Well, if she cancelled on him when it was his holiday she would be in contempt since court order stated that they alternate holidays. Your situation sounds exactly like mine. When my ex still lived in TN I could see the children any time I wanted. Now that he is married and moved out of state, I am lucky to see them. My attorney is in the process of trying to change custody. However, until a parenting plan is in place my ex is to follow the current order. Has your husband and his ex created a new parenting plan?
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Oh yes they have. He took her to court the first time over the first move in November of 2004 and it ended in February of 2005 and then he took her to court in June of 2005 over the second move and it ended in August of 2005. Now they have a new order and so far it is going okay. They have little issues every now and then like for example he was 20 minutes late getting his son back on one of his last visits and then for the next visit she brought him back 23 minutes late and my husband even told her he got hung behind a man pulling a boat just little things like that he tries to just over look them so that it don't cause a mess. Just the other day we picked him up and she had taped a note to the child that said Daddy and Granny I need $52.00 for a book fair my total is $104.00 so in other words pay half and we did but she is still spiteful to him. The school even asked her to deliver packages of pictures to us and she told them no she wasn't comfortable with it I told my husband that everyone will see how she is just to sit back and relax.
Oh yes they have. He took her to court the first time over the first move in November of 2004 and it ended in February of 2005 and then he took her to court in June of 2005 over the second move and it ended in August of 2005. Now they have a new order and so far it is going okay. They have little issues every now and then like for example he was 20 minutes late getting his son back on one of his last visits and then for the next visit she brought him back 23 minutes late and my husband even told her he got hung behind a man pulling a boat just little things like that he tries to just over look them so that it don't cause a mess. Just the other day we picked him up and she had taped a note to the child that said Daddy and Granny I need $52.00 for a book fair my total is $104.00 so in other words pay half and we did but she is still spiteful to him. The school even asked her to deliver packages of pictures to us and she told them no she wasn't comfortable with it I told my husband that everyone will see how she is just to sit back and relax.
Huh?
Mom made dad pay for half of a book fair? Is it in the court order that he pay for half of stuff like that? It seems to me that if mom ordered the books that mom should be paying the full amount not her pay half and dad pay half. The fact that she won't even give dad a package of school pictures is somewhat stupid too. How long have dad and mom been divorced? It seems as if mom is holding some deep anger for dad for some reason.
Mom made dad pay for half of a book fair? Is it in the court order that he pay for half of stuff like that? It seems to me that if mom ordered the books that mom should be paying the full amount not her pay half and dad pay half. The fact that she won't even give dad a package of school pictures is somewhat stupid too. How long have dad and mom been divorced? It seems as if mom is holding some deep anger for dad for some reason.
Let me explain
No it's not in the court order for him to pay any extra's. He pays $50.00 a week in child support but he tries his best to help pay for other things. Mom had told the son to write the note in which he did and she told him if he wrote it and begged his dad that dad would pay for it well the child was so worked up I paid for it because my husband currently has no income from an auto accident but my husband told her husband when he picked up the child tell her that this is not acceptable to next time call me and ask me about this first don't put the child in the middle and get him so worked up. We pay for many extra's clothes, shoes, he has a whold closet at our house and toys she won't accept none of it she used to but not no more. They were dating for about a month she got pregnant and then they stayed together about another 9 months then they split up.
No it's not in the court order for him to pay any extra's. He pays $50.00 a week in child support but he tries his best to help pay for other things. Mom had told the son to write the note in which he did and she told him if he wrote it and begged his dad that dad would pay for it well the child was so worked up I paid for it because my husband currently has no income from an auto accident but my husband told her husband when he picked up the child tell her that this is not acceptable to next time call me and ask me about this first don't put the child in the middle and get him so worked up. We pay for many extra's clothes, shoes, he has a whold closet at our house and toys she won't accept none of it she used to but not no more. They were dating for about a month she got pregnant and then they stayed together about another 9 months then they split up.
well dad can easily contact the school and find the school photog and get his own copies of pictures, for future reference.
and don't pay any more book fair junk, if dad wants kiddo to have a particular reading material he can buy it himself, but $104 at the book fair? insane!
and mom taping the note to the kid?!?!?
there is not even a word.....
and don't pay any more book fair junk, if dad wants kiddo to have a particular reading material he can buy it himself, but $104 at the book fair? insane!
and mom taping the note to the kid?!?!?
there is not even a word.....I agree
The way I see it on the pictures and other school info, dad can call and ask for an order form for the pictures and buy the package that is the cheapest for him. He shouldn't have to depend on mom to get him the pictures. As for the mom making the son write the note, that is just so wrong. Mom has a lot of hatred towards dad and she needs to let it go and get on with her life as dad has gotten on with his. Mom does not need to put the son in the middle of whatever problems she has with dad. Has dad tried to talk to mom about using their son as a pawn in a game she doesn't need to?
The way I see it on the pictures and other school info, dad can call and ask for an order form for the pictures and buy the package that is the cheapest for him. He shouldn't have to depend on mom to get him the pictures. As for the mom making the son write the note, that is just so wrong. Mom has a lot of hatred towards dad and she needs to let it go and get on with her life as dad has gotten on with his. Mom does not need to put the son in the middle of whatever problems she has with dad. Has dad tried to talk to mom about using their son as a pawn in a game she doesn't need to?
