Support Modification but lying

[DoWhat]

This is totally non-legal advice, but I'm going to go here anyway. You can't control Dad, who has a long history of being difficult. So why even give him the opportunity to be verbally jerk-like? If you want to settle and get it over with, then great - but don't expect that he's going to turn into a perfectly easy to deal with co-parent. You ex will always remind you why he's your ex. If he was all that great and superawesome, likely you'd still be together.

No, it's not easy. Many of the posters here have to deal with ex's that are really tough to communicate with. But you are asking for what your (joint) children are legally entitled to, by state calculation. There's nothing shameful or wrong about that. Don't let yourself get browbeaten by Dad's verbal tirades.

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts. I'll just show up Monday and get whatever they say I should get and move on and just keep doing right by my kids.

 

[DoWhat]

Just wanted to update -

Showed up to court yesterday with all intentions of just letting what will be- be. He had a lawyer; and they went no holes barred with trying to get cs dropped completely.

I just told the judge that the cs had been a thorn in my side from the start. That there is no communication since it had been issued. That for the betterment of our children and so it would hopefully be easier to work with the ex in the future; I don't want his child support - instead I would like for him to be court ordered to go to communication counseling with me and for him to pay me back some $ for some bills he's never paid.

The judge instead ordered child support that was according to state guidelines and ended up being a little less but not by much, in addition my ex has to now pay for half of my youngests daycare, he has to pay me over 1000$ worth of unpaid medical bills by the end of this month, and I got my court ordered communication counseling. The judge told me it was a lovely idea and that if things do not start approving with our working relationship after this to come back. He then told my ex that he does NOT want to see him come back because he will not be happy with his decision.

So ; to sum it up to those that are feeling overwhelmed or just beaten down - Just please keep taking the high road and do whats right for your kids. Don't worry or stress out if your ex isn't doing what they're sup to be doing. Just pick up their slack and make sure those babies aren't being left without. Karma will come around and common sense will win. (I am now putting the whole amount into accounts for the kids and they are going to have a nice little surprise come graduation time).

 

[tuffbrk]

I'm so very happy for you. It is nice when what it is you think should be ordered in court, is actually ordered!

Thanks for the update.

 

[DoWhat]

Alright, have the communication counseling coming up next week, just curious if anyone can tell me what I'm in for? What is the process, etc? I've tried to search for what to expect and can't really find anything. Has anyone attended this before and can you tell me what to expect? Thanks!