Question regarding CS review

[AHA]

Ummmm, some people have experience in OH and know what is typical/usual of the courts and their procedures. Fortunately for me, I haven't ever had to go through nasty court proceedings, changes in circumstances, etc. Our lives since the divorce have been relatively normal and amicable. My X has more than doubled his income and I haven't even THOUGHT about having CS reviewd b/c I don't care about the $. As long as he is in my daughter's life and being a good father (which he has) and giving her what she deserves as his child, that is all that I ask. If you aren't one of those people that has experience in what I was asking about, I certainly don't want to waste your time in responding to me.

Oh, and I have been researching on the internet on every freaking website you could imagine. I'm sure you can understand that since the NCP in my situation has decided to get a hair up his a$$ and threaten the only damn thing that matters in my life, it consumes just about every second of every day for me. Its all I worry about non-stop. So forgive me if I ask questions that you or others might think are annoying. I'm just trying to get some insight and put my mind at ease. Usually I just read posts, I don't really respond or start my own threads. Your type of response is why.

If both parents are taking good care of the child, then at least shared custody should be the perfect solution for the child.

 

[fairisfair]

That's actually one of the nicer things I've been called today.

somebody called IAAL a pompous ass yesterday, I thought that was VERY nice!

 

[kik1999]

Or it could be something completely unrelated to the ex. Maybe she's being sued by a neighbor or a bill collector!

OOPS! I just gave the OP even MORE to worry about. She might not be able to get any work done.

Very doubtful. I pay all my bills and get along well with others. I, myself, am a very matter-of-fact person and people used to take me to be harsh when I explain something that is rather simple and easy for ME to understand (aka MY expertise on a subject). However, instead of making a person feel stupid, I try to empathize. We can't all be subject experts on EVERYTHING.

Obviously I do have patience....I didn't take off work to get the damn thing. It was simply curiosity. And the fact that I haven't been through this and am rather naive on the subject...well, I'd take that and any insults that come along with it ANY day over the alternative.

 

[Ithildriel]

Oh come on...

The Great Karnak bit was funny damn it!


http://www.papineaufamily.com/paul/Holidays/Egypt/karnak.htm

 

[kik1999]

If both parents are taking good care of the child, then at least shared custody should be the perfect solution for the child.

I couldn't agree more. But what my X is requesting has already been outlined as an extremely bad idea based on our circumstances. And not by just my opinion. I have seen several Sr. members here rip apart what he "suggesting" be the parenting plan.

 

[stealth2]

Very doubtful. I pay all my bills and get along well with others. I, myself, am a very matter-of-fact person and people used to take me to be harsh when I explain something that is rather simple and easy for ME to understand (aka MY expertise on a subject). However, instead of making a person feel stupid, I try to empathize. We can't all be subject experts on EVERYTHING.

LOL Pot, meet kettle.

 

[AHA]

I couldn't agree more. But what my X is requesting has already been outlined as an extremely bad idea based on our circumstances. And not by just my opinion. I have seen several Sr. members here rip apart what he "suggesting" be the parenting plan.

Unless daddy can prove that you are an unfit mother, no court is going to take custody away from you. But if dad is such a good dad as you claim, then you should be very willing, to the court, to share custody. Jst because he wants to make a fuss, offer a reasonable solution that you are willing to cooperate in the parenting of the kid.

 

[mom22boyz]

What county are you in? My husband requested the modification packet from the CSEA last Fall and it came via regular mail with the return address clearly stating it was from the CSEA. We are in Summit County, OH. Also, you could call your CSEA rep and ask if you are really worried about it. I know my husbands had to speak with a Mod worker as opposed to his regular rep, but your rep should be able to answer any of your questions or refer you to someone who can help.

Good luck.

 

[fairisfair]

The Great Karnak bit was funny damn it!


http://www.papineaufamily.com/paul/Holidays/Egypt/karnak.htm

I thought it was funny too, and just my two cents, but I think that curiosity as to what the piece of mail is, may be playing second fiddle to the desire to avoid service of what it might be. By the way OP, we aren't the ones sending you certified mail, you might want to back off a bit.

 

[ceara19]

Very doubtful. I pay all my bills and get along well with others. I, myself, am a very matter-of-fact person and people used to take me to be harsh when I explain something that is rather simple and easy for ME to understand (aka MY expertise on a subject). However, instead of making a person feel stupid, I try to empathize. We can't all be subject experts on EVERYTHING.

