The definition of “vacation”…

[LdiJ]

It's as much of a vacation as I can get with her currently without taking her out of school(which...she ...."allowed" me to do for 1 week last November when we went to Disney, taking her classwork and homework with us, but apparently this year is an issue). Due to my employment, I don't have the option of taking vacation in the summer as a general rule.

As far as a GAL, which I assume is a court appointed lawyer to represent my daughter, I will check into that, if it gets that far. The last time, after I file a contempt order against...her .... for not following our agreement, I ended up negotiating our current agreement with her lawyer(after she lied in a provable manner) in her response to the contempt filing.

As to enjoying "getting one over on mom", I would just assume that we weren't in this position to begin with, and I never discuss any of this when my daughter is around.

Sometimes schools are cooperative about vacations during the school year and sometimes they are not...sometimes it boils down to the individual teacher. I recommend developing a relationship with the school and your child's teacher each year....they can be helpful in establishing whether or not you can take your child on vacation during the school year. Its also wise to develope that relationship anyway...because it helps with your child's education.

My school district is cooperative during the elementary years, but is totally uncooperative during middle school and high school....despite court orders. Other school districts are more cooperative. Some teachers are very cooperative when the student does well, but might be totally uncooperative if the student is stuggling.

As far as "getting one over on mom" is concerned, again, that was cautionary.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

I have a good relationship with her 2nd grade teacher. We are in email contact regularly. I don't really want to take my daughter out of school if it can be avoided. The sad part is that ...she .... almost acts like that would be the best thing.

 

[ezmarelda]

...she ....

i don't know why but this "name" for the X is crackin me up!!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

I have a good relationship with her 2nd grade teacher. We are in email contact regularly. I don't really want to take my daughter out of school if it can be avoided. The sad part is that ...she .... almost acts like that would be the best thing.

Taking your daughter out of school just so you can get time with her is NOT the best interest of your child. It may be what YOU want but it is NOT in her best interest. You need to realize that. Taking her out for special trips that benefit her greatly is different than you taking her out just to meet some convoluted idea of what a vacation is.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Taking your daughter out of school just so you can get time with her is NOT the best interest of your child. It may be what YOU want but it is NOT in her best interest. You need to realize that. Taking her out for special trips that benefit her greatly is different than you taking her out just to meet some convoluted idea of what a vacation is.

I am aware of that. That's why I am saying that I don't want to take her out of school. I have no intention of doing so.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? MD

Due to my employment, I don’t really have the option of taking “vacation” in the summer. Originally, for 2006, Mommy and I had verbally agreed(our current order has NO provisions for vacations in it, but I have already filed to have that changed) that she would be able to take my daughter to NM to visit her maternal grandmother for a little over a month. In return, we agreed that I would be able to take my “vacation” with my daughter during the month of November. Before anybody panics, we both live in the same school district, and my daughter would NOT be missing any school. She would just stay with me for that month. The closer we came to that time, the more she seemed to have issue with it(after she got her vacation, of course). First, it was can’t we just reverse visitation for that month(meaning EOW and Wednesday overnights). I said I deserved “vacation” as much as she did and she backed down(or so I thought). After our debate over homework(see my previous thread), she decided that she didn’t want me to have any “vacation” at all, and that it would not qualify as vacation anyway, as I am not taking my daughter out of state.

Since when does vacation mean you have to go someplace? What say you?

Sounds like you've filed for a Modification to include vacations. What you CAN do, is save any/all correspondence with Mom....so that when you do get to court, you can prove that she has unilaterally changed previous agreements re; the child(ren). E-mail or send CCR mail re; these things....let her calls go to voicemail so you can track her responses.

Hope some/any of this helps.

 

[casa]

i don't know why but this "name" for the X is crackin me up!!!!

Because it was funny!

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Sounds like you've filed for a Modification to include vacations. What you CAN do, is save any/all correspondence with Mom....so that when you do get to court, you can prove that she has unilaterally changed previous agreements re; the child(ren). E-mail or send CCR mail re; these things....let her calls go to voicemail so you can track her responses.

Hope some/any of this helps.

I've been doing that since October. ....She .... is now telling me that if I want to communicate with her, I need to call her, because ....she .... is "not responding to any more emails".

 

[casa]

I've been doing that since October. ....She .... is now telling me that if I want to communicate with her, I need to call her, because ....she .... is "not responding to any more emails".

Well, then ...she ... can explain her REFUSAL to communicate re; matters pertaining to your child(ren) when you get back in court. Meanwhile, send her 1st class (return receipt) mail re; any issues. Once you have emails, written correspondence & yet she is refusing to do ANYTHING in writing~ She'll be fairly transparent to a judge/court.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Well, then ...she ... can explain her REFUSAL to communicate re; matters pertaining to your child(ren) when you get back in court. Meanwhile, send her 1st class (return receipt) mail re; any issues. Once you have emails, written correspondence & yet she is refusing to do ANYTHING in writing~ She'll be fairly transparent to a judge/court.

Well, considering the fact that ....she .... stated via email that she wouldn't respond to them(....she .... said ....she .... doesn't have time), I have that covered, espescially after I explained my reason of not wanting any more " misunderstandings about what was, or was not, said during a telephone conversation"(subtle, huh?). I also read receipt everything.

She responds now sporadically.

 

[casa]

Well, considering the fact that ....she .... stated via email that she wouldn't respond to them(....she .... said ....she .... doesn't have time), I have that covered, espescially after I explained my reason of not wanting any more " misunderstandings about what was, or was not, said during a telephone conversation"(subtle, huh?). I also read receipt everything.

She responds now sporadically.

Well then, just save everything & keep giving her rope to hang herself.