Quick Question regarding Responisive Declaration

[mistoffolees]

Thats right, I'm an Artist so... Do you know anything about art...? didn't think so. Reality, you should try to ask yourself what that is. Maybe you people would become a bit more interesting. But maybe being Sheep is just a bit to comfy humm.

I know a fair amount about art, particularly ceramics.

However, I'm not over in art forums pretending to be an expert, so your point is irrelevant. Feel free to post in any art forums you wish. But being artistic doesn't give you the right to post inaccurate information on a legal forum.

 

[cherylsarah01]

@ VyRoses

I guess from your posts you don't think that I was successful in my court case because I was not able to obtain full physical custody.

Let me tell you what I was able to get accomplished for the best interest of my child:

His domestic violence is now on record and he has been warned.

Communication through Stepmom has been stopped.

He has been told to step up to the plate and coparent with me, not his wife.

He has been informed that he is the one that can change his behavior to resolve the deteriorating situation for our child.

He has to attend coparenting counseling himself or the coparenting classes with me without interference from his wife.

He has to stop withholding the child from her outside activity.

He has to stop withholding the child from parties she is invited to.

He has to stop withholding her from school functions, science fair, christmas pagent and so on.

He, along with me, has to stop showing animosity toward one another.

My daughter is in counseling.

Child support established.

Those are all things that I was able to push for and get across to the judge and get added into the CO. Some of those things I was able to prove on paper and some were going off of my word. But it was all found in the best interest of the child and not how he felt or how I felt.

The three things he was able to get in were the school pickups clause, class parties and class fieldtrips being split. Those were all going off of his word against mine and because it is a reality that stepmom is in our daughter's life the judge found it to be in the child's best interest to have them added also.

It did not please me to have them added in but on those things I felt it was not the hill I wanted to die on either. My daughter is getting older and you know what those class parties and fieldtrips are getting fewer and far between. I have my daughter meet me in front of the school by "the tree" where stepmom is nowhere near or has a reason to be at and that way she can say goodbye to stepmom when she walks out of class and then greet me and go on with our day conflict free. That is ultimately taking the child out of the awkward situation we were in.

I believe that I was most successful, thank you very much!

This forum has helped me a lot, someone who did this without an attorney, and believe me you only want the facts and law when you ask for help here. This is no joke. If the people here did not give you the actual facts and how the law works and only went off of their emotions and personal opinions here then you would go into that courtroom and make an a$$ out of yourself and fail miserably. That is why you must be very careful when you reply to someone's post.

FYI - I do not have the best spelling or grammer and I apologize for that. I would love it if there was a spell check on here, lol.

 

[frylover]

Cheryl, I have read all your threads and am horrified by stepmom's behavior and honestly, more than a little disgusted that she was elevated to such a level of "importance" by the mediator. I think you are showing a great deal of class by taking this so well! I would not be pleased to be told I was not allowed to attend some of my child's school functions because stepmommy's feelings get hurt! But you're right, as they get older those parties diminish in number and get to be less of a "party" and more of a "let's sit around and eat junk food and not do schoolwork" thing!

I also think that a man who beats up his wife rarely does it only once. Sadly, it will likely happen again, but at least when it does, the judge may not blow if off again. Sounds like dad is between a rock and a hard place right now. He can either ignore the orders, which will keep the peace with stepmom but cause him trouble in court, or he can follow them, which is going to tick her off and cause trouble at home.

It sounds like the mediator toned things down a little in her report from what she said to you at the meeting. What happened with dad and stepmommy not wanting your son around during pickups because it made stepmommy uncomfortable?

 

[cherylsarah01]

Cheryl, I have read all your threads and am horrified by stepmom's behavior and honestly, more than a little disgusted that she was elevated to such a level of "importance" by the mediator. I think you are showing a great deal of class by taking this so well! I would not be pleased to be told I was not allowed to attend some of my child's school functions because stepmommy's feelings get hurt! But you're right, as they get older those parties diminish in number and get to be less of a "party" and more of a "let's sit around and eat junk food and not do schoolwork" thing!

I am very disappointed with the mediator giving a "legal stranger" such importance in the case. The fact that the mediator stated during mediation that because stepmom has a problem with it than dad has a problem with it as if they are one in the same person blew me away. As far as taking it so well, I am doing the best I can. I do have a lot of pride in myself and try to have some class. Thank you for your comment.

I also think that a man who beats up his wife rarely does it only once. Sadly, it will likely happen again, but at least when it does, the judge may not blow if off again. Sounds like dad is between a rock and a hard place right now. He can either ignore the orders, which will keep the peace with stepmom but cause him trouble in court, or he can follow them, which is going to tick her off and cause trouble at home.

Oh he will do it again. He was abusive to me while we were married too. It was just me and him around when he would do it and one time in front of our daughter he threw me over the coffee table dislocating my shoulder. He threatened, manipulated and intimidated me for so long I did not report it. I had a lot of guilt for not reporting the abuse and I have had a lot of therapy to deal with it and become a stronger person.

I believe his wife now is going through the same things. She does not seem to me to be the type to report it either but there is older kids in the home that may report it someday. His rock and a hard place has been created by him and I have a feeling he will not follow court orders or he will twist them around to suit him and then say he did not understand them.

It sounds like the mediator toned things down a little in her report from what she said to you at the meeting. What happened with dad and stepmommy not wanting your son around during pickups because it made stepmommy uncomfortable?

The mediator did tone it down a bit in her report and my son not being at the school pick ups did not show up anywhere on the report and was never brought up in court.