Step-parent Adoption MN

[EmmeRose]

Little Update

I decided to email her lawyer to ask her a few questions about the paperwork before I sign it. I wrote this:
"Before I sign this, can you please tell me how this process works? How long will it take? It says that I wave any and all hearing related to the adoption. How will I know when the adoption is finalized? Will I get any notice or have to attend any final hearing?"

She wrote me back this:

"I submit your consent with the petition for adoption. I cannot send in the petition until three months after the marriage. Once I do that the court decides whether there needs to be an investigation by a social worker before the adoption is approved. I cannot predict when the adoption will be signed by the judge. It could take a couple months. If you are concerned about child support that can be dealt with by a separate order."

I never even mentioned CS in the email but I'm sure she's done this many times before so she automatically included it in there. I'm going to write her back tonight and ask her about writing up a CS order so I don't have to pay for these months leading up to the adoption.

 

[stealth2]

Given your own posts here, it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out CS is part of your equation. Personally, I think taking advice from the other party's lawyer is rather foolish. If *I* were in your shoes, I'd consult with my own attorney for answers to these questions.

 

[EmmeRose]

Given your own posts here, it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out CS is part of your equation.

I emailed my ex yesterday and she said that she talked to her lawyer about CS which is why she told her lawyer to bring it up.

Personally, I think taking advice from the other party's lawyer is rather foolish. If *I* were in your shoes, I'd consult with my own attorney for answers to these questions.

If I had money, I would. I have nothing to lose is how I see it.

 

[Just Blue]

I emailed my ex yesterday and she said that she talked to her lawyer about CS which is why she told her lawyer to bring it up.


If I had money, I would. I have nothing to lose is how I see it.

Nothing but your Child.

 

[EmmeRose]

She's already gone. Like I said before, I have nothing to lose.

 

[stealth2]

She's already gone. Like I said before, I have nothing to lose.

I've reread the entire thread. Did you ever actually TRY to pick your child up? Or did you just give up when Mom emailed you and said no?

 

[Isis1]

I've reread the entire thread. Did you ever actually TRY to pick your child up? Or did you just give up when Mom emailed you and said no?

this is what i think really happened...which makes me cry.

 

[ecmst12]

Why would you expect child support to stop before the adoption is finalized?

 

[EmmeRose]

I've reread the entire thread. Did you ever actually TRY to pick your child up? Or did you just give up when Mom emailed you and said no?

I have driven down there four times and have been denied all four times. I went to court after the second time and the judge won't even reimburse me of my driving costs, let alone give me make up time. She's now done it two more times and all I can do is go back to court to hear the same thing. "It was a mistake your honor, we were out of town" "That's fine sweetie, just try not to do it again." "Yes ma'am."

Why would you expect child support to stop before the adoption is finalized?

Because we agreed to it. We both agreed that I wouldn't take her to court for contempt for denying me since April if she stops CS. She doesn't want me to see her and I know she's not giving up. That's why she wants this adoption ASAP so I'm out of their lives.

 

[EmmeRose]

New "Stipulation"

So I just got an email from her lawyer that says that I need to sign this and submit it. First off, being the Petitioner as stated on the top, how come it's all mixed up...it says the Respondent has a current CS obligation. No she doesn't, I do. I also don't have a husband. Besides the many errors though, you should get the point.
I don't agree with the paying of the arrears as the reason I have arrears now is because we both agreed that since I'm currently not seeing my daughter, I don't have to pay her. Since I haven't seen her since March, being it's July, that's quite a few months I haven't paid. I will not sign this as that is not what we agreed to. I just don't know who to talk to first, my ex or her lawyer.

In Re The Marriage of:

Me,

Petitioner,

STIPULATION AND ORDER

and

XXXXX (my ex-wife)

Respondent.

WHEREAS: The Respondent has signed a consent form for the Petitioner’s husband to

adopt the minor child subject to the matter.

