Separated, what to do?

[not2cleverRed]

If you are living paycheck to paycheck, you need to reevaluate your living situation before committing to renewing the lease in your name. It is a plus that you are employed, but the financial problems of single parents are well documented. You have no backup. In addition, besides your shared young children, there was an older child present for your Christmas week mess. Your shared children are at the back of a long line for your DH's resources.

And, the additional information you provided makes you look really bad. He had a history which you chose to ignore when you became involved with him. I suspect that the "bad boy" was attractive to you, and you participated in that lifestyle before you had the responsibility for 2 children.

I hope your therapist is helping you understand why you have made questionable choices and is not just making suggestions on what you should do now otherwise I would expect you to go from one toxic relationship to another.

I find it very concerning that the therapist did not help her find anything in the way of useful resources. OP is oblivious about how to document abuse, and apparently had no escape plan. I suspect that the therapy has nothing to do with OP's (alleged) domestic violence issues.

 

[Ohiogal]

I find it very concerning that the therapist did not help her find anything in the way of useful resources. OP is oblivious about how to document abuse, and apparently had no escape plan. I suspect that the therapy has nothing to do with OP's (alleged) domestic violence issues.

I suspect the therapist didn't. I could even suspect it wasn't actually therapy.. Maybe watching Dr. Phil. Dr. Drew. Dr. Laura.

 

[bracknelson]

I believe he contacted the landlord and will be removing himself from the lease. Does that make a difference as far as the house goes?

How it is possible to remove himself from the lease if the residence belongs to her?