What is the name of your state? Ohio
Brief history: I have sole legal and physical custody of my daughter since divorce. Ex threatened to sue for joint (which I have no problem with) legal and joint physical (which most stated would not happen due to distance between us and no significant changes in circumstance). Well, actually he is remarried almost 3 years ago, does that constitute a change in circumstance?
In any event, the main purpose for this is he wants to have the tax deduction every other year and lower child support (what he doesn't realize is that since the divorce, my income has only increased by $5k, and his has increased about $17k - however, he does have another child with his wife, will that change anything?). CS is set at $387/month currently. I received an "Addendum Withholding Notice To Parties To A Support Order" from the CS Enf. Agency today. It is asking for all of the "obligor's" change in information financially. Being the cp, I am not the obligor, but the obligee. The second section is to be filled out by the obligee. The check box options given only outline reasons to STOP cs and/or alimony (which is n/a). Obviously since my child is 6, I have no intent to fill this part out for another 12 years or so!
What am I supposed to do with this form? I plan on calling the agency on Monday, but of course, I'm thinking the wosrt....this is a sign that he is following through on his threats to get joint custody. Joint legal is something I support 100%...have no problem agreeing to that!! However, joint physical, IMO (which I know doesn't mean squat), would be difficult for a 6 year old who is thriving educationally, emotionally, etc. in our circumstance. He lives 40 miles away, not in the same school district and he mentioned that he would like one week with him, one week with me (great for close by, not so great for 80 mile round trip every day of the week). Since I didn't file for a modification, I'm assuming this form means that he did (cs only, or possible custody to follow?). I'm terrified once again!!
Sorry if this is hard to follow, here are my questions:
1. What should I do with this form, since none of the information is applicable to me, as the obligee.
2. Will his child with his new wife decrease the amount of support factored for my daughter?
3. I know you can't predict, but is this normal to be sent if a modification to custody was filed?
I hate that this is happening over money. I have said before, I would give up cs, tax decductions, pay for her insurance, cover all expenses, etc. if it meant that my little girl would live with me as the primary residence forever. He chose to live out of the state until she was 4, and I am thrilled that he has returned b/c she deserves to have her father in her life. I am so supportive of their relationship. However, since he DID choose to remain absent, her and I are extremely close. Losing time with her would devistate me!! He does get standard visitation. One (overnight) during the week and eow, with weekends ending on Monday morning, not Sunday afternoon. Thanks in advance for the help and I'm sorry this is long. I'm freaking out here!What is the name of your state?
Brief history: I have sole legal and physical custody of my daughter since divorce. Ex threatened to sue for joint (which I have no problem with) legal and joint physical (which most stated would not happen due to distance between us and no significant changes in circumstance). Well, actually he is remarried almost 3 years ago, does that constitute a change in circumstance?
In any event, the main purpose for this is he wants to have the tax deduction every other year and lower child support (what he doesn't realize is that since the divorce, my income has only increased by $5k, and his has increased about $17k - however, he does have another child with his wife, will that change anything?). CS is set at $387/month currently. I received an "Addendum Withholding Notice To Parties To A Support Order" from the CS Enf. Agency today. It is asking for all of the "obligor's" change in information financially. Being the cp, I am not the obligor, but the obligee. The second section is to be filled out by the obligee. The check box options given only outline reasons to STOP cs and/or alimony (which is n/a). Obviously since my child is 6, I have no intent to fill this part out for another 12 years or so!
What am I supposed to do with this form? I plan on calling the agency on Monday, but of course, I'm thinking the wosrt....this is a sign that he is following through on his threats to get joint custody. Joint legal is something I support 100%...have no problem agreeing to that!! However, joint physical, IMO (which I know doesn't mean squat), would be difficult for a 6 year old who is thriving educationally, emotionally, etc. in our circumstance. He lives 40 miles away, not in the same school district and he mentioned that he would like one week with him, one week with me (great for close by, not so great for 80 mile round trip every day of the week). Since I didn't file for a modification, I'm assuming this form means that he did (cs only, or possible custody to follow?). I'm terrified once again!!
Sorry if this is hard to follow, here are my questions:
1. What should I do with this form, since none of the information is applicable to me, as the obligee.
2. Will his child with his new wife decrease the amount of support factored for my daughter?
3. I know you can't predict, but is this normal to be sent if a modification to custody was filed?
I hate that this is happening over money. I have said before, I would give up cs, tax decductions, pay for her insurance, cover all expenses, etc. if it meant that my little girl would live with me as the primary residence forever. He chose to live out of the state until she was 4, and I am thrilled that he has returned b/c she deserves to have her father in her life. I am so supportive of their relationship. However, since he DID choose to remain absent, her and I are extremely close. Losing time with her would devistate me!! He does get standard visitation. One (overnight) during the week and eow, with weekends ending on Monday morning, not Sunday afternoon. Thanks in advance for the help and I'm sorry this is long. I'm freaking out here!What is the name of your state?