Summer Visitation

[Deja]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? UT

Me (custodial) and my ex are going by Utah visitation guidelines concerning visits. They state word for word:

"(k) Extended parent-time with the noncustodial parent may be:
(i) up to four weeks consecutive at the option of the noncustodial parent, including weekends normally exercised by the noncustodial parent, but not holidays;
(ii) two weeks shall be uninterrupted time for the noncustodial parent; and
(iii) the remaining two weeks shall be subject to parent-time for the custodial parent for weekday parent-time but not weekends, except for a holiday to be exercised by the other parent."

The father works during the week. I doubt he will be able to take the time off of work for summer vacation. If he could and was able to spend time with the child that would be great. However, if he is not able to, can he send the child (5 years old) to grandparents' and aunt's house for the 2-4 week period? They live about an hour away.

A little more background: I get along with the grandparents, but have had numerous problems with aunt. She is overbearing, has no job, lives with her parents, no kids, constantly oversteps her boundaries, was a paralegal so she always interferes in agreements me and father have previously made.

There is even a stipulation in our CO that she cannot interfere or contact me regarding parenting issues because she just inflames the situation that is really none of her business.

I apologize for drifting off the main question...Can he send the child an hour away for summer visitation if he will not even be visiting the child?

 

[Perky]

Heads-up to members... this one shoots from the hip. In a reply to LDiJ on someone else's thread:

What the heck is wrong with you people? Can't you just answer the question without biting his head off?

To the caring father with the question, you can have father's day since it overrides visitation AND still get your weekend separately. It is the mother's fault for changing her month from July to June. If she didn't want to give you an extra weekend she should have stuck to July visitation.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=2238165

 

[Deja]

Is it so wrong to just want some good advice without being ridiculed?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Advice to you, if YOU are wanting advice, is to only reply on another thread if you can substantiate LEGAL advice.

Most of us seniors are NOT versed in Utah law - might suggest google.

 

[haiku]

do working custodial parents take the summers off? I don't know to many with that luxury.

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? UT

Me (custodial) and my ex are going by Utah visitation guidelines concerning visits. They state word for word:

"(k) Extended parent-time with the noncustodial parent may be:
(i) up to four weeks consecutive at the option of the noncustodial parent, including weekends normally exercised by the noncustodial parent, but not holidays;
(ii) two weeks shall be uninterrupted time for the noncustodial parent; and
(iii) the remaining two weeks shall be subject to parent-time for the custodial parent for weekday parent-time but not weekends, except for a holiday to be exercised by the other parent."

The father works during the week. I doubt he will be able to take the time off of work for summer vacation. If he could and was able to spend time with the child that would be great. However, if he is not able to, can he send the child (5 years old) to grandparents' and aunt's house for the 2-4 week period? They live about an hour away.

A little more background: I get along with the grandparents, but have had numerous problems with aunt. She is overbearing, has no job, lives with her parents, no kids, constantly oversteps her boundaries, was a paralegal so she always interferes in agreements me and father have previously made.

There is even a stipulation in our CO that she cannot interfere or contact me regarding parenting issues because she just inflames the situation that is really none of her business.

I apologize for drifting off the main question...Can he send the child an hour away for summer visitation if he will not even be visiting the child?

What if he wants to have this child am and pm, before and after work, during his time? Why couldn't he have kiddo attend a summer playground or day camp program and still get extending time with his child? That's what the child would normally have with their father in an intact family: seeing their parent daily over many consecutive days and working as well. I'd sure hate to be told I couldn't have my child because I can't have extended time off of work: I'd still be able to spend summer evenings with them.

I doubt YOU get to be off work every day that your child is in your possession.

 

[wileybunch]

Time with the NCP does not have to be "Disneyland Dad" time so, no, Dad does not have to take off work to exercise his 4-week summer time provision. There's nothing in what you posted that requires that (nor should it).

 

[mommyof4]

Time with the NCP does not have to be "Disneyland Dad" time so, no, Dad does not have to take off work to exercise his 4-week summer time provision. There's nothing in what you posted that requires that (nor should it).

Although....

She states that NCP won't be with the child AT ALL for 2-4 weeks.

Can he send the child an hour away for summer visitation if he will not even be visiting the child?

That's important.

OP, do you have a ROFR in your court order?

 

[stealth2]

Is it so wrong to just want some good advice without being ridiculed?

No, it's not. However, it is rather foolish to antagonize those of whom you're asking advice from at the get-go.

 

[Ohiogal]

I want to know how she can foretell the future and knows dad would not be visiting at all. Oh never mind -- she STOLE the crystal ball.