Teachers Affairs with Parents

[tinkerbell2819]

Alabama

My husband had an affair with our daughters teacher. What should be done to that teacher. She was texting my husband during school hours when she was supposed to be teaching her class and he would go anywhere from 1-2 days a week to "eat lunch with his daughter". I went to the principal about this and since the said incident my son and I have had problems with other teachers as well as some of their children at that school. My A/B honor student does not want to attend that school that he onced loved anymore. He wants to go to another school in the county. Should the state have done some type of discilplinary action?

 

[Proserpina]

Alabama

My husband had an affair with our daughters teacher. What should be done to that teacher. She was texting my husband during school hours when she was supposed to be teaching her class and he would go anywhere from 1-2 days a week to "eat lunch with his daughter". I went to the principal about this and since the said incident my son and I have had problems with other teachers as well as some of their children at that school. My A/B honor student does not want to attend that school that he onced loved anymore. He wants to go to another school in the county. Should the state have done some type of discilplinary action?

Your husband is the one you should be focusing on.

By all means make another formal complaint.

But more importantly - get your son in therapy, and perhaps get all of you in family therapy.

And uh...you're referring to your son AND daughter?

 

[TheGeekess]

I doubt anything will be done to the teacher, since AEA/teacher's unions will protect the teacher.

 

[TheGeekess]

Section 16-28B-4
Prohibited behavior; complaints; school plans or programs.

(a) No student shall engage in or be subjected to harassment, intimidation, violence, or threats of violence on school property, on a school bus, or at any school-sponsored function by any other student in his or her school system.

(b) No person shall engage in reprisal, retaliation, or false accusation against a victim, witness, or other person who has reliable information about an act of harassment, violence, or threat of violence.

(c) Any student, or parent or guardian of the student, who is the object of harassment may file a complaint outlining the details of the harassment, on a form authorized by the local board, and submit the form to the official designated by the local board to receive complaints at the school.

(d) Each school shall develop plans or programs, including, but not limited to, peer mediation teams, in an effort to encourage students to report and address incidents of harassment, violence, or threats of violence.
(Act 2009-571, §4.)

Section 16-28B-4

Section 16-24-8
Cancellation of contracts - Grounds.

Cancellation of an employment contract with a teacher on continuing service status may be made for incompetency, insubordination, neglect of duty, immorality, failure to perform duties in a satisfactory manner, justifiable decrease in the number of teaching positions or other good and just cause, but cancellation may not be made for political or personal reasons.
(Acts 1939, No. 499, p. 759, § 6; Code 1940, T. 52, §358; Acts 1953, No. 773, p. 1040, § 1; Act 2000-733, p. 1588, §9.)

Section 16-24-8

http://alisondb.legislature.state.al.us/acas/CodeOfAlabama/1975/127606.htm

 

[Perky]

I doubt anything will be done to the teacher, since AEA/teacher's unions will protect the teacher.

I know the media portrays teachers' unions as formidable forces, but in my experience, district-level unions can only enforce the contract. Unless the contract protects the teacher in a situation like this, the union can't provide any protection. This teacher can easily be fired if she has a typical contract, especially considering the code you quoted. Whether the district will do so is another matter.

 

[disneykid52]

easyway to rectify the problem,,,divorce him

 

[TheGeekess]

I know the media portrays teachers' unions as formidable forces, but in my experience, district-level unions can only enforce the contract. Unless the contract protects the teacher in a situation like this, the union can't provide any protection. This teacher can easily be fired if she has a typical contract, especially considering the code you quoted. Whether the district will do so is another matter.

Trust me on this.... I've not heard of a teacher in Bama losing his/her job because of their private lives (unless they were involved with a student). And I know several teachers in different districts all over this state. The AEA (Alabama Education Association) was a powerhouse until the last election in this state. For years in this state, Spring Break was held the second week in March and it was called AEA week; that's when the state union would meet in Bham. Legislature had a special session on Ethics Reform soon after the election this year (because the newly elected could take their seats). The AEA fought them tooth and nail on all sorts of issues, especially the fact that the state was collecting dues/contributions to the AEA and its PACs.

Teacher's Union is one reason the Bham City Schools are in such a bad shape. Everybody that works for the BOE is a member and they can't clear the deadwood because of the Union.

