Switching schools

[bumpkin0684]

What is the name of your state? MINNESOTA

My husband and I would like his 8yr old daughter to attend our school district elmentary school. Her mother so far has agreed to switch schools becuase she doesn't think too highly of the one that she choose for the first couple of years their daughter has attended. They have 50/50 legal and physical custody. We hav eher Wednesday - SAturday and her mom has her Sunday - Wednesday morning. Here's a few of the questions..we want to have a signed agreement that states that she will attend the school that we choose but if she doesn't improve in her schooling there that we will find an new one and decide together where she would switch too.. and we are working on getting this signed and notarized ... what if the mother decides to move, even though she says she is going to move out of her parents apartment every single year and it doesn't happen and she wants the daugher to switch schools. Can she take her out o fthe school that we have already all signed in agreement to even if she is improving? Or does our agreement hold her there? Or will she have to go to court to get her school districts changed? If she pulls her out can we enroll her back? WE are not sure how to proceed with this. We have bought a house and it's the same house that she has been in her entire life we have not moved around and we plan on staying in that area for the rest of our lives. We dont' plan on moving where as her mother says I am going to live here or there and usually there is a big difference of locations with her on and off again boyfriend. She recently stated that she plans on moving almost an hour away from us. We do no pay child support, we do pay medical they agreed long ago since they split the time down the middle each would be responsible for paign for her needs when they have her. We don't want her to be switching schools again after this becuase she needs to stay in one place it's hard on them to be switching when there isn't a need for it, but our district can offer many opportuinies and help that her current one doesn't any advice please. thank you.!

 

[Silverplum]

Please go now and read the STICKY FOR NEW POSTERS at the top of the forum.

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What is the name of your state? MINNESOTA

My husband and I would like his 8yr old daughter to attend our school district elmentary school. Her mother so far has agreed to switch schools becuase she doesn't think too highly of the one that she choose for the first couple of years their daughter has attended. They have 50/50 legal and physical custody. We hav eher Wednesday - SAturday and her mom has her Sunday - Wednesday morning. Here's a few of the questions..we want to have a signed agreement that states that she will attend the school that we choose but if she doesn't improve in her schooling there that we will find an new one and decide together where she would switch too.. and we are working on getting this signed and notarized ... what if the mother decides to move, even though she says she is going to move out of her parents apartment every single year and it doesn't happen and she wants the daugher to switch schools. Can she take her out o fthe school that we have already all signed in agreement to even if she is improving? Or does our agreement hold her there? Or will she have to go to court to get her school districts changed? If she pulls her out can we enroll her back? WE are not sure how to proceed with this. We have bought a house and it's the same house that she has been in her entire life we have not moved around and we plan on staying in that area for the rest of our lives. We dont' plan on moving where as her mother says I am going to live here or there and usually there is a big difference of locations with her on and off again boyfriend. She recently stated that she plans on moving almost an hour away from us. We do no pay child support, we do pay medical they agreed long ago since they split the time down the middle each would be responsible for paign for her needs when they have her. We don't want her to be switching schools again after this becuase she needs to stay in one place it's hard on them to be switching when there isn't a need for it, but our district can offer many opportuinies and help that her current one doesn't any advice please. thank you.!

 

[bumpkin0684]

I cannot find this posty thing you are speaking of. do you have any advice to my situation?

 

[bumpkin0684]

I would like to state that yes I did read it now. I understand your meaning, but I have legal power of attorney for my husbands child, and my husband and I do things together and he is not computer savy. We would like some advice..He would like some advice. I don't see why any of you will not help me. I am not a legal stranger to this child. I have signed power of attorney for the child by her mother and her father. They decided it would be in the best interest of her for me to be able to be there to make decisions as well. It was something they decided no myself. So if anyone can help my husband and I with this simple question that would be grately appriecated.

 

[Silverplum]

Why ask for advice?
YOU already KNOW everything there is to know!

If the husband signs a release form at the school, the mother cannot stop you from meeting with school officals. So you could have him contact the school via e-mail and have him inform the school that thye are to contact you in his absence about any problems and any meetings that are needed. If mother has a problem with it, you can request seperate meetings. By law the school has to agree to the terms the father sets. That is what happened in my experiences. So good luck. Maybe this is some hope for you. Since people seem to be very mean to people even if they are jsut asking for alittle bit of help.

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showpost.php?p=1862581&postcount=32

 

[Ohiogal]

I would like to state that yes I did read it now. I understand your meaning, but I have legal power of attorney for my husbands child, and my husband and I do things together and he is not computer savy. We would like some advice..He would like some advice. I don't see why any of you will not help me. I am not a legal stranger to this child. I have signed power of attorney for the child by her mother and her father. They decided it would be in the best interest of her for me to be able to be there to make decisions as well. It was something they decided no myself. So if anyone can help my husband and I with this simple question that would be grately appriecated.

