Casa - Thanks for the info; one clarification, though - there has never been drugs involved that he or I are aware of, just her having sex while the child is around (in the same room on at least one occasion). We weren't sure even about that part of it until the child said something about it to him the last time they spoke. And then he was like, I'm going to get my kid. Which is when I came on here to research CA law because at this point he's putting in 14 hour days, i'm working only 8 hour days so i have more time to research.
His hope at this point is that he will at least get to have Lexie at Christmas and thru the summers, it's not nearly as much as he would like but it's better than right now, which is not seeing her at all. Based on what we have found out through here, he's thinking about going ahead and filing here in Texas, but for JOINT custody, not sole custody, because he wants to be involved in medical and educational decisions regarding Lexie. As for my part, i plan not to attend court at all. My place is unconditional love and support for both him and Lexie and I can accomplish that without walking into court with a bullseye painted on.
Believe me, i do not want to be in the middle of this. My marriage went for 10 years with my husband's ex-girlfriend denying him access to their child (they broke up a good 2 years before he & i got married) and using me as the reason. Not thrilled AT ALL about being in this situation again. But when you fall in love, you take the entire package of that person, not just the good or easy parts.
Whatever comes of this, his goal, and mine too, is to have a happy and healthy little girl in our lives, preferably with us but if the court says she stays with her mom we'll make the best of it and spend as much time with her as we can.
To all who have responded - thanks for the legal pointers you have shared.
To those of you who took the opportunity to run me down and be hateful, I can only say that yes, this is a screwed up situation, I would not wish this on anyone. Being mocking or rude does not help, the only thing it does is shed light on a mean spirit. I hope and pray that none of you find yourselves or loved ones going through this, it is definitely not easy nor fun, and the pain is compounded by those who would sit in moral judgement. Which is why I started this thread trying to maintain a little anonymity and therefore a little dignity, but evidently that backfired.
God bless.
His hope at this point is that he will at least get to have Lexie at Christmas and thru the summers, it's not nearly as much as he would like but it's better than right now, which is not seeing her at all. Based on what we have found out through here, he's thinking about going ahead and filing here in Texas, but for JOINT custody, not sole custody, because he wants to be involved in medical and educational decisions regarding Lexie. As for my part, i plan not to attend court at all. My place is unconditional love and support for both him and Lexie and I can accomplish that without walking into court with a bullseye painted on.
Believe me, i do not want to be in the middle of this. My marriage went for 10 years with my husband's ex-girlfriend denying him access to their child (they broke up a good 2 years before he & i got married) and using me as the reason. Not thrilled AT ALL about being in this situation again. But when you fall in love, you take the entire package of that person, not just the good or easy parts.
Whatever comes of this, his goal, and mine too, is to have a happy and healthy little girl in our lives, preferably with us but if the court says she stays with her mom we'll make the best of it and spend as much time with her as we can.
To all who have responded - thanks for the legal pointers you have shared.
To those of you who took the opportunity to run me down and be hateful, I can only say that yes, this is a screwed up situation, I would not wish this on anyone. Being mocking or rude does not help, the only thing it does is shed light on a mean spirit. I hope and pray that none of you find yourselves or loved ones going through this, it is definitely not easy nor fun, and the pain is compounded by those who would sit in moral judgement. Which is why I started this thread trying to maintain a little anonymity and therefore a little dignity, but evidently that backfired.
God bless.
