Question

[summerdawn]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

If I post that dad is a registered sex offender on a public website, that is not slander because it is truth right?

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca

If I post that dad is a registered sex offender on a public website, that is not slander because it is truth right?

SUMMER! Why are you doing this? Why? You love the drama don't you? Please -- leave the drama to someone else's mama. NOT your children's. THIS IS THEIR FATHER!

Oh and if true it would not be slander (which is oral) or libel (which is the printed word) but jeez girl. That is NOT going to help with the situation.

 

[summerdawn]

UGH! I was going to write an anonymous review of the MIL's mediation/paralgeal service and I found this written by SM:

09/09/08
I im currently a client of R's, she did not refer me to iny one, but instead she took on my case and won my husband and I joint legal custdody of his three kids, and before we hired her, we werent able to even see them, but now we have them two days a week, its great we are so thankful for R's help, my Husband is finally able to get to know his girls and vise versa. We have retaned her service again for child support modification and we are resting easy because we know she'll help us like she did before and she even knocked off $50 because we were reterning cleints. she is easy to talk to, she has a way of explaning legal jargin, and you can tell she cares. THANK YOU R!!!

SO *I* want to write THIS:
04/10/09
The above review was written by R's daughter (J), and is hardly an unbiased opinion. I am sure that she knocked quite a BIT of money off for her own daughter and her REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER son in law. There was a REASON he was not allowed to see his children. One of the attorneys that works in the offices within happens to be R's brother. By the way, she didn't "win" joint legal custody for J, J is merely a third party who tries too hard to get involved-so hard, in fact, that she has had the police called on her by the children's mom because she was acting in a physically threatening manner. The father is the only one with rights here. If R knows so much about legal things, she should explain to her child that she has no rights to dad's children.

I should leave it alone then huh? It makes me SOOOOO mad that SM and MIL keep calling my house and trying to email me!!!

 

[summerdawn]

SUMMER! Why are you doing this? Why? You love the drama don't you? Please -- leave the drama to someone else's mama. NOT your children's. THIS IS THEIR FATHER!

Oh and if true it would not be slander (which is oral) or libel (which is the printed word) but jeez girl. That is NOT going to help with the situation.

I know, but neither is them calling and emailing and threatening to call CPS and all kinds of stuff. I'm not even answering my stupid phone because of all this and i'm feeling SO stressed out and angry.

Last time when I went to court and told the mediator that I thought J was trying to take over everything she just blew me off and said J was merely "excited to be a wonderful stepmother to my children". I really worry that the courts won't put an end to this.

My 6 yo told me last night that SM "plays a game with them where they have to call her mommy." :\

 

[CourtClerk]

You know what? You need 4 hobbies, one needs to be spending every waking moment trying to become a better parent. Let the other 3 be something that will take up the rest of your time. Really, with all these darn kids you have, it amazes me you have such extra time for all the bulls***. I don't have nearly as much time and I only have 1 minor child at home.

Honestly. But keep it going. I appreciate you funding my job and my shopping habit. This is absolutely sickening. Not that it means anything, but you and your behavior just disgust me - just remember, you will continue to reap what you sow. If you ever wonder why you keep getting what you have, look in the mirror.

 

[Isis1]

summer!!!

come on now honey!! don't go over to the dark side!! YOU know better than that!!! it's HARD. I KNOW!! but you HAVE to be the bigger person. you are giving more ammo for crazy lady to talk bad about you in front of the kids!! you want everything that woman says about you a lie! let them drown themselves!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

I know, but neither is them calling and emailing and threatening to call CPS and all kinds of stuff. I'm not even answering my stupid phone because of all this and i'm feeling SO stressed out and angry.

Last time when I went to court and told the mediator that I thought J was trying to take over everything she just blew me off and said J was merely "excited to be a wonderful stepmother to my children". I really worry that the courts won't put an end to this.

My 6 yo told me last night that SM "plays a game with them where they have to call her mommy." :\

Let the pettiness in public go and just take notes. Go back for a third party restraining order. If you have one, take ex back for contempt.

 

[summerdawn]

Seriously, how come they can PUSH and PUSH and PUSH and I am NEVER supposed to finally snap?? I am ONLY HUMAN and they are walking all over me even AFTER I have asserted myself. If the courts don't do something about it I am seriously going to go mad.

My kids come home from school and I wonder if anyone went to talk to them-someone knocks on the door and I wonder if it is child services. I hear about them calling her mom playing this stupid "game". I am totally on pins and needles and I feel like they are trying to make me lose it just so that they can say that i'm crazy. It's JUST how he was when we were together. I broke away from him and now it's not just him, it's his wacko wife and MIL too.

I know I have nothing to hide, I am a good mother whether anyone on this stupid forum thinks so or not. It STILL doesn't make this any easier. It's stressing me out. I feel SO frustrated. He has a darn attorney and I don't he has a paralegal filing whatever he wants at SM's whim. This is ridiculous.

 

[Isis1]

Seriously, how come they can PUSH and PUSH and PUSH and I am NEVER supposed to finally snap?? I am ONLY HUMAN and they are walking all over me even AFTER I have asserted myself. If the courts don't do something about it I am seriously going to go mad.

My kids come home from school and I wonder if anyone went to talk to them-someone knocks on the door and I wonder if it is child services. I hear about them calling her mom playing this stupid "game". I am totally on pins and needles and I feel like they are trying to make me lose it just so that they can say that i'm crazy. It's JUST how he was when we were together. I broke away from him and now it's not just him, it's his wacko wife and MIL too.

