Long winded, sorry. No 'bench' to warm any more!
rmet4nzkx had a good suggestion and gave you many resources to consider contacting.
quote[Im really fed up with this. Its causes me a lot of pain, depression, and suicide attempts.] Please try something different than what you have been trying b/c it hurts to hear a young person sound that way.
Since we adults know that it is tough being 16, many of us are going to think, "Do you think you have given your parents a reason to treat you this way?" And some of us are going to think, "Yes, but any kind of rules look bad when you're 16."
For just a moment I am going to talk as a parent: As a single parent I had to be the disciplinarian and then be able to turn around and be the soft balance. It was hard, and I was pretty tough on my boys.
When they came out on the other side of 16-17 years old, one of them told me that he felt the reason we could not get along was b/c at that age I expected him to act like an adult, but treated him like a kid. It was, he said, like being 13 again, sitting on a fence. Not grown up enough for some things and too grown up for others.
Not that any of this maybe fits your situation, but sometimes it's hard for parents to accept that their children grow up. We don't always know how to treat them. It is hard for parents to start 'letting go', and it is a sometimes slow and painful process, that realization that our kids are growing up. And sometimes it just comes down to giving respect on both sides in order to receive it.
I know that, while our children are a reflection of/on us parents, it is sometimes hard to keep that 'mirror' from being tweeked by all parties.
That son of mine is now in the service with a son of his own. He is expected to maintain a calm atmosphere in and around his home. He is responsible for the behavior of his son, and for the 'observed' behavior between him and his wife.
When "you're" in the service, "you" are supposed to have everything under control at all times, within reason, of course. Please don't misunderstand me there. But our servicemen and women are looked upon as a special type of person and have to keep an order of some kind to give respect and gain respect. It is like that in any way of life.
We are all special in what we do, and as a tough parent, I can say that in the heart of hearts of your parents, you are special too. They may have a strange way of showing it, maybe they don't show it at all.
If you were to contact outside help, perhaps it would really tick them off, BUT on the other hand, you would then gain a mediator. Then you could all hopefully get to the root of the problem.
Do something that will give you and your parents a chance to discuss things and work toward a resolution. That 'something' may be outside help, or trying to maintain a calm attitude and ask your parents to please sit down and talk with you. But they will expect you to act adult-like, and so try hard to do it. Calm words, quiet words, respectful tones. It's worth a try.
Hey, we parents have to try it too, sometimes, when we are faced with a problem that we feel we should be able to control. For us, it is sometimes like having to swallow a big concrete ball.
Perhaps it's worth a try?
