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California(only U.S. law)?
My ex is not allowing my girlfriend from picking my children up from school. The Judge has been told that I moved out with my girlfriend only 2 months after my separation.
A little background
My co worker of 6 yrs moved into our house with her 10 yr old son. My wife and I were financially struggling. She agreed we needed a roommate.
She had a single friend she wanted to live with us. I was concerned for my children so we decided no to him.
6 months later (in August)I caught her and this guy (also her friend from work) kissing on my front lawn after he had stayed the night at our house (I did not know this was going on when I allowed him to stay). She said she did not sleep with him then later that week she said it happened once.
We decided to stayed together she said she would not lie or do it again.
In October she started a new job. She traveled for her job. In December i caught her spending 1900.00 on a vacation t0 Catalina island. She said she was on a business trip.
I decided I could not live like that.
I then moved in to another apartment with this girl I had worked with and trusted around my children. I needed to save money.
That was a year ago. Now we are engaged. However my ex has portrayed me in court as the cheater. she has filed 2 OSC to change custody. She does not want my girlfriend cooking for my children. She was helping my by picking them up from school so i get home from work and did not waste time driving. I only have them from 2-7 30 pm Tuesday and Wednesdaqy evenings and every other weekend.
I have not said anything to the judge about why our marriage broke up, however she has given her side. Now I think he is leaning towards giving her more custody because he thinks I was the cheater who left.
She has written him several letters. I was told not to talk badly of her because it would look bad for me.
However this is not working out. I want more time with my children. I love close to where they live now.
She also has her parents taking care of the children when she works and goes to school over 55 hrs a week.
Should I write him a letter to explaining things?
Should I get a Lawyer? I really can not afford one at this point.
My ex is not allowing my girlfriend from picking my children up from school. The Judge has been told that I moved out with my girlfriend only 2 months after my separation.
A little background
My co worker of 6 yrs moved into our house with her 10 yr old son. My wife and I were financially struggling. She agreed we needed a roommate.
She had a single friend she wanted to live with us. I was concerned for my children so we decided no to him.
6 months later (in August)I caught her and this guy (also her friend from work) kissing on my front lawn after he had stayed the night at our house (I did not know this was going on when I allowed him to stay). She said she did not sleep with him then later that week she said it happened once.
We decided to stayed together she said she would not lie or do it again.
In October she started a new job. She traveled for her job. In December i caught her spending 1900.00 on a vacation t0 Catalina island. She said she was on a business trip.
I decided I could not live like that.
I then moved in to another apartment with this girl I had worked with and trusted around my children. I needed to save money.
That was a year ago. Now we are engaged. However my ex has portrayed me in court as the cheater. she has filed 2 OSC to change custody. She does not want my girlfriend cooking for my children. She was helping my by picking them up from school so i get home from work and did not waste time driving. I only have them from 2-7 30 pm Tuesday and Wednesdaqy evenings and every other weekend.
I have not said anything to the judge about why our marriage broke up, however she has given her side. Now I think he is leaning towards giving her more custody because he thinks I was the cheater who left.
She has written him several letters. I was told not to talk badly of her because it would look bad for me.
However this is not working out. I want more time with my children. I love close to where they live now.
She also has her parents taking care of the children when she works and goes to school over 55 hrs a week.
Should I write him a letter to explaining things?
Should I get a Lawyer? I really can not afford one at this point.