What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina
My previous thread about having a job offer and having to move away was closed which was fine but after talking to my lawyer I am a little bit confused what I should do now because his advice was totally different from the advice I got here.
Here is the previous thread about my situation:
https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/got-job-offer-can-i-keep-my-kids-485722.html
This is the situation now:
I got a phone call from the school I applied at and accepted the job offer I was given by the school so I'll have to start working next Wednesday.
After that I went to my lawyer to talk to him about what I am supposed to do now and he suggested I should just take the kids out of school next Monday and take them with me since we thought my husband will not have child care for the kids. He said he will file papers today for an emergency hearing for a change of custody.
Now I found out that MY estranged mother would come down hear to stay with HIM to take care of the kids when he is at work until he makes permanent arrangements. She does that because she doesn't believe me that I was totally unhappy with my marriage and I made a stupid decision. He always played the role of a perfect husband when others were around and bullied me around when we were alone. It hurts but I have to accept that she turned against me because I know it was the right decision.
My question is if I should do what my lawyer suggested because somehow I think I would break the agreements since my husband couldn't see his kids as often as it says in the papers until the review of the custody provisions.
The next question if it changes anything that my mother will come here to help him watching the kids until he finds permanent childcare.
I think it helps if I let you know what that agreement says about custody.
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CHILD CUSTODY, VISITATION AND SUPPORT:
The parties hereby agree that custody, support and visitation with the children shall be as follows:
1.CHILD CUSTODY: The parties agree that they will share joint legal custody of their two minor children. The parties further agree that either party moves outside of this county, the same will be considered a substantial change in circumstances warranting a review of the custody provisions of this agreement.
2.REGULAR VISITATION SCHEDULE: The parties agree to maintain the current schedule of visitation they have been employing, as follows: The wife will have the children from Monday night through Wednesday night and the husband will have the children Thursday through Sunday night every other week. On the alternating weeks, the Wife will have the children five nights out of the week and the husband will have the children two nights out of the week, with specific days to be agreed upon by the parties in accordance with the husband's work and travel schedule.
The parties further agree that the children will continue to be with the Wife after school on the days Husband is to have the children, with the husband picking the children op from the Wife's home. When the children are not in school. the children will be with the wife on the days the Husband is to have the children, until the Husband picks them up after work. The parties further agree that portions of this arrangement may need to be modified in the event Wife obtains full-time employment and after school care is needed for the children.
Additional visitation may be scheduled and the visitation schedule may be modified as the parties may agree.
3. HOLIDAY VISITATION: I don't think that is relevant here.
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So bottom line is:
Should I follow my lawyers advice and does my mom's appearance change anything?
Thank you
My previous thread about having a job offer and having to move away was closed which was fine but after talking to my lawyer I am a little bit confused what I should do now because his advice was totally different from the advice I got here.
Here is the previous thread about my situation:
https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/got-job-offer-can-i-keep-my-kids-485722.html
This is the situation now:
I got a phone call from the school I applied at and accepted the job offer I was given by the school so I'll have to start working next Wednesday.
After that I went to my lawyer to talk to him about what I am supposed to do now and he suggested I should just take the kids out of school next Monday and take them with me since we thought my husband will not have child care for the kids. He said he will file papers today for an emergency hearing for a change of custody.
Now I found out that MY estranged mother would come down hear to stay with HIM to take care of the kids when he is at work until he makes permanent arrangements. She does that because she doesn't believe me that I was totally unhappy with my marriage and I made a stupid decision. He always played the role of a perfect husband when others were around and bullied me around when we were alone. It hurts but I have to accept that she turned against me because I know it was the right decision.
My question is if I should do what my lawyer suggested because somehow I think I would break the agreements since my husband couldn't see his kids as often as it says in the papers until the review of the custody provisions.
The next question if it changes anything that my mother will come here to help him watching the kids until he finds permanent childcare.
I think it helps if I let you know what that agreement says about custody.
___________________________________________________
CHILD CUSTODY, VISITATION AND SUPPORT:
The parties hereby agree that custody, support and visitation with the children shall be as follows:
1.CHILD CUSTODY: The parties agree that they will share joint legal custody of their two minor children. The parties further agree that either party moves outside of this county, the same will be considered a substantial change in circumstances warranting a review of the custody provisions of this agreement.
2.REGULAR VISITATION SCHEDULE: The parties agree to maintain the current schedule of visitation they have been employing, as follows: The wife will have the children from Monday night through Wednesday night and the husband will have the children Thursday through Sunday night every other week. On the alternating weeks, the Wife will have the children five nights out of the week and the husband will have the children two nights out of the week, with specific days to be agreed upon by the parties in accordance with the husband's work and travel schedule.
The parties further agree that the children will continue to be with the Wife after school on the days Husband is to have the children, with the husband picking the children op from the Wife's home. When the children are not in school. the children will be with the wife on the days the Husband is to have the children, until the Husband picks them up after work. The parties further agree that portions of this arrangement may need to be modified in the event Wife obtains full-time employment and after school care is needed for the children.
Additional visitation may be scheduled and the visitation schedule may be modified as the parties may agree.
3. HOLIDAY VISITATION: I don't think that is relevant here.
_________________________________________________
So bottom line is:
Should I follow my lawyers advice and does my mom's appearance change anything?
Thank you