Please Read this:
logan1275 said:
Ma'am I do not wish to get into an argument with you in reference to this matter. I only asked a simple question, for assistance. It is not solely a financial matter, if you would have read what I wrote I think you would understand that. I no longer am in contact with this woman for a reason. Our relationship was brief, I have not seen her in 5 years, till I was summoned to the court. When I was told 3rd party that she might be pregnant 5 years ago I left messages for her to contact me. When I NEVER heard anything from her it was infered that either the issue was "taken care of" or she lost the child. Which both cases are quite common nowadays, I do not wish to offend you or any decisions you have made. I was not allowed to make one in this instance, that is why I do not wish to add myself into this childs life at this point in time, as far as your idea of 50/50 time with the mother. At present the mother does not have transportation, which would mean that it would involve me driving that hour both ways twice a day, as far as the days I have off I have two, both of which I work a part time job right now to build my assets for when I am in school when the fall semester begins in 5 weeks. I did not mean to argue on this point, I appreciate your advicce although I do not appreciate the personal attacks.
This case is so much like the one my relative is going through its scary! We are dealing right now with the state of Florida DFC so I know what I am saying so PLEASE read this all the way though and think about it!
First to answer your legal question:
Yes, you can give up your parental rights, but it won't release you from child support unless the mother gets the child back, gets married and a DFC worker deems her husband a fit adoptable father. (Once DFC is in her life, its in for life. She won't make another move for a long time without them breathing down her neck) Furthermore, the state WILL eventually come after you for reimbursment for the money they spend on this childs welfare, whether you give up your rights or not. So basically, giving your rights up is not going to release you of your financial obligation. Hope that answers your question. If you question this information, I urge you to contact a lawyer that is knowledgable in family law and ask them. We just went though all this and this is what we were told.
Now, just to inform you of some things you may not know. DFC in the state of FLorida is a God-awful mess. Incompetent and self-serving people have been allowed to run it for a very long time and its only just now being uncovered. I can send you horror story after horror story of kids being taken for false reasons, kids being placed with foster parents that have had their own biological kids taken for abuse and neglect, and of children being killed because of bad foster parents, improper supervision from DFC, and even several cases of kids just disappearing while under the departments care. I can send you link after link of legitamite news stories about the deplorable policies within DFC, money imbezzlement, false testimonies, dangerous actions, and even murder in the department itself. All you have to do is ask and I can post them for you to see.
What I am trying to get to here is that if the mother has lost her children to DFC, it is very likely she wont get them back. DFC makes money from taking kids, gets incentives and bonuses for getting kids put up for adoption (age considered "adoptable" is newborn to 5) and for the last few years it has been more of a money making operation for the folks in it than it has been making sure kids were safe. These people will lie there collective A**s off to a judge, and he will listen because they are DFC and your child stands a very good chance of being put in a foster home where the foster parents havent been properly investigated and may have records of being abusers of one sort or another. Or he may be put up for adoption and go to an home that can also hold the same dangers. Its happened more times than you can think of in just this last year.
I offer this advise to you. You don't seem to want the responsiblity of this child. Fine, I don't think someone who doesn't want kids should have them. Not good for the kids. But if you have a family member or good friend that might be willing to take responsiblity for this child, it is in your childs best intrest for you to talk to them, talk to DFC and try to get that in motion. Even if you don't want the child, you don't want him living in misery do you?
Just consider what I have told you. I can back it up with evidence if you like. Just do your child a favor and get him out of that Hell hole they call DFC in Florida.