WHEREAS: The Respondent has a current child support obligation which the parties

agree should be suspended pending the adoption petition.

IT IS HEREBY STIPULATED AND AGREED THAT:

1. The Respondent’s child support obligation is suspended pending the Petitioner’s

husband’s Petition for adoption beginning _______. Once the petition is adjudicated,

the Respondent’s child support obligation is terminated.

2. The Respondent has a remaining child support arrearage of $952.12 which

shall be paid off at a rate of $80.00 a month.
XXXX (me), Petitioner

XXXX (my ex-wife), Respondent

Subscribed and sworn to before me this
_____ day of
, 2012.

Subscribed and sworn to before me this
_____ day of
, 2012.

Notary

Notary

APPROVED AS TO FORM:

The signature of the attorney is for the sole and exclusive purpose of submitting
this agreement to the court and verifying that the attorneys have read the agreement
and that the form of the agreement conforms to all statutory and other requirements.
The signature of the attorney is expressly not intended to convey his or her implicit or
explicit verification of the identity or value of any or all of the assets or debts as set forth
herein. The signature of the attorneys is expressly not intended to convey his or her
implicit or explicit verification that all the assets and debts, other than those identified to
the attorneys during the proceeding, have been fully set forth.

Attorney for Respondent
(Her lawyer's signature)
XXXXXXX
Address City, State etc
Phone Number
MN Atty ID XXX

PETITIONER’S WAIVER OF COUNSEL

I, XXXXX (my name), declare as follows:

1. I know I have the right to be represented by an attorney of my choice. I

hereby expressly waive that right and I freely and voluntarily sign the foregoing

Stipulation and Order.

2.

contained in the foregoing Stipulation and Order; however, I specifically decline to retain

independent counsel.

3. I hereby expressly waive any right to contest the agreements set forth in the

foregoing Stipulation and Order.

I understand that an attorney would be helpful in determining issues

Date: ____________________

_______________________________
Signature of Petitioner

 

[EmmeRose]

A bunch of BS

I decided to email my ex and ask her why her lawyer typed it up the way she did. She replied with "I didn't know what arrears were when we talked about it and my lawyer suggested it this way." After emailing her a few times back and forth saying that the adoption would be stopped then she replied "Okay fine, I'll tell my lawyer to change the agreement to that if the adoption goes through to wipe the arrears as well. I want you out of my life so if it means you not paying almost 1,000 to me, that's fine."

 

[Just Blue]

I don't know if you are a real "person" or just a nasty IN troll...But to post a thread regarding this topic, as if a child is something to be sold for a grand. Is...just vile.

Bring some ice to the afterlife, you will need it.

 

[EmmeRose]

How could I make this stuff up? You're calling me a horrible person? What about my ex-wife? Could you put up with her? I would like you to even try.

 

[TheGeekess]

I decided to email my ex and ask her why her lawyer typed it up the way she did. She replied with "I didn't know what arrears were when we talked about it and my lawyer suggested it this way." After emailing her a few times back and forth saying that the adoption would be stopped then she replied "Okay fine, I'll tell my lawyer to change the agreement to that if the adoption goes through to wipe the arrears as well. I want you out of my life so if it means you not paying almost 1,000 to me, that's fine."

How could I make this stuff up? You're calling me a horrible person? What about my ex-wife? Could you put up with her? I would like you to even try.

Be glad you're not in Bama. You can't sell you children here.

 

[EmmeRose]

Yep, you caught me...I'm selling my daughter for the 100k+ I won't be paying her stupid, cheating, now married to a criminal, mother. You all must be so proud. I guess you should all win a prize for helping me saving me so much money. Thanks again but it's working out so well now, you all deserve NOTHING! Good on you all. I'll let you all know when it's finalized which should be by the end of the year. Peace out and thanks again! I will now be able to start my new family and save thousands!

(If you all can't take the sarcasm here, you are all pathetic.)