Relocateing

[acmb05]

Lady you were told

what was likely to happen. You probably wont get to move. You were told that up front then you come back because you dont like that answer and add things to the post hopeing for a different answer.

Regardless of what YOU think. You were legally married while carrying on with someone else. Now go to the judge and tell him exactly what you said here. Better yet print it out and let him read it and then see what he thinks.

 

[Jennx1032]

Thanks

There is no reason to insult anyone, why would you want to? I wouldn't really state you haven't even began insulting, iy doesn't make you look good at all it makes you look childish, and i really don't want any advice from you anymore, i probably would have recieved more input and respect from my 2 year old. Again thanks

 

[Jennx1032]

Really now grow up, How old are you all? I am seperated, what part of that isn't getting through you head. God how childish and low can you get.Grow up children

 

[Jennx1032]

Here this is more help then you have been

Maybe you can use this for someone else who seeks info on this topic.

In today's mobile society, relocation of the custodial parent to a remote state (or even foreign country) is a fairly common occurrence. Many non-custodial parents live in abject fear that their exes will depart with the kids for parts unknown, and many custodial parents feel they need to make a clean break with their exes or to move to a place where their employment prospects will be brighter. There are no good answers. The national trend is tending toward permitting more freedom in relocation. Most states (including Connecticut) will apply a best-interests test to such a proposed relocation: if the relocation is in the best interest of the children, then the relocation will be permitted. Note that this standard generally means that there must be some demonstrable benefit for the child in the relocation, not just for the custodial parent, and that benefit must outweigh the detriment associated with loss of contact with the non-custodial parent.
For example, New York, until recently, all but forbade custodial relocation unless the custodial parent could make a showing of "exceptional circumstances." That standard was greatly liberalized last year, when the Court of Appeals held that,
...in all cases, the courts should be free to consider and give appropriate weight to all of the factors that may be relevant to the determination. These factors include, but are certainly not limited to each parent's reasons for seeking or opposing the move, the quality of the relationships between the child and the custodial and noncustodial parents, the impact of the move on the quantity and quality of the child's future contact with the non-custodial parent, the degree to which the custodial parent's and child's life may be enhanced economically, emotionally and educationally by the move, and the feasibility of preserving the relationship between the noncustodial parent and child through suitable visitation arrangements. In the end, it is for the court to determine, based on all of the proof, whether it has been established by a preponderance of the evidence that a proposed relocation would serve the child's best interests

 

[Neal1421]

Most states (includingConnecticut) will apply a best-interests test to such a proposed relocation: if the relocation is in the best interest of the children, then the relocation will be permitted. Note that this standard generally means that there must be some demonstrable benefit for the child in the relocation, not just for the custodial parent, and that benefit must outweigh the detriment associated with loss of contact with the non-custodial parent.
In the end, it is for the court to determine, based on all of the proof, whether it has been established by a preponderance of the evidence that a proposed relocation would serve the child's best interests

This is the part you need to read again. You haven't said anything that would show that the move would be beneficial to the child, only yourself. That is what a judge will look at.

 

[stealth2]

Maybe you can use this for someone else who seeks info on this topic.

In today's mobile society, relocation of the custodial parent to a remote state (or even foreign country) is a fairly common occurrence. Many non-custodial parents live in abject fear that their exes will depart with the kids for parts unknown, and many custodial parents feel they need to make a clean break with their exes or to move to a place where their employment prospects will be brighter. There are no good answers. The national trend is tending toward permitting more freedom in relocation. Most states (including Connecticut) will apply a best-interests test to such a proposed relocation: if the relocation is in the best interest of the children, then the relocation will be permitted. Note that this standard generally means that there must be some demonstrable benefit for the child in the relocation, not just for the custodial parent, and that benefit must outweigh the detriment associated with loss of contact with the non-custodial parent.
For example, New York, until recently, all but forbade custodial relocation unless the custodial parent could make a showing of "exceptional circumstances." That standard was greatly liberalized last year, when the Court of Appeals held that,
...in all cases, the courts should be free to consider and give appropriate weight to all of the factors that may be relevant to the determination. These factors include, but are certainly not limited to each parent's reasons for seeking or opposing the move, the quality of the relationships between the child and the custodial and noncustodial parents, the impact of the move on the quantity and quality of the child's future contact with the non-custodial parent, the degree to which the custodial parent's and child's life may be enhanced economically, emotionally and educationally by the move, and the feasibility of preserving the relationship between the noncustodial parent and child through suitable visitation arrangements. In the end, it is for the court to determine, based on all of the proof, whether it has been established by a preponderance of the evidence that a proposed relocation would serve the child's best interests

Which boils down to what was said to you from the first reply - a judge will decide whether you can relocate the child. And sweetie - I was divorced in NY AND relocated with the kids. So I do have a clue.

