For 29 years I tired everything I gave up
I don't think you can get unequivocal answers on whether or not your specific case would qualify as a disability as per SSI.
But please bear in mind that while you feel as though you're treated as an alien (and please, I mean you no disrespect), you are able to "hide" your disability (though you shouldn't need to). There are many people with cleft palates (a disability that, unless "repaired" via surgery, is nearly impossible to "hide") who do NOT qualify for SSDI.
For instance, let's say your disability precludes at length conversation (for the sake of an illustration). That wouldn't preclude you from seeking employment doing medical transcripts from home. Or from doing what I do currently ~ technical illustrations. Or with the appropriate educational background, being a freelance technical writer.
Do you see what I mean? You'd have to have someone versed in SSDI actually review your situation and see what you can and can't do ~ and how that would affect your employ-ability.
We simply can't give you unequivocal answers.
I do wish you the best of luck, though. Please do keep us posted.