I know I have nothing to hide, I am a good mother whether anyone on this stupid forum thinks so or not. It STILL doesn't make this any easier. It's stressing me out. I feel SO frustrated. He has a darn attorney and I don't he has a paralegal filing whatever he wants at SM's whim. This is ridiculous.

when they push, you MOVE out of the way. there's no need to break. you can stand your ground without playing their game. it takes patience. let karma handle it's job. it's a process, summer. you have to let the process ride itself out.

 

[summerdawn]

Let the pettiness in public go and just take notes. Go back for a third party restraining order. If you have one, take ex back for contempt.

I don't have one yet, I am going to address the third party issues in mediation. I am asking that SM not be allowed at do/pu but I don't know if they will grant it. I have court in a month and I am feeling really upset.

I know you guys hate when we put down our children's other parent, but I wish so badly that I had seen this forum before having children with this man.

I have to go to mediation, and my 7yo has been telling me that daddy has been drinking. I am not allowed ex parte communication with the mediator, and if I say it in front of dad it could make her a target for his anger. Anything we don't agree on in mediation will probably be taken on by his lawyer, and how am I equipped to deal with fighting against a trained attorney? I almost feel defeated before I have even walked into the courtroom.

I need to keep my children safe, and I worry that I won't be able to.

 

[CourtClerk]

Seriously, how come they can PUSH and PUSH and PUSH and I am NEVER supposed to finally snap?? I am ONLY HUMAN and they are walking all over me even AFTER I have asserted myself. If the courts don't do something about it I am seriously going to go mad.

My kids come home from school and I wonder if anyone went to talk to them-someone knocks on the door and I wonder if it is child services. I hear about them calling her mom playing this stupid "game". I am totally on pins and needles and I feel like they are trying to make me lose it just so that they can say that i'm crazy. It's JUST how he was when we were together. I broke away from him and now it's not just him, it's his wacko wife and MIL too.

I know I have nothing to hide, I am a good mother whether anyone on this stupid forum thinks so or not. It STILL doesn't make this any easier. It's stressing me out. I feel SO frustrated. He has a darn attorney and I don't he has a paralegal filing whatever he wants at SM's whim. This is ridiculous.

You need therapy. Go get some.

 

[CourtClerk]

I know you guys hate when we put down our children's other parent, but I wish so badly that I had seen this forum before having children with this man.

You didn't need this forum, all you needed was what everyone needed. To use a little common sense and think with your HEAD as opposed to not thinking at all.

 

[summerdawn]

You didn't need this forum, all you needed was what everyone needed. To use a little common sense and think with your HEAD as opposed to not thinking at all.

If I had read about all of the people that thought their mate would have changed maybe it would have been an eye opener.

And you may think I need therapy or whatever, but I was FINE before these people started screwing with me. I love how you like to constantly make everything out to be my fault. I'm not saying I haven't done some stupid things but it's not ALL me.

 

[CourtClerk]

If I had read about all of the people that thought their mate would have changed maybe it would have been an eye opener.

You knew/saw no one else who has been there, done that? Correct me if i'm wrong, but these aren't your oldest children.... you YOURSELF had already been there and done that. Come on, now.

And you may think I need therapy or whatever, but I was FINE before these people started screwing with me.

I don't even know you personally and can tell you by reading ALL of your posts, this statement is FAR from the truth.

I love how you like to constantly make everything out to be my fault. I'm not saying I haven't done some stupid things but it's not ALL me.

The ONLY person in this world who can control what you do, what you think, who you are and the position you are in is.... YOU. If after all of this, you don't know that, then you are bound to keep going through this. Over and over and over again. YOU teach people how to treat you. This whole passive aggressive act you've got going on is really saddening. You start up just as much mess with them as you get back. THAT'S the point. Whether you want to hear it or admit it or not.

 

[summerdawn]

You knew/saw no one else who has been there, done that? Correct me if i'm wrong, but these aren't your oldest children.... you YOURSELF had already been there and done that. Come on, now.

I don't even know you personally and can tell you by reading ALL of your posts, this statement is FAR from the truth.
The ONLY person in this world who can control what you do, what you think, who you are and the position you are in is.... YOU. If after all of this, you don't know that, then you are bound to keep going through this. Over and over and over again. YOU teach people how to treat you. This whole passive aggressive act you've got going on is really saddening. You start up just as much mess with them as you get back. THAT'S the point. Whether you want to hear it or admit it or not.

A. Before this stuff started I had gone and addressed a lot of the stuff I had gone through and I was doing really well. I may have a really crappy past but I had worked through it (yeah, amazingly, in COUNSELING) and my children and I were quite happy.

B.Yes, I may be the only person who controls how I think etc etc etc, but most people DO get affected by stress and this is quite stressful. You can make judgements on my character if you want but I am NOT an aggressive person unless I am EXTREMELY pissed off. Yep, I get angry too. I'm sure you do as well. I may have sarted some stuff with them in the past but I haven't had any contact with them whatsoever besides certified letter since the middle of March and they are STILL calling and harassing and emailing. Dad seems to be the only one NOT bothering me. MIL and SM seem to think they can do whatever they want because of the stupid lawyer in their family, and so far they have gotten away with everything. Do I feel like giving SM a big kick in the rear end right now? YES, I do. Is that aggressive? It may be, but a person can only take so much.

MIL AND SM are pulling the SAME crap dad use to. And they are getting away with it every single time.