stepmom issues again#2

[Ohiogal]

why would my lawyer say nothing can be done? did yu have to file something in court? thanks for the adivse

it has to be worded through the PARTIES and make the parties responsible for the actions/interference of others.

 

[JacobJoel]

Text messages

a) i also have had an experience where the text messages had been requested from the carrier (Verizon) and printed out. v. v. bad for the preacher's wife flirting w/not her husband.

b) text messages can be forwarded to regular emails. just input your email address in your contacts (time consuming but doable) and hit send.

i do it all the time.

 

[The_Non-Mom]

a) i also have had an experience where the text messages had been requested from the carrier (Verizon) and printed out. v. v. bad for the preacher's wife flirting w/not her husband.

b) text messages can be forwarded to regular emails. just input your email address in your contacts (time consuming but doable) and hit send.

i do it all the time.

In some cases, forwarding text messages to email does not work. As I mentioned earlier, my friend has US Cellular. When he sends text messages to his email, he does not get a time or date or from header, just the actual message. If you are trying to save a funny joke, great. But if you are trying to prove that your ex is keeping you from seeing your child, not so much.

 

[kgh1977]

why would my lawyer say nothing can be done? did yu have to file something in court? thanks for the adivse

I filed for a No Third Party Interference with all the verbage that I wanted. Sent it in as ex parte to the courts. The Commissioner signed the Order when I just wanted it heard on our next court date. So the Order was put in to affect. My ex filed for a Motion to Reconsider it. The commissioner yeld at him about his wife and him and vacated the Order for No third party interference and added into our new temp order what I said earlier. Im not a lawyer and Im not in Texas, so maybe your attorney is giving you the correct advise. All I know is what I did because of the same situation and so far it has worked. Already my relationship with my daughters are getting better as long as SM stays out of everything.
Good luck!!

 

[JacobJoel]

maybe

you might be right about the headers information, non-mom, but since you STOLE MY NAME, i have to discount your input.

i am THE original non-mom.

have a nice day.

 

[mommabearx1]

I filed for a No Third Party Interference with all the verbage that I wanted. Sent it in as ex parte to the courts. The Commissioner signed the Order when I just wanted it heard on our next court date. So the Order was put in to affect. My ex filed for a Motion to Reconsider it. The commissioner yeld at him about his wife and him and vacated the Order for No third party interference and added into our new temp order what I said earlier. Im not a lawyer and Im not in Texas, so maybe your attorney is giving you the correct advise. All I know is what I did because of the same situation and so far it has worked. Already my relationship with my daughters are getting better as long as SM stays out of everything.
Good luck!!

So your post is irrevelant since you are not the same state and you don't know the laws of that state??

 

[onebreath]

Thats the thing. Call your attorney tomorrow and ask about case law and no third party interference where you live. Tell him/her what you hear here and ask, why not?

The evil me, but honestly I almost wonder what WOULD happen if dad could/would choose to bring SM in as Mom??!!! That would clarify a few things quickly! I wish, I wish.

My take, as a humble member, is once you are going to court, ask for what you want (much better to do in writing in advance). State the provocativeness of SM's relationship to child...be honest and straight and just ask what you can do? (forgot, you got an attorney...so what is up for how invested the attorney is in this issue and how he is able/willing to speak up about it).

One solution could be as simple as requesting a clause in the court order, that neither parents or any stepparent make ANY derogatory or inflammatory remarks ABOUT THE OTHER CHILDS PARENT to the child (state names of children). Period. Not saying this would end the story, but its now in the court order.

I agree with the idea of therapy for the kids. The sad thing is this is confusing, and crazymaking behavior for kids (amongst prob another 20 emotions) and seeing someone weekly can help. The other sad thing is the older the kids get, the more you give neutral responses to their fears, the more their fears will lesson (good, mom not freaked out, I don't have to be) and they will learn on their own to get dads tune. Thats the sad part, but part of growing up.

I LOVED Isabella Soriano's response to her children, " I think your dad may have misunderstood what we agreed on". I have no doubt, the understatement of the week, and no drama for kids, plus a message of, "I'm cool with this", I am in control... I am going to write that one down!

 

[OldandTired]

From being personally experienced in the Texas Family Courts, I can tell you that all Family Courts demand that any disparaging remarks made about the parents in the presence of the children is strictly prohibited!!

Like the other person said, with your child's testimony about the remarks the step-mother made, would be inferred as hearsay, however, just to get it in the Judges ears would be helpful, as your son can testify that he was a direct party to the conversation.

Texas Courts do not tolerate bickering between parents, step or otherwise, in the presence of the children.