 

[Humusluvr]

Alabama

My husband had an affair with our daughters teacher. What should be done to that teacher. She was texting my husband during school hours when she was supposed to be teaching her class and he would go anywhere from 1-2 days a week to "eat lunch with his daughter". I went to the principal about this and since the said incident my son and I have had problems with other teachers as well as some of their children at that school. My A/B honor student does not want to attend that school that he onced loved anymore. He wants to go to another school in the county. Should the state have done some type of discilplinary action?

That teacher should burn in heck!!! But legally, nothing will most likely be done to the teacher. Are you insinuating they were partaking in "extracurricular activities" on school grounds? That might be punishable for the teacher. But if they were eating/texting - don't count on it. And really, you wouldn't be privy to what happens, because it would be between the principal and teacher - not you.

Divorce your husband - send jr to a new school. And do your best to not let kiddo know how angry you are - be the perfect model of sanity and peace, and help kiddo adjust. Because if you are freaking out and angry and screaming at everyone on the phone and over emails, you're staking the fire, and making kiddo more unstable.

 

[justalayman]

why is everybody crucifying the teacher? Presumably the husband was willing to engage the teacher. I do not see there needs to be any punishment meted out for such a situation. A consensual affair between two people, while one of them is married, is only illegal in Michigan as far as I know.

Unless there is a law in Bama prohibiting this, I suggest OP needs to worry about her husband a bit more and the teacher a bit less.

 

[Humusluvr]

why is everybody crucifying the teacher? Presumably the husband was willing to engage the teacher. I do not see there needs to be any punishment meted out for such a situation. A consensual affair between two people, while one of them is married, is only illegal in Michigan as far as I know.

Unless there is a law in Bama prohibiting this, I suggest OP needs to worry about her husband a bit more and the teacher a bit less.

Sorry, my sarcasm apparently didn't shine through in the "burn in heck" comment.

I don't think anything other than divorce is appropriate here - unless the two were porking on school grounds, during school hours, in which case that would warrant some disciplinary action. Sex on school grounds is not just frowned upon for students, but the staff as well.

 

[justalayman]

Sorry, my sarcasm apparently didn't shine through in the "burn in heck" comment.

I don't think anything other than divorce is appropriate here - unless the two were porking on school grounds, during school hours, in which case that would warrant some disciplinary action. Sex on school grounds is not just frowned upon for students, but the staff as well.

It wasn't your post necessarily. It seemed to be the general consensus that the teacher is to blame for everything.

I absolutely agree with your take on things other than the divorce. That would be up to the OP and spouse. Sometimes things are salvageable.

 

[Humusluvr]

It wasn't your post necessarily. It seemed to be the general consensus that the teacher is to blame for everything.

I absolutely agree with your take on things other than the divorce. That would be up to the OP and spouse. Sometimes things are salvageable.

Agreed, divorce is between spouses - and agreed that it takes two to tango.

It seemed like the OP was out to crucify the teacher - which I tried to explain was not likely going to happen.

 

[ecmst12]

It should be frowned upon for a teacher to have a relationship with the parent of a current student, just for conflict of interest reasons. But as far as OP's marriage, that is irrelevent to her job. Teacher certainly doesn't deserve to lose her job over this.

 

[csi7]

The teacher probably will not have her contract renewed after this school year ends.
What usually happens is that another student complains to their parent about so and so's preferential treatment in class, at lunch, and after enough parents get together and complain, the problem is handled at the end of the school year when there is no compelling physical evidence of misconduct on school grounds.
The teacher is a public official, and in a position of trust. That is what everyone is speaking about, nothing personal.
As far as switching student to another school, sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't.
Counseling can help with coping techniques as there is probably some bullying happening to the student. If there is a bullying policy in place, use it to get the bullying to quit.
A private consult with school board members, school district officials, county officials is also a possibility, as long as you present the situation as strictly a professional one.

 

[Humusluvr]

The teacher probably will not have her contract renewed after this school year ends.

You don't know that. The OP has failed to return and answer the questions. If the teacher was having lunch with the father, that's one thing. If the teacher was hanging from the bleachers with the father, it's a different story.

You can't blanketly say that every teacher who has a personal relationship with students or parents will be canned. I know plenty of teachers who teach their own kids (and therefore are sleeping with their student's parent), teach their friends kids (therefore having lunch and dinner with them), teach other teacher's kids, and develop friendships with parents.

You made a lot of statements of fact, without actually having evidence to back your statements up.