Thread Disappeared wanted to comment- perjury

[absconder]

Did he get what he wanted? If not the system worked........In the future document everything if he lies alot and hang him on the facts. Dont ever trust his WORD.

 

[bliss_in_texas]

Did he get what he wanted? If not the system worked........In the future document everything if he lies alot and hang him on the facts. Dont ever trust his WORD.

I don't trust him anymore. The hard part is proving who is telling the truth and who is not when all you have is he said/she said. I have been the one raising this child, taking care of him, dr, dentist, dirty diapers, colds, happy times, sad times, etc. And he "claims" that I won't let him be part of it. *snort* I only hope that our judge can see through his b/s . I try, now, to document everything he says and does, but he has a wife/former g/f that will say whatever he wants her to say to back him up. I only have myself and my older children, his daycare teachers, doctors and friends to back me up.
It's not that I don't want my son to have a father, I truly wanted my ex to be a part of his life, I begged for years, but now that I see what he is really about (appearances) I honestly want to forget that he fathered this child. I just don't think that his intermittent involvement is good for the child. I'd rather he just be gone. I don't exactly know what the next step is in this process, but after the end of the month, he is supposed to have my son every other weekend and I am not okay with that. My son isn't okay with that, he isn't ready for that mentally or emotionally.
Is there anything I can do in the court to make this stop, to keep his visits to a minimum right now? Everytime he comes to pick up my son, my son cries and begs to stay with me. I spent ten to fifteen minutes calming my son and convincing him it's okay to go with Daddy (when I'm not sure it is). I don't think that, after a month and a half of this, my son would be acting this way if he was happy going with his father. Yes, he's young but kids adapt and he isn't adapting. I feel like the bad guy, telling my son to go with Daddy when he wants to stay with me. When he returns to me after a few hours or one overnight, he is hyper, disobediant and hard to settle. Can I ask the court to continue the TO and delay the proposed SOP until after the social study? Not that I think a social study will give a true picture to anyone who meets my ex. He's a smooth charmer. Delay? Yes? No? Anyone?