Obviously I do have patience....I didn't take off work to get the damn thing. It was simply curiosity. And the fact that I haven't been through this and am rather naive on the subject...well, I'd take that and any insults that come along with it ANY day over the alternative.

Hon, I pay MY bills on time too, but it didn't stop me from receiving a court summons by a bill collector over a debt that was incurred by my ex AFTER I filed for a divorce and AFTER I proved repeatedly that I was in no way responsible for the debt! The case was dismissed, but I still had to deal with it.

 

[eme76]

The Great Karnak bit was funny damn it!


http://www.papineaufamily.com/paul/Holidays/Egypt/karnak.htm

i thought so

 

[kik1999]

Unless daddy can prove that you are an unfit mother, no court is going to take custody away from you. But if dad is such a good dad as you claim, then you should be very willing, to the court, to share custody. Jst because he wants to make a fuss, offer a reasonable solution that you are willing to cooperate in the parenting of the kid.

Thank you AHA for your reply. You are right. I have tried. Basically he has become money motivated. He realized more time w/kiddo, less CS. He's proposing one week at his house, one week at mine. Fine if we lived close to each other. We live about 45 miles apart (oh, and I actually just moved CLOSER to him). She's 7. Not such a great idea IMO, but I know, my opinion doesn't mean squat. I've said this before and I truly mean it. I would gladly give up CS if it meant her not having to live her life like this. If we were in the same school district, that would be one thing. But that is almost a two hour trip everyday for her. Not fair in my opinion to do that to ANY child. And not once has he mentioned that it would be in her best interest.

You see (now you've really got me venting!), he just recently started having this attitude a/b CS. I bought a new home in June and the jealousy has been overwhelming from his wife and himself. Now their theory is that she shouldn't be raised by a single parent. That since he is remarried, he could provide her a better life than I could as a single parent (why they didn't think of that 3 years ago when they got married is beyond me). The wife always makes snide remarks about my car or my "overpriced" house, etc. Not sure what the big deal is. I work hard for my money and it isn't even that much! Anyways, since then it has gone slowly downhill and its always about money. So he figured more time = less money.

I'm just terribly sad that it has all had to come to this. We had such a good thing going, for my daughter's sake.

 

[kik1999]

What county are you in? My husband requested the modification packet from the CSEA last Fall and it came via regular mail with the return address clearly stating it was from the CSEA. We are in Summit County, OH. Also, you could call your CSEA rep and ask if you are really worried about it. I know my husbands had to speak with a Mod worker as opposed to his regular rep, but your rep should be able to answer any of your questions or refer you to someone who can help.

Good luck.

Franklin County

If I don't receive it when I come home from work, I'll call the case worker in the morning. I have a couple of other questions regarding the review for CS that I'd like to ask about anyways.

Thanks for the well wishes.

 

[kik1999]

I thought it was funny too, and just my two cents, but I think that curiosity as to what the piece of mail is, may be playing second fiddle to the desire to avoid service of what it might be. By the way OP, we aren't the ones sending you certified mail, you might want to back off a bit.

I signed the receipt and left it in my mailbox requesting delivery ASAP. How is that avoiding service? You can't hide from these things. Well you can, but I'm trying to maintain a normal life. I actually want to go to court now. There are some things that need to be changed (i.e. I have sole legal and physical, I'd like to change it to joint legal, etc.). And BTW, all the things that I want to change, are mostly in HIS favor for the benefit of OUR daughter. I don't want kudos for doing what a parent should do. He helped create her, he should have equal rights and right now, he doesn't.

The one thing that I will fight tooth and nail is that awful visitation schedule.

 

[kik1999]

Hon, I pay MY bills on time too, but it didn't stop me from receiving a court summons by a bill collector over a debt that was incurred by my ex AFTER I filed for a divorce and AFTER I proved repeatedly that I was in no way responsible for the debt! The case was dismissed, but I still had to deal with it.

Hopefully that won't happen as we've been divorced for 6 years now. However, it did cross my mind that it was something else, trust me. Jury duty was one that came to mind. But given the situations that have been going on b/t him and I, I'm pretty certain it pertains to custody/cs.