What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
I have had an issue come up this past weekend that I had never really considered before and need some advice please. My daughter plays on her junior high softball team. The team won sectionals on Saturday and plays on Friday at the state level. If they win Friday they will play 2 games on Saturday. I'm sure you can already see where this is going. Yes, this upcoming weekend is her weekend to go to her dad's. I called him as soon as we got home from the sectional game to see about changing weekends so she can go. He has outright refused to allow her to go saying that it is his time and he gets to decide if he wans her to go. I tried explaining to him that this is a special occasion and that very few kids get to play at state levels. The girls are very likely to win at state and she wants to be a part of it. No amount of talking, begging or compromising changed his mind. I ended up calling an attorney who in turn called his attorney who then called and talked dad into letting her go. We were going to file and emergancy injunction to have a judge make the determination about her being able to go. So fortunately, this time its taken care of and she will be allowed to participate.
My question then is: is there anything I can do, anything we can have added to the court papers that will make it so the children can participate in their school events? I'm not talking about letting them be in everything that catches their attention. Dad has said he would refuse to allow them to play in games on his time or attend any Christmas concerts (even if its required for a grade) while on his time. He has done this in the past and fully believe he would carry through on his threat/promise. We were lucky that during softball season there were no games on his time.
I realize he has a right to have his time uninterrupted and I do my best to never schedule anything for his time, but I can not control what the school schedules or issues like the state games. Are the kids just out of luck or is there something I can do to help?
I have had an issue come up this past weekend that I had never really considered before and need some advice please. My daughter plays on her junior high softball team. The team won sectionals on Saturday and plays on Friday at the state level. If they win Friday they will play 2 games on Saturday. I'm sure you can already see where this is going. Yes, this upcoming weekend is her weekend to go to her dad's. I called him as soon as we got home from the sectional game to see about changing weekends so she can go. He has outright refused to allow her to go saying that it is his time and he gets to decide if he wans her to go. I tried explaining to him that this is a special occasion and that very few kids get to play at state levels. The girls are very likely to win at state and she wants to be a part of it. No amount of talking, begging or compromising changed his mind. I ended up calling an attorney who in turn called his attorney who then called and talked dad into letting her go. We were going to file and emergancy injunction to have a judge make the determination about her being able to go. So fortunately, this time its taken care of and she will be allowed to participate.
My question then is: is there anything I can do, anything we can have added to the court papers that will make it so the children can participate in their school events? I'm not talking about letting them be in everything that catches their attention. Dad has said he would refuse to allow them to play in games on his time or attend any Christmas concerts (even if its required for a grade) while on his time. He has done this in the past and fully believe he would carry through on his threat/promise. We were lucky that during softball season there were no games on his time.
I realize he has a right to have his time uninterrupted and I do my best to never schedule anything for his time, but I can not control what the school schedules or issues like the state games. Are the kids just out of luck or is there something I can do to help?