I am a single mother to a seven year old and we live in WI. Her father and I currently have 50/50 custody, I have primary placement and a set visitation schedule that allows him every other weekend. He has been in and out of her life ever since she was born, this current abandonment has been going on about five months, he lives eight miles away. He is currently ordered to pay me 75.00 a week in Support which doesn't always happen because he does seasonal work and doesn't always work. I have to work six days a week eight or more hours a day just to pay ours bills. I have to pay for childcare on HIS weekends. My daughter is failing school because I do not have the time to spend with her that I should. What can I legally do about this. I don't think I can get more money out of him seeing as he has two other children but the state has to recognize that ONE parent cannot do it all and he's basically paying (sometimes) 75.00 for me to do his job as well. I do not have contact with him except via social media where I message him asking for help or to inform him of his daughters activities but he never responds. I'm not rich otherwise I would have already started court precededings but I wouldn't know where to start, what case can I make?
Believe me I understand your dilemma. Having to work six days a week to make ends meet, spotty child support from dad, and then the added indignity of having to pay for child care on his weekends because he won't exercise them, is really difficult to take...particularly when you are under a lot of stress to make things work. I also understand the difficulty of needing the time to help the child with homework when you are already exhausted from working six days a week, and have to fit in all the home responsibilities in the limited time off that you have. I have actually been there...many years ago. It was for a fairly short period of time but I truly understand that when you are in that situation SOMETHING has to give.
So, I am going to give you some practical suggestions. Whatever after school care you have now needs to be changed to something where your child is provided assistance with homework. That may mean not utilizing after school care but paying instead a local high school student to watch your child after school, at your home, and providing homework assistance...it also might mean other options. Those options are out there and they might not cost you any more than you are spending now, or not much more.
Weekend care...again, that same high school student might be available to provide Saturday care...family options might be available...play dates with a sympathetic parent of one of your child's friends might be available...think outside the box. Yes, it can be embarrassing to admit that you need help, but you would be surprised how many other parents would be sympathetic, and who might be willing to trade a Saturday day, with a Saturday night.
Its also not impossible to convince a family law judge to order that the parent who is supposed to be exercising visitation be ordered to provide child care if they opt not to exercise parenting time when the other parent has to work during that parenting time. I know of many cases...but its also not something that you can count on either. You really do have to think outside of the box.