brisgirl825
Senior Member
You certainly did the right thing by reporting all of this and securing a healthy home for the child.mac75 said:Within 2 weeks of birth dad disappeared. My nephew and niece moved into my house when he was 3 month old. When my nephew was 4 mon. old that is when the abuse took place. I contacted CPS to report it out of concern for my nephew's future safety and they advised me to get a protective order. CPS was not involved with those proceedings except to do an investigation. The reason for that was, I had already taken steps to keep my nephew safe by getting the protective order. The father was not involved in any of those proceedings. When I filed for sole, legal and physical custody I had to include bio in those proceedings. It is probably safe to say that since mid August of 2003 he has seen him 5 times. I really tried to encourage bio to form a relationship with my nephew. I offered to pick him up, take my nephew to him, to move in my house with the possibility of gaining employment with my husband, gave him pictures, updates etc. I told him on several different occasions that I am giving him many opportunities but that he has to take advantage of them. I don't know if this is important or not but bio dad was a minor when my nephew was born.
Dad has not been very active in the child's life and some courts can decide NOT to take those sporadic visits into consideration during tpr proceedings. I don't know if your state is one of those or not.
Since dad was just recently ordred to pay support, you can't really argue that he has not been financially supporting the child. His status as a minor may have had a lot to do