Should BioF get overnight visits

[Corruptj]

What is the name of your state? NC

BioFather is going to get overnight weeklong (up to 2 weeks long) visitation now by court order. Baby is only 1 year old. BF has been having every other weekend visit during the day for 4 months, then went to 1 overnight a couple months back. Want to know if this is reasonable? Baby will be 4 hours away on these week(s) long visits.
BF has been allowed 6-1 (or 2 ) week overnights stays per year and every other weekend. The mother is with the baby at all other times. Is this reasonable or can this be changed/modified. I think the baby is quite young for all this. Thanks

 

[penelope10]

What is the name of your state? NC

BioFather is going to get overnight weeklong (up to 2 weeks long) visitation now by court order. Baby is only 1 year old. BF has been having every other weekend visit during the day for 4 months, then went to 1 overnight a couple months back. Want to know if this is reasonable? Baby will be 4 hours away on these week(s) long visits.
BF has been allowed 6-1 (or 2 ) week overnights stays per year and every other weekend. The mother is with the baby at all other times. Is this reasonable or can this be changed/modified. I think the baby is quite young for all this. Thanks

Now if I'm reading your post right (and correct me if I'm wrong) this matter has already decided by the court and fairly recently. The court has found this to be in the best interests of the child whether Mom feels so or not. The only way the court is going to change the order is if there can be proof that this is not in the child's best interest, or a significant change in circumstances has occurred since the order has come into place.


Based on the info you have given, no the order cannot be changed or modified at this time.

And please don't refer to the other parent as Biofather---he's Dad.

 

[fairisfair]

What is the name of your state? NC

BioFather is going to get overnight weeklong (up to 2 weeks long) visitation now by court order. Baby is only 1 year old. BF has been having every other weekend visit during the day for 4 months, then went to 1 overnight a couple months back. Want to know if this is reasonable? Baby will be 4 hours away on these week(s) long visits.
BF has been allowed 6-1 (or 2 ) week overnights stays per year and every other weekend. The mother is with the baby at all other times. Is this reasonable or can this be changed/modified. I think the baby is quite young for all this. Thanks

I take it you are BioM???

Shall we address YOU as BioM???

and who cares what you "think"?? obviously not the court, and pretty much not us.

Yes, it is reasonable. and your chances of modification at slightly better than zero.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state? NC

BioFather

Unless an adoption has taken place and there is a FATHER by adoption then this term is insulting and degrading. Okay incubator?

is going to get overnight weeklong (up to 2 weeks long) visitation now by court order.

Okay. You have overnight weeklong visitation now and even before court order, didn't you?

Baby is only 1 year old. BF has been having every other weekend visit during the day for 4 months, then went to 1 overnight a couple months back. Want to know if this is reasonable?

Yep. It is reasonable. The baby will be with his FATHER, womb carrier.

Baby will be 4 hours away on these week(s) long visits.

And? You are apparently four hours away from father and you didn't see a problem with that.

BF

Your BOYFRIEND?

has been allowed 6-1 (or 2 ) week overnights stays per year and every other weekend.

Definitely not reasonable for a BOYFRIEND who is NOT any way legally related to this child to have overnight stays.

The mother is with the baby at all other times.

Mother is? Yet she allows both her boyfriend and the father a relationship. It is reasonable for the FATHER of the child to get just as much time as the mother. Unless there is osmething more to the situation other than the womb carrier doesn't like the father any longer.

Is this reasonable or can this be changed/modified. I think the baby is quite young for all this.

Your opinion doesn't count.

Thanks

You are welcome. Now who are you again?

 

[Corruptj]

I take it you are BioM???

Shall we address YOU as BioM???

and who cares what you "think"?? obviously not the court, and pretty much not us.

Yes, it is reasonable. and your chances of modification at slightly better than zero.

Sorry to offend you with BioF. I reserve 'dad' for the one that supports and cares for the baby, not someone who is being forced to visit the baby, etc. because of reputation, etc

 

[Ohiogal]

Sorry to offend you with BioF. I reserve 'dad' for the one that supports and cares for the baby, not someone who is being forced to visit the baby, etc. because of reputation, etc

And we expect posters on here to respect the person they cared about enough to spread their legs and allow penis to go into vagina -- whichever body part you own. Read the sticky.

