Revision of Cusotdy and Support when Ex wife is upset over new fiance'

[Whyte Noise]

No guys, this isn't a Kelly.

If the divorce decree ordered him to pay child support, but he and his ex wife "agreed" to something outside of that order, then yes... he can be held liable for back child support. Agreements do not trump an order of the court. He was ordered to pay child support and if he didn't, no matter what their agreement was, she could try and hold him in contempt.

As for his relationship and the fiancee'.. I have to ask if he has met this woman himself? Do they live together? In close proximity? Have more than just an online relationship going on at present? Internet relationships can work out very well or they can be disasterous. My current husband and I met online in the summer of 2000. We lived together for 3 years and married in 2004 and our relationship is just great. I also know others who have met their current SO's or husbands though the internet and they are fine too. Then I know of those who met someone online that turned out to be complete nutcases once they met them and got them into their lives. You can pretend to be anyone or any way you like on the 'net but once you're actually with that person, in person, it's a different ballgame.

 

[stealth2]

I am a sister to the situation that does not live in the state.

Yet in another post you say that you are actually the fiancee in this situation. So which is it?

 

[stealth2]

caere,
it is my brother that has landed him this bright and cheery situation, LOL. He has a new fiance that is a wonderful woman and she has children herself. My only concern is that he is so happy now and it just seems petty and personal with my ex-sister in law that she is doing this. She is trying to take away some of the custody that he has already established over 3 years with their 6 year old child.

Here https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=1273783#post1273783 is where you say:

I am facing this issue with my new fiance that his Ex is now taking him to court without ever meeting me and she is saying that because I met him over the internet we do not have a healthy relationship. Yet, what she does not hear and I mean hear from her own child is that this child "likes me and would want me to as her step-mom". Sometimes I hate to say this but us mothers just dont know when to shut up and leave the men alone. We need to put some kind of faith and trust in them as we did before.

So are you engaged to your brother?

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Here https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=1273783#post1273783 is where you say:



So are you engaged to your brother?

And here another set of Facts, lol
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=275191

 

[Just Blue]

Here https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?p=1273783#post1273783 is where you say:



So are you engaged to your brother?

That is why I thought it might be her...but it might be one of those people who lie about their involvement...

 

[calitogeorgia]

calitogeorgia

To let you know this person's account that I am using is a dear friend of mine and no I am not married or engaged to my brother thank you. As I mentioned before I dont play games, I am not in the mood and if you have a question then be an adult and just ask.

Thank you

 

[Just Blue]

To let you know this person's account that I am using is a dear friend of mine and no I am not married or engaged to my brother thank you. As I mentioned before I dont play games, I am not in the mood and if you have a question then be an adult and just ask.

Thank you

So is your brother...your boyfriend...or a dear friend??
The inconsistencies in your post have us thinking your are a troll....

 

[calitogeorgia]

Troll

Look I am only asking for advice on the laws and someone that is familiar with them. If I wanted to give you guys my information I would send you my bio...
I only want to talk to someone that has some kind of legal information or insight to this type of situation in the state of NC.
What part do you not under stand? Who I am is irrelevant to the question

 

[ceara19]

So is your brother...your boyfriend...or a dear friend??
The inconsistencies in your post have us thinking your are a troll....

I take back my original thought that the OP is a troll. She sent me a PM that explained the situation. The confusion is because she used someone elses screen name, instead of creating her own.

The brother had good intentions when they worked out the agreement concerning the child, but you know what they say about good intentions. He's gotten himself into a mess that would be better sorted out using an attorney.

 

[calitogeorgia]

Thank you ceara

ANother interesting piece of information that I got was that the ex-wife had an attorney send a letter to the father stating that he had 3 days to respond to the letter otherwise she would follow suit and file legal actions to take the child away from him. The attorney said that it was furthermore noted that the new GF and father of the child have put the child in unhealthy environments and situations....the ex has never met the new GF and the new GF has only been out 1 time to see him and see the child, at which she only spent 1 day taking the child shopping and to dinner with the father. The attorney stated that if the new GF was to come out and stay in the home while during the time that the father is to have the child then the mother will hold the child and not allow the father to have the child. Isn't this contempt as well as harboring a child from an already established realtionship with the father? Not only that but there were no signed custody papers from the judge, they only signed a seperation agreement and the only thing that the judge signed was the dissolution papers. The custody was part only as an attachment, therefore this would mean that the custody and support is still within the jurisdiction of the court to establish the legal grounds of both parties, so with that they both have no set rights of anything until a judge hears the case. Am I somehwere on the correct track here?

 

[AHA]

Look I am only asking for advice on the laws and someone that is familiar with them. If I wanted to give you guys my information I would send you my bio...
I only want to talk to someone that has some kind of legal information or insight to this type of situation in the state of NC.
What part do you not under stand? Who I am is irrelevant to the question

Just FYI to explain why your role in the situation is so important,

When asking for legal advice, honesty is always the best policy, because then everyone knows that we are not getting the details from a third party (who never gets the real story which is vital for giving accurate legal advice). You are not giving away all your personal details by just saying that you are one of the parties in this legal situation, we know nothing else about you than what you tell us, so don't be worried that we all know who you are just by you saying your fiance is in a mess.
If it was a friend of yours who started this thread, keep in mind that it is always better to do that yourself if the situation is about you, that way people here who have questions have a bigger chance of getting the correct info to assess your problem.