Teen mom

[OhBullship]

Megan, being a parent does not make you an adult. Children as young as eleven have accomplished conception. Your idea is all wrong both legally and according to common sense. I'm sure you do love your baby, but love really isn't all a baby needs. One true test of love is how much of ourselves we are willing to give up in order to ensure our children have everything they need. Some parents fail terribly at that, and society, and the child suffer because of it. Suggesting adoption is not being cruel towards you. The teenage years are SUPPOSE to be all about you. It is an important stage in life, sort of like a practice run towards being an adult, but with a huge safety net in place. Most people who skip that transition do not do well as adults. Suggesting adoption is as much for your benefit as it is for the other child's benefit. YOU deserve the chance to develop, just as your child does. Guess what else? So does the boyfriend. His parents are in the position to allow that for him though, by sending him off.

The right to visitation is only established when the court has made a visitation and support order. That right belongs to the non-custodial parent, not the child. Children have very few rights. There is no way that you can force the father to be a Daddy. You can get a support order in place, but that is CHILD support, not Mom support. Even if you should get a support order in place, there is no guarantee that you will receive support.

If you are going to keep this child then you have no choice but to grow up quickly. Once a child is in the picture, it cannot be all about you any more because someone has needs that are more important than yours.

 

[MeganKW]

Okay I guess I got the answers I'm looking for. I wasn't saying I wanted my bf to drop out of school. Thats the last thing I want. I said that he finishes school by Christmas. I'm thinking the rest of this program is, is just a waste of time. This has nothing to do with me like I said before. Sure I miss him but I can go a few more months without him. I'm worried about him and bonding with his newborn. I am getting a GED as soon as I turn 17 which is later this month. After that I will go to community college. My baby has enough support financially to live for awhile. I am just tired of having to rely on my mom for all of that. It's not fair to her. This isn't her problem to work out. Which is why I think my bf should be here so one of us can get a job and at least help out my mom in paying for all baby's needs. She wants me to have my own place. And she is willing to help me pay for it until I can figure a way for both my bf and me to both have jobs to pay for it. That's reallly all I wanted to know: If there was a way he didnt have to go back to that reform school once he's graduated the actual school aspect of it. I am ready to start our lives working and going to school. But I guess as long as they allow him to continue his edjucation there, that's fine. I just really was hoping he could be here for his son. That's all. I wasn't looking to be lectured about what being a grown up is. Seriously though, if you arent going to be nice about what u are telling me, I dont want to talk to you because being negative isnt going to help me. Telling me to grow up isnt going to help me. I am grown up as I possibly can be at 17. You dont know me enough to judge that. I am highly responsible and I will do anything for my baby. Whatever's best for him. And I thought that having his father here with him, was best. Anyways I dont really have time to be responding to those of you who dont answer my questions directly all the time. So stop replying if you cant tell me exactly what I'm asking without making some smart ass comment.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Your questions have been answered many times over. If you can't recognize that then why bother coming back here?

 

[AHA]

Ditto above.
And the "highly responsible" can be questioned after becoming a teen mom.

Good luck

 

[BlondeIntel]

Have you tried sending pictures of the baby to him in care of his mother?

Warning! This can backfire. She might decide to try to sue for visitation or custody if she becomes emotionally attached to the baby. Be sure to talk this over with your parents before you act.

 

[OhBullship]

wasn't looking to be lectured about what being a grown up is. Seriously though, if you arent going to be nice about what u are telling me, I dont want to talk to you because being negative isnt going to help me.

I did answer your questions, and I was being nice dumbas$