You do NOT have legal power of attorney over the child. YOU are a legal stranger. It is not a simple question. If mom wants to change who has custody of the child then mom and DAD can go back to court and get a court order stating so.

 

[2Mistakes]

You do NOT have legal power of attorney over the child. YOU are a legal stranger. It is not a simple question. If mom wants to change who has custody of the child then mom and DAD can go back to court and get a court order stating so.

That may not necessarily be true.

When my ex and decided that it was in the kids' best interests for me to have custody of them, my ex had the idea to have an exhibit added to our CO.

This exhibit gives my wife the legal authority to make any and all medical, educational, legal, etc. decisions for our children in mine and my ex's stead.

My ex and I both signed it, and it is incorporated in our CO.

I'm not saying that this OP has anything of the sort, as I don't know. But it is possible.

 

[Ohiogal]

That may not necessarily be true.

When my ex and decided that it was in the kids' best interests for me to have custody of them, my ex had the idea to have an exhibit added to our CO.

This exhibit gives my wife the legal authority to make any and all medical, educational, legal, etc. decisions for our children in mine and my ex's stead.

My ex and I both signed it, and it is incorporated in our CO.

I'm not saying that this OP has anything of the sort, as I don't know. But it is possible.

Here is the thing -- yours is a court order. A power of attorney however is granted by the individual giving them permission to act on their behalf. A court could grant her guardianship. Her power of attorney would be easily not enforceable if the parents (either or) stated that it was not good.

 

[2Mistakes]

Here is the thing -- yours is a court order. A power of attorney however is granted by the individual giving them permission to act on their behalf. A court could grant her guardianship. Her power of attorney would be easily not enforceable if the parents (either or) stated that it was not good.

Gotcha. I see the distinction. And hello, OG. How ya been?

 

[bumpkin0684]

Thank you members. I have been awarded by the Court Power of Attorney. We all decided it would be best for her if I was able to make legal decision as well just incase they were absent. We have had a really good relationship between the three of us until recently...because of the school issue and her not know where she is going with her life directions about moving etc. Just to let you know there is a rule about posting rude posts and it is against this websites rules. So I will be enforcing those rules on my forum. So be rude if you must but I will be reporting it.

 

[bumpkin0684]

By the dad has the same legal rights as the mom...so mom doesn't have more power of the situation..they both have equal power.

 

[proud_parent]

Just to let you know there is a rule about posting rude posts and it is against this websites rules. So I will be enforcing those rules on my forum. So be rude if you must but I will be reporting it.

Unless you are the forum administrator, this is not "your" forum. You are well within your rights and responsibilities to report violations of the TOS. Enforcement, however, is up to the site admins.

 

[Zigner]

Thank you members. I have been awarded by the Court Power of Attorney.

In the OTHER thread, you state that the school had you sign forms.
Now, when it's convenient, the COURT has ORDERED it?

 

[waitinMd]

you had a court hearing since last night?

 

[mommyof4]

I have been awarded by the Court Power of Attorney.

Reeeallly?

If the husband signs a release form at the school, the mother cannot stop you from meeting with school officals. So you could have him contact the school via e-mail and have him inform the school that thye are to contact you in his absence about any problems and any meetings that are needed. If mother has a problem with it, you can request seperate meetings. By law the school has to agree to the terms the father sets. That is what happened in my experiences. So good luck. Maybe this is some hope for you. Since people seem to be very mean to people even if they are jsut asking for alittle bit of help.

And this one. Please note: this post was posted at 9:26 am THIS MORNING. Yes, exactly 53 minutes ago.

You know the posting laws...that were mad up..you tell us little members not be mean and be rude..when you yourself the senior members are being the rudest people on here..people are simply asking for help here...and that's a place where people believe that they can get some but obviously not. And my post about the form for the husband to sign. My husband signed one for me and the school said there is nothing legally she can do to prevent me from attending a meeting if it is seperate or not...if they have 50/50 legal custody. It his is right to be informed and if he chooses me to be the one that informs him while he is a way she can't stop you. And the restrainging order is only going to be issued if there is a reason to be one issued..I highly doubt a judge is going to issue a order against someone who is doing what the father asked him to do. I have completely given up on people on this website....you might want to follow your own advice of not being so completely rude yourselves...and belittling people.

By the way? You have no idea of any of the legalities involved with a POA and when, how, why, and by whom one may be issued. Please just stop.