person to blame.

 

[casa]

I don't need help from emotional misfits or assumptive As*es. This are simple questions, directed at lawyers (as the website implies this service is offered here), which deserve simple legal answers.

I already know the answer to my own question, but my answer is not good enough. I have to show a certain 'someone' the responses from supposed professionals in the legal industry, that reinforce my argument.

I didn't realize this website is full of 'drama mamas' who's only purpose of existence is to attack strangers posing questions.

Its almost comical to think that this is a legal website, where one would expect to find professionals whom behave professionaly. Yet, as I read through the threads, I find pattern after pattern of emotional outburts from those that are responding.

>>>Why not make life easier and keep your hands off another guy's wife until she is legally NOT his wife?<<<
>>> Plus, did you ever stop to think that the rest of the world might not want to witness your foreplay?<<<
>>>There is no LAW that says she can't get all touchy, feely with you in front of a crowd<<<
>>>not who her next love interest is.<<<

Boy, these sure are high-professional standards, in response to a simple question regarding nothing more than 'holding hands'.

Or from other threads;

>>>I agree. After all, he's got two lunatics now, so changing lunatics in mid-stream won't confuse him too much.<<<
>>>There are plenty of women out there who are married to men with previous children, and they don't act like biatches<<<
>>>NO!!! If he decides to divorce her, she'll just come back HERE and want to know how to stick it to him in the divorce and ask if she can sue mom for "alienation of affection".<<<
>>Yeah, I just went back and reread. Okay, so OP is stupid and has comprehension problems. What else is new?<<<
>>>Drinking and driving, blowing a .15 does?! You really should care more about the safety of my family if I am on the same road as you.Grow Up already!<<<
>>>Just curious, are you an abusive drunk? Not that it would make it OK for mom to tell the child even if it IS true.<<<
>>>why are you asking? Are you the one getting a little on the side?<<<
>>>If you can't even bother to explain your situation, stop asking people here to waste their time. No one here is a mind reader. Give the details or go somewhere else for answers!<<<




Please, do this website a genuine service, and don't respond to a legal question unless you have a LEGAL answer. I really expected more from this service, and I surely WILL NEVER USE THIS SERVICE TO ACTUALLY LOCATE A LAWYER.

But, hey.. thanks for the legal advice.. it was extremely helpful. (rolls eyes)... Hopefully a REAL lawyer will step up to the plate and give me what I'm looking for; a boring, no-nonsense response with just the facts, and not Oprah on steroids.

The site is not ONLY attorneys. Many of us have had various experiences or have worked in Child Custody cases. I was a child advocate~ and I answered you the simplest way. There is NO specific LAW which dictates PDA in this situation (except public lewdness/indecency)...because in CA we have the 'Best Interest Standard' for children...Meaning if the parents can't work it out the case is turned over the courts to decide. The people deciding will be the Judge &/or a GAL &/or a CASA &/or Minor's Attonrey. These people WILL make a judgement re; how this rapid entrance into another relationship prior to resolving the marriage will effect the children.

Do you understand any of this?

 

[rmet4nzkx]

If you had true concern for her and the best interst of her children, you would not be here asking this question let alone insisting we give you the answer you want. WHat you have exhibited here in your posts is a very controlling and abusive personality, which is the last thing she and her children need during a custody battle, being supportive in an appropriate way is one thing but insisting on doing that which she has already informed you is not welcome for any reason is another. I suggest you appologise for your rude communications here and get some counseling before you embark on any serious personal relationship.

 

[ceara19]

If you had true concern for her and the best interst of her children, you would not be here asking this question let alone insisting we give you the answer you want. WHat you have exhibited here in your posts is a very controlling and abusive personality, which is the last thing she and her children need during a custody battle, being supportive in an appropriate way is one thing but insisting on doing that which she has already informed you is not welcome for any reason is another. I suggest you appologise for your rude communications here and get some counseling before you embark on any serious personal relationship.

Think he'll show her THIS reply?

 

[NeonSigns]

I bet your sorry you ever asked a question now, huh? There are so many cheap-shot replies on this forum it's pathetic! These people are not attorneys...they just play one on T.V.!
And the rest of the "none-legal" posters are just here to vent!

 

[fairisfair]

I bet your sorry you ever asked a question now, huh? There are so many cheap-shot replies on this forum it's pathetic! These people are not attorneys...they just play one on T.V.!
And the rest of the "none-legal" posters are just here to vent!

and you would be here. . . . why??

 

[panzertanker]

And the rest of the "none-legal" posters are just here to vent!

Since you have made 2 replies in the 2 days you have been here...AND neither of your replies were anything but degrading to other posters...

Sounds like it is YOU who is here to vent and waste space.

Go away troll....

 

[NeonSigns]

If you had true concern for her and the best interst of her children, you would not be here asking this question let alone insisting we give you the answer you want. WHat you have exhibited here in your posts is a very controlling and abusive personality, which is the last thing she and her children need during a custody battle, being supportive in an appropriate way is one thing but insisting on doing that which she has already informed you is not welcome for any reason is another. I suggest you appologise for your rude communications here and get some counseling before you embark on any serious personal relationship.

Good grief...use Spell Check or something! There are more grammatical errors in this statement than there are posters on this board!

 

[panzertanker]

Good grief...use Spell Check or something! There are more grammatical errors in this statement than there are posters on this board!

Kelly, go away. Don't you need to attend to your dogs???

 

[NeonSigns]

QUOTE=fairisfair]and you would be here. . . . why??[/QUOTE]
Merely for the entertainment...you people amuse me...and I have nothing better to do with my time.

 

[ezmarelda]

QUOTE=fairisfair]and you would be here. . . . why??

Merely for the entertainment...you people amuse me...and I have nothing better to do with my time.[/QUOTE]

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