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I'd be very surprised if we weren't dealing with option 3 here. Because surely anyone who's had legal representation and has been involved in the divorce and custody court system ( as I have as a mediator) would realize that the "parental alienation" ship sailed off years ago in every other venue except those silly websites where ex-parents whine about how horribly they've been treated by the system and by their exes.
If you are A or B and do not want to be tarred by the other parent using "parental alienation" against you, while you cannot stop someone else from talking, you can always take the higher ground. As someone used to say on this site, love your children more than you hate your ex. Pay your obligations. Don't be a jerk. Don't keep fighting. Don't trash-mouth the other parent yourself. Show the very highest charater to your children, and eventually they will be able to look back at your behavior and see how a quality, always-caring parent acts. Children are observant, not just succeptable to being "told" things. They notoriously sometimes do not listen, but they always learn.
If you are A or B and do not want to be tarred by the other parent using "parental alienation" against you, while you cannot stop someone else from talking, you can always take the higher ground. As someone used to say on this site, love your children more than you hate your ex. Pay your obligations. Don't be a jerk. Don't keep fighting. Don't trash-mouth the other parent yourself. Show the very highest charater to your children, and eventually they will be able to look back at your behavior and see how a quality, always-caring parent acts. Children are observant, not just succeptable to being "told" things. They notoriously sometimes do not listen, but they always learn.