 

[critterperson]

What is the name of your state?New York State, My name is Jenn

I have some questions on relocateing, I have full cust. and my soon to be ex husband has parenting time every other weekend. I am engaged to a military man, who is now overseas. We want to all be together when he comes home, he has three years left in and i can't imagine being apart for 3 years. Also we can't live her, it is too expensive, i am pay check to pay check right now, i was just hoping to gather some infomation on this. Thank you very much

Hey Jenn,

I don't think anyone is trying to attack you....They are simply saying that it will be very difficult for you to be granted your move given you aren't married to this man....I realize that you love him, and intend on getting married but until that is realized a court will probably not allow a move to be closer to your fiance...In these instances they look at the best interest of the children not the parents....Maybe after you and your fiance get married (for a little while) the court may look more favorably if you choose to leave for financial reasons....I know this isn't the advice you want to hear, but it is accurate...Please contact a lawyer for a free consultation...It couldn't hurt...Good Luck to you!!!

 

[Jennx1032]

Well i believe a move would be best for me and my child, due to the fact that i work full time for the state,and part time at night and weekends, half my pay goes to child day care and most of the other half goes to rent. I really am struggle here. I have been told it is cheeped to live else where. I don't want to go paycheck to paycheck. I do understand that it affects my ex, and i am willing to work out whatever is fair, i just don't want to struggle for the rest of my life.I want to be able to save money for my child to go to college, the way things are going for me now that will never happen. Also i have been trying to get child support for 2 years now, my ex never shows up for court and refuses to help me with any expenses for my son. I also pay all the bills for my son as well as for my ex, I don't want bad credit. I even pay for the truck he drives and his insurance, whitch for 6 mths had left with no car for myself or my child. I know this part is off topic.

 

[Jennx1032]

Hey Jenn,

I don't think anyone is trying to attack you....They are simply saying that it will be very difficult for you to be granted your move given you aren't married to this man....I realize that you love him, and intend on getting married but until that is realized a court will probably not allow a move to be closer to your fiance...In these instances they look at the best interest of the children not the parents....Maybe after you and your fiance get married (for a little while) the court may look more favorably if you choose to leave for financial reasons....I know this isn't the advice you want to hear, but it is accurate...Please contact a lawyer for a free consultation...It couldn't hurt...Good Luck to you!!!

Thankyou, i am not jumping into anything, it is a big desion to be made, I was just trying to do my homework on this, I am not looking to move anytime soon. Well thanks

 

[critterperson]

Thankyou, i am not jumping into anything, it is a big desion to be made, I was just trying to do my homework on this, I am not looking to move anytime soon. Well thanks

Do you have a court order for child support? If so how far behind is he? You could file a petition for contempt if he isn't paying.....

 

[Jennx1032]

Which boils down to what was said to you from the first reply - a judge will decide whether you can relocate the child. And sweetie - I was divorced in NY AND relocated with the kids. So I do have a clue.

Well i already knew i had to see a lawyer, i was looking for infomation before i saw a lawyer, cause i am not looking to jump in to this right now. I was just hopeing to recieve some infomation on this.I was hoping to have someone have gone through this already , I do know i need to ask a lawyer in the end, i just wanted some info, that's all.I really don't see the need to be rude(by calling me sweetie), i have been nothing but nice, all i wanted was some help.

 

[Jennx1032]

Do you have a court order for child support? If so how far behind is he? You could file a petition for contempt if he isn't paying.....

He fails to appear everytime, he is 2 years behind and 1 year behind on daycare expenses

 

[Neal1421]

I also pay all the bills for my son as well as for my ex, I don't want bad credit. I even pay for the truck he drives and his insurance, whitch for 6 mths had left with no car for myself or my child. I know this part is off topic.

Why are you paying his bills? First get a divorcefrom your ex and settle that part of your life and then try to move on.

 

[Jennx1032]

Why are you paying his bills? First get a from your ex divorce and settle that part of your life and then try to move on.

I am really trying, it is hard when he never appears. I show up everytime, he never shows, maybe twice in the last two years. My case has been on hold for 7 mths now.
I pay his bills,because he won't. He has taken loans out in both our names,so i have to pay, or i take the risk of bad credit, and i can't afford to take that chance.
I am trying to rebuild my life but eveytime i turn around thier is something else, it really is beginning to be too much to handle.His mother even tried to tell me i had to pay for the abortion she had paid for when she found out i was haveing my son, i told her to get a credit, cause i wasn't haveing an abortion, and i wasn't paying for that.