school and girlfriend visting

[mommamea]

What is the name of your state? Maryland
My x and i share joint custody of our 3rd grade daughter. Last year his girlfriend showed up to all school funtions, trips, and pick up days. She even went so far as to sign parental papers sent hom. Is there anyway i can have her not allowed on school property. They are not married and she is not related to my daughter. They are trying to push me. It makes my daughter uneasy when we are at any function together because of our history. He left me for her and unfortunately my daughters knows i do not respect or care for this girl with no morals.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? Maryland
My x and i share joint custody of our 3rd grade daughter. Last year his girlfriend showed up to all school funtions, trips, and pick up days. She even went so far as to sign parental papers sent hom. Is there anyway i can have her not allowed on school property. They are not married and she is not related to my daughter. They are trying to push me. It makes my daughter uneasy when we are at any function together because of our history. He left me for her and unfortunately my daughters knows i do not respect or care for this girl with no morals.

GROW UP!

This is total and utter bull crap and that's exactly what a judge will tell you IF you ever get through the courthouse steps.

Next time come back with a legal issue, not a pride issue.

 

[Veronica1228]

What is the name of your state? Maryland
My x and i share joint custody of our 3rd grade daughter. Last year his girlfriend showed up to all school funtions, trips, and pick up days. She even went so far as to sign parental papers sent hom. Is there anyway i can have her not allowed on school property. They are not married and she is not related to my daughter. They are trying to push me. It makes my daughter uneasy when we are at any function together because of our history. He left me for her and unfortunately my daughters knows i do not respect or care for this girl with no morals.

The reason your daughter is uncomfortable is because of YOUR behavior. If you act like everything is okay, then she will not have to feel like she is in the middle. Your ex's girlfriend might someday be her Stepmother, so you'd better get used to that idea. I know you don't respect her because she is one of the reasons for your break up, but at least she is making an effort and seems to genuinely care about your daughter. Would you prefer that your ex hooks up with someone who will drive a wedge between your daughter and your ex?

I agree with Breezy. Grow up and get over yourself.

 

[mommamea]

sorry i even asked. oh, fyi... girlfriend was MY Daughters babysitter till she starting sleeping with my husband of 13 years. don't need you to tell me to grow up! sorry i even came to you for any advice good or bad

 

[stepmom&mom]

The truth is, legally, you can't do anything about this. You ex can bring whomever he wants to pick up his daughter on his time unless you get a court order stating otherwise. But like the others say, if you try to go to court over this, the judge will see you as an alienating parent.

 

[mommamea]

thank you for your kind reply!

 

[FedupMomma]

Correct me if I am wrong, but what right does a person have to sign parental papers from a school if they are not a parent or a legal guardian of the child?

As for the rest of it, as much as it hurts you, you are going to have to come to terms with it since this women will be in your child’s life. If this went to court you would end up looking like the fool if you start the I don’t want her there attitude.

 

[haiku]

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Correct me if I am wrong, but what right does a person have to sign parental papers from a school if they are not a parent or a legal guardian of the child?

**Depends on the papers, having a member of the household sign for completed homework and things like that is not a big deal.*****

As for the rest of it, as much as it hurts you, you are going to have to come to terms with it since this women will be in your child’s life. If this went to court you would end up looking like the fool if you start the I don’t want her there attitude.

 

[haiku]

Good god. I sign all of my SS's papers from school. My hubby's not home very often because of work, and um..BM, I don't even think that she knows what school SS goes to (her choice). It never occurred to me that it might be illegal. Haiku, is it?

All I know, having formerly lived with a CP is that as long as you are not holding yourself out as 'the mother" it is not a big deal.

What is illegal is filling out a form and putting your name in the moms spot, and ommitting mom from the paperwork.

 

[stepmom&mom]

My husband signs for my son's homework all the time. In fact, every Thursday, they have a folder that has to be signed by us with a note from the teacher about the students progress. The school doesn't care as long as as a parent or guardian signs for it.

