Sexual Assalt accusation against my 14 year old

[Ladyback1]

Thank you, I will do some more attorney shopping tomorrow. I will to spend anything to defend my son from false charges, but it is just ridiculous that the boy's mother couldn't just pick up the phone and call me to investigate. This should be a simple shake hands, say sorry and move on. I got a feeling once an attorney is done with her, she will be sorry she ever let things get this far.

Hon, 16 years ago, I worked in a Juvenile Sexual Offender program in Arkansas (and to the best of my knowledge the program still exists). It was a lock down facility for offenders aged 11 to 17.11 years. Needless to say, I know that troubled young boys/adolescent boys can and do perpetrate all sorts of horrible sexual assaults. Don't automatically assume it's false allegations.

You said both boys were "special needs". Care to elaborate? Let me say this: Many "special needs" adolescents act out in sexual ways. They do not understand the concept of inappropriate sexual behavior.

 

[stealth2]

Why not try and get this resolved between parents/adults? I don't see the logic for both sides trying to pay police, attorney, judges, etc because two brats can't get a long.

Since the authorities are ALREADY involved, it is out of your hands. The only thing that you CAN do is make sure your son is legally represented.

Listen to what you are being advised to do - do not contact the other party/his parents, request the boys be separated, and get your kid a lawyer!

 

[stealth2]

it is just ridiculous that the boy's mother couldn't just pick up the phone and call me to investigate. This should be a simple shake hands, say sorry and move on. I got a feeling once an attorney is done with her, she will be sorry she ever let things get this far.

And if your "brat" (to use your description) actually DID do something? The other boy has to live with knowing he tried to get help, and no one believed him. Nice.

 

[davew128]

Many "special needs" adolescents act out in sexual ways. They do not understand the concept of inappropriate sexual behavior.

And unchecked, when they reach the age of 70, become mayors of large cities in Southern California.

 

[LdiJ]

I know that I may get bashed for saying this, but I really do sympathize with this mother. I honestly feel like a lot of children get labeled as sexual predators for things that would not have been viewed that way when I was a child. "Playing doctor" was what some of this stuff was called when I was a child, and when your parents caught you, they wupped your butt, explained why it was bad and embarrassed the heck out of you. Nobody I ever knew that got wupped for playing doctor ever grew up to be any kind of sexual predator.

I can think of one particular thing that a cousin did to me that I never viewed in a sexual context as an adolescent. I told on him, he got his butt wupped and he never did it again. This particular cousin today is the epitome of a law abiding, women respecting, all around good guy. (so much so that its almost annoying...LOL) I realize however that if he did the same thing to someone today (if he was an adolescent), he would be labeled as a sexual predator and it would haunt him for life. Again, though, I didn't view it as sexual then, and I still don't view it as sexual now. He honestly was just being mean. (nothing serious guys, just inappropriate grabbing in a way that hurt)

Anyway...I will get off my soapbox now.

However, I will reiterate the advice given by previous posters...

DO NOT talk to the other parent.

DO get your son an attorney.

This IS a serious situation that won't get resolved by parents talking at this point.

 

[stealth2]

Goldfish!
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[Isis1]

Goldfish!
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oh THAT'S what you meant!! LMFAO!!!