 

[Zigner]

Sorry to offend you with BioF. I reserve 'dad' for the one that supports and cares for the baby, not someone who is being forced to visit the baby, etc. because of reputation, etc

You are a real piece of work. I'm ECSTATIC that the FATHER of this child has been able to get the amount of visitation that he has. Honestly, it sounds to me like the child would be BETTER OFF with his FATHER!

 

[penelope10]

Sorry to offend you with BioF. I reserve 'dad' for the one that supports and cares for the baby, not someone who is being forced to visit the baby, etc. because of reputation, etc

The courts look at who is Dad as who has legal standing. This is a legal forum, hence, the browbeating for calling the other parent anything other than Dad. Boyfriends, stepparents, significant others can never be called Dad because they aren't---they don't have standing.

When a poster tries to present facts based on emotional feelings they are going to get a real dose of reality here.

 

[Corruptj]

What is the name of your state? NC


Unless an adoption has taken place and there is a FATHER by adoption then this term is insulting and degrading. Okay incubator?



Okay. You have overnight weeklong visitation now and even before court order, didn't you?



Yep. It is reasonable. The baby will be with his FATHER, womb carrier.


And? You are apparently four hours away from father and you didn't see a problem with that.


Your BOYFRIEND?



Definitely not reasonable for a BOYFRIEND who is NOT any way legally related to this child to have overnight stays.


Mother is? Yet she allows both her boyfriend and the father a relationship. It is reasonable for the FATHER of the child to get just as much time as the mother. Unless there is osmething more to the situation other than the womb carrier doesn't like the father any longer.



Your opinion doesn't count.


You are welcome. Now who are you again?

I see I have to work on my sentence structure alot. I see how things can be misinterpretted. For instance, The baby's father moved to another state on his own accord. i have no other boyfriend. BF and BioF are the same person. And yes, there is more. I just wanted to know if these lengthy stays were ok for the baby and is reasonable so as not to upset the baby. I myself don't object to this.

 

[Melanie80]

dad is dad

Dad is dad no matter what. Odds are the "bioF" is paying support for the child. Having the boyfriend be "dad" could be considered alienation to some judges. Might want to watch out for that!

 

[Zigner]

I just wanted to know if these lengthy stays were ok for the baby and is reasonable so as not to upset the baby. I myself don't object to this.

Yes, absolutely - why do you even have to ASK?

 

[penelope10]

I see I have to work on my sentence structure alot. I see how things can be misinterpretted. For instance, The baby's father moved to another state on his own accord. i have no other boyfriend. BF and BioF are the same person. And yes, there is more. I just wanted to know if these lengthy stays were ok for the baby and is reasonable so as not to upset the baby. I myself don't object to this.

In my humble opinion it is always best for a child to have a meaningful relationship with both parents. Whether or not a child is upset in having a relationship with parents has less to do with the location of that relationship and more with how the parents act regarding the relationship.

If either parent fails to remember that it is important for the child to have a relationship with both parents it's going to hurt the child period. If they see their role as more important than the other parent's it is going to hurt the child. If the child is treated as a pawn or a piece of property it's going to hurt the child. If one parent says negative hurtful things about the other in the child's presence it's going to hurt the child. Additional overnight stays are not going to hurt a baby or a child.

 

[Corruptj]

Dad is dad no matter what. Odds are the "bioF" is paying support for the child. Having the boyfriend be "dad" could be considered alienation to some judges. Might want to watch out for that!

if you call $50 a month support, yes. But support isn't my issue, just what is reasonable for baby's well being.

 

[Silverplum]

if you call $50 a month support, yes. But support isn't my issue, just what is reasonable for baby's well being.

You have a snippy little attitude, don'tcha?

IF you had read previous postings, which are there for your learning pleasure, you would already know that:
1. CS is not a ticket price to see one's child
2. CS is set by the state according to guideline
3. Dad has equal rights to the child, equal to Mom
4. Being snotty about Dad is not gonna get you anywhere here, or in court.

 

[Melanie80]

Sorry to offend you with BioF. I reserve 'dad' for the one that supports and cares for the baby, not someone who is being forced to visit the baby, etc. because of reputation, etc

This is what I mean. Dad is dad no matter what. It was your decision to get with the man. Just because you don't like him now, doesn't make him less dad.
You just can't take the child away from dad because of the way YOU feel. Take in account the child.
You may view it as "being forced", maybe its really not. Maybe he doesn't like you either.