Oh yes
Yes he called the school I sent the money because pictures are prepaid and they are going to send them back. He told the school she would not do the pictures but they asked her anyways and they found out for themselves he was telling the truth. He called his son's teacher and told her he sent $52.00 for the book fair she said that was great but she did not know nothing about it because they done it in the Library. His son said he got his books and they were boring lol he is just six years old in 1st grade.
Yes he called the school I sent the money because pictures are prepaid and they are going to send them back. He told the school she would not do the pictures but they asked her anyways and they found out for themselves he was telling the truth. He called his son's teacher and told her he sent $52.00 for the book fair she said that was great but she did not know nothing about it because they done it in the Library. His son said he got his books and they were boring lol he is just six years old in 1st grade.
talking
He has told her before this last time to please just ask him, but she has said that their son is old enough that if he needs something he should have to ask for it himself if he wants extras. She also said they didn't need anything from my husband a few weeks ago but yet she needed this book money and when my husband said something to her husband he did not even know what he was talking about lol he looked confused so she is playing everyone.
He has told her before this last time to please just ask him, but she has said that their son is old enough that if he needs something he should have to ask for it himself if he wants extras. She also said they didn't need anything from my husband a few weeks ago but yet she needed this book money and when my husband said something to her husband he did not even know what he was talking about lol he looked confused so she is playing everyone.
Mom is sounding more pathetic every time I read this. And SD seems that way too. Tell dad that if mom does that again that she gets paid support to help with any extras and to use that money to go toward the book fair. It sounds like to me taht mom is trying to control everything from how much dad gets to see his son to what she deems dad needs to pay.
books
Well his son said he picked out books like pokemon, yu-gi-oh, batman that kind of stuff but he got them and said they were boring lol. He asked for a reciept for the books but never got a response to that. About the support he tried to explain to his son about that and what it was for but the son said his mom said that was gas money to take him to see his dad and grocery money. She does try to control everything when I first got with my husband she used to cancel on him all the time and boss him around pay this pay that just run him over I told him he didn't have to put up with that and that's when he put his foot down and took her to court twice I think that's why she dislikes me so much but I love my husband and we have a child and I was not going to let her act and treat my family that way she had to know that he was as much a parent to that child as she was not just money bags for her. I paid for his lawyers and I have paid his child support since March when he had a bad auto accident she knows I do too so I am not against her trying to make things hard it's just everybody needs to respect everybody and act like adults. I know i've been told so many times stay out of it but I love my husband and that child and would do anything for either of them and when they need help I help like with the money.
Well his son said he picked out books like pokemon, yu-gi-oh, batman that kind of stuff but he got them and said they were boring lol. He asked for a reciept for the books but never got a response to that. About the support he tried to explain to his son about that and what it was for but the son said his mom said that was gas money to take him to see his dad and grocery money. She does try to control everything when I first got with my husband she used to cancel on him all the time and boss him around pay this pay that just run him over I told him he didn't have to put up with that and that's when he put his foot down and took her to court twice I think that's why she dislikes me so much but I love my husband and we have a child and I was not going to let her act and treat my family that way she had to know that he was as much a parent to that child as she was not just money bags for her. I paid for his lawyers and I have paid his child support since March when he had a bad auto accident she knows I do too so I am not against her trying to make things hard it's just everybody needs to respect everybody and act like adults. I know i've been told so many times stay out of it but I love my husband and that child and would do anything for either of them and when they need help I help like with the money.
Know what you mean
I understand. You don't want to see your husband or your step son hurting but what mom is doing is wrong. You are right, everyone needs to grow up and act like adults. Your husband has taken the high road and is being mature but there is only so much he can take seeing his son hurting like that. Isn't nice to know that in the great state of TN we as the NCP have no right to know how the child support that we pay a month is being used. I truly think that should be changed. I think that the CP should be held accountable for what they use the child support for. It would kill me to know that CP is using money in any other way other than taking care of the child(ren). It seems to me if mom works and she is remarried and the SD works that they would have enough money in between them to pay for groceries and gas and use the CS for taking care of son.
I understand. You don't want to see your husband or your step son hurting but what mom is doing is wrong. You are right, everyone needs to grow up and act like adults. Your husband has taken the high road and is being mature but there is only so much he can take seeing his son hurting like that. Isn't nice to know that in the great state of TN we as the NCP have no right to know how the child support that we pay a month is being used. I truly think that should be changed. I think that the CP should be held accountable for what they use the child support for. It would kill me to know that CP is using money in any other way other than taking care of the child(ren). It seems to me if mom works and she is remarried and the SD works that they would have enough money in between them to pay for groceries and gas and use the CS for taking care of son.
sorry wannacry lol
Well Mom currently does not work she is expecting anytime. Her husband is an inactive reserve he works on helicopters for the military he was transferred to ky from clarksville tn this year they just got a new house it is real nice it just got done being built they were actually still working on the yard when they moved in. I'm glad they are doing good though they were in a crummy apartment with no yard I am glad that his son has a yard and stuff he can play in now.
Well Mom currently does not work she is expecting anytime. Her husband is an inactive reserve he works on helicopters for the military he was transferred to ky from clarksville tn this year they just got a new house it is real nice it just got done being built they were actually still working on the yard when they moved in. I'm glad they are doing good though they were in a crummy apartment with no yard I am glad that his son has a yard and stuff he can play in now.
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