The only thing sad is your whiney-a** post. It's true.
If the mother is bent on keeping the dad out of the child's life, she'll go as far as she can to do that. Just like those NCP's who go out of their way to avoid paying child support.
Children are not freaking pawns in some game, Beavis. I am going through this right now with the biomom of my kids. She's all pissed off because of the language contained within my child support appeal (because I am calling her on the carpet and holding her responsible for a few things, more or less) and she thinks "that's wrong" because in her case, it IS all about $$$. So, now she's playing the "the kids aren't going to see you" game. And they're asking why. So, needless to say, she'll be in for a huge surprise when I also file a lawsuit against her for emotional distress because of this. If you're gonna screw with me like that, you're gonna lose...I'll see to it! Tell me this isn't using the kids.
The OP complains he hasn't been around (although she's done nothing to legally establish paternity) and now, the thought of him being in the child's picture IF paternity is ever established does scares her.
The court system is far from perfect when dealing with child issues. Any attorney with any common sense will tell you that. Hell, even Judges will probably tell you that. The courts idea of "the best interest of the child" means nothing but '$' signs because that means more federal funding for them.
When the parents were never married to begin with, it's difficult for both parents to be involved 100%. Even divorced parents face that problem. There are dads that want to be involved alot more than they are, but the laws are against them as it is. So they have to work twice as hard just to make the playing field fair. Spare us your BS.
There are CP's out there who purposely withhold establishing paternity or even letting the alleged biodad know they possibly have children until "they need money." Tell me THAT isn't using the children as pawns. If you're so damned gung-ho that he's the dad, then file the appropriate paperwork to establish paternity and stop the freaking whining about "he's never around...he's doesn't help out...waaah waah waah." Legally, he's not obligated to. PERIOD!
Bitterness just oozes out of you like pus, doesn't it. Why didn't you file for custody in the first place, let me guess, another woman? You thought they'd be better off with mom? You had to get "on your feet?". Don't answer, it doesn't matter. There are many, manyNCP's out there who aren't involved in their childs lives no matter how much the CP wants them to be for the good of the child. The laws are not against fathers, they are with the NCP, no matter if that NCP abandons the child for years. They still favor the absent parent. What I hear over and over is, "He/She is the parent they have rights". Well, you know what Mr. Know it all? I put my child first and he has the right to a stable and complication free life, not one where a man comes and goes as he pleases, whenever he pleases and puts no value on God's greatest gift. So, take your bitterness and use it for something productive. Perhaps you should change your nickname from legalcuriosity to legallyignorant
Revenge huh, seems like that is your primary motivation. Damn HER to hell and who cares if the kids get hurt.
You are a piece of work, Mister.
