I live in NY state. My husband and I are separated. I left the home after an explosive argument and took my child with me. I have set up an new residence and my husband has bee agreeable to date with paying the bills we have jointly together. He claims that b/c he has 2 other children from a previous marriage that live with him he will not have to pay as much child support b/c of the 2 children who live with him. Also, he says that since we are separated (not legally)that he can date other people if he wants to and it is no concern of mine. Finally, he claims his "lawyer" told him that if he wants to get a divorce that he can just file even though I will not consent to it(becuase eventually I would like to reconcile) and he says that the divorce will be granted on account of our irreconcilable differences. Is this true?