What is the name of your state? Brevard County, Fl
My husband is, in MOST ways, a courageous man. He runs into burning buildings to save the lives of others, helps those bleeding to death from traumatic injury or disease and provides comfort and control to those who have lost their control. When he was younger and a bit irresponsible, he'd not thin twice about a brawl. He is a true hero. But when it comes to confrontation on an emotional level, he would rather everything be non confrontational, which has led to our problem. He refused to defend himself to his older teenage children (14 and 15 at the time) against his ex wife's outrageous accusations because in doing so, he would have to bring up her vast faults. He assumed because his children were intellectually smart, they would see through her, and respect him for not sinking to her level or creating them undue pain. But the world is not perfect and book smart does not always mean common sense. They have chosen to believe this never ending soap opera from the worlds' biggest hypochondriac. She disobeys the court order to not create dissention against their father and makes them fear calling from her house. She guilts them when they see him or speak well of him. It has got to the point that it is easier for them to not have anything to do with him than to stand up to her and listen to her whining. It's easier to go along with her victimization of herself than stand up and be a true human being. Now that the national honor roll student has failed a grade and is still in school beyond 19 and the 17 yr old who ha been in adult ed for 2 yrs because the mother would not make him get his but up and go to school is still in adult ed after a time of droppig out and swearing he didn't need school and wouldn't be back...that is until we filed to stop child support payments because once he stopped school, so did support for him. Is it necessary to continue to feed her McDonalds habits so she doesn't have to work, or can we stop this now. The kids no longer have anything to do with him because of her, his heart has been ripped out and stomped on numerous times during this. Must he pay to continue to be hurt? He was THE most involved father I had ever seen, but she has convinced them that he was "never there." Is there anything that can be done? Yes it is their loss in losing him, but it is our loss when I hear him talk in his sleep about them and his love for them and watch him get hurt again.
My husband is, in MOST ways, a courageous man. He runs into burning buildings to save the lives of others, helps those bleeding to death from traumatic injury or disease and provides comfort and control to those who have lost their control. When he was younger and a bit irresponsible, he'd not thin twice about a brawl. He is a true hero. But when it comes to confrontation on an emotional level, he would rather everything be non confrontational, which has led to our problem. He refused to defend himself to his older teenage children (14 and 15 at the time) against his ex wife's outrageous accusations because in doing so, he would have to bring up her vast faults. He assumed because his children were intellectually smart, they would see through her, and respect him for not sinking to her level or creating them undue pain. But the world is not perfect and book smart does not always mean common sense. They have chosen to believe this never ending soap opera from the worlds' biggest hypochondriac. She disobeys the court order to not create dissention against their father and makes them fear calling from her house. She guilts them when they see him or speak well of him. It has got to the point that it is easier for them to not have anything to do with him than to stand up to her and listen to her whining. It's easier to go along with her victimization of herself than stand up and be a true human being. Now that the national honor roll student has failed a grade and is still in school beyond 19 and the 17 yr old who ha been in adult ed for 2 yrs because the mother would not make him get his but up and go to school is still in adult ed after a time of droppig out and swearing he didn't need school and wouldn't be back...that is until we filed to stop child support payments because once he stopped school, so did support for him. Is it necessary to continue to feed her McDonalds habits so she doesn't have to work, or can we stop this now. The kids no longer have anything to do with him because of her, his heart has been ripped out and stomped on numerous times during this. Must he pay to continue to be hurt? He was THE most involved father I had ever seen, but she has convinced them that he was "never there." Is there anything that can be done? Yes it is their loss in losing him, but it is our loss when I hear him talk in his sleep about them and his love for them and watch him get hurt again.