 

[Fairy4]

I'm not sure about Maryland, but our JD court judge in VA, didn't take to kindly to my child's step-mother signing my oldest two girls up for dance classes two years ago! In fact he brought her back into the closed court to personally tell her "that she was never to sign any paperwork concerning any of the children". That wasn't even the reason we were in court (we were there to add an additional visitation day to ex's schedule), my ex's attorney brought it up that I had called the father and asked why she signed her name, and his whole line of questioning ending up backfiring on him.

I have to say that I wouldn't like it if a girlfriend is signing her name as the "mother"...I'm not sure what everyone else's practices are but I wouldn't like every Tom, Dick & Harry my ex has dated sign my children's paperwork....a step-parent is a totally diffferent subject; especially if the child spends part of the school week with the NCP. However, I can't see a judge being happy if you are wasting his time by taking this to court, if this is your only gripe!

 

[thetsgtswife]

I'm not sure about Maryland, but our JD court judge in VA, didn't take to kindly to my child's step-mother signing my oldest two girls up for dance classes two years ago! In fact he brought her back into the closed court to personally tell her "that she was never to sign any paperwork concerning any of the children". That wasn't even the reason we were in court (we were there to add an additional visitation day to ex's schedule), my ex's attorney brought it up that I had called the father and asked why she signed her name, and his whole line of questioning ending up backfiring on him.

I have to say that I wouldn't like it if a girlfriend is signing her name as the "mother"...I'm not sure what everyone else's practices are but I wouldn't like every Tom, Dick & Harry my ex has dated sign my children's paperwork....a step-parent is a totally diffferent subject; especially if the child spends part of the school week with the NCP. However, I can't see a judge being happy if you are wasting his time by taking this to court, if this is your only gripe!

I see nothing wrong with signing a spelling test or a teachers note so the child can get it returned in a timley manner. NOW if you are signing emergancy forms and putting your info in place of a parent, then that is a problem. However on most of the school forms I fill out for our(BIO and Step) kids there is always a guardian spot for a step parent to fill in thier info in the event of an emergancy.

To be honest I find issues like this so petty and childish. Obviously this woman is important to your ex and will be a part of your childs life, like it or not. Its not always easy to accept the new woman/mans role in your child's life but the sooner you can come to terms with this the better for you and your child.

TSGTSWIFE

 

[Fairy4]

TSGTSWIFE:

Whatever! The step-mother I have no problem with, for the most part, and I darn sure don't influence my children with the gripes that I might have...they're children!! I am in contact more with her than my ex (through email). Whatever personal differences the step-mother and I have we keep between the two of us; never the children! I was simply posting my related personal experience to the OP!

 

[thetsgtswife]

TSGTSWIFE:

Whatever! The step-mother I have no problem with, for the most part, and I darn sure don't influence my children with the gripes that I might have...they're children!! I am in contact more with her than my ex (through email). Whatever personal differences the step-mother and I have we keep between the two of us; never the children! I was simply posting my related personal experience to the OP!

wasnt talking to you had just hit quote reply instead of reply.

My comments are directed towards the OP.

TSGTSWIFE

 

[haiku]

I'm not sure about Maryland, but our JD court judge in VA, didn't take to kindly to my child's step-mother signing my oldest two girls up for dance classes two years ago! In fact he brought her back into the closed court to personally tell her "that she was never to sign any paperwork concerning any of the children". That wasn't even the reason we were in court (we were there to add an additional visitation day to ex's schedule), my ex's attorney brought it up that I had called the father and asked why she signed her name, and his whole line of questioning ending up backfiring on him.

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This has to be the biggest load of crap I have read...seriously....

last week my SISTER signed my kid up for horseback riding lessons. the gall of her! Jeez, maybe I should tell her off! maybe even take her to court, tell her to knock off being an aunty who likes to spoil her neice.LOL

If my husband decides HIS daughters want to take dance, and he sends me to sign them up, that is his right as a parent! I find it hard to believe any judge would waste thier time on this.

I would have to assume this had to do with something else and not JUST signing kids up for dance class. Either that or they have lots of time on thier hands in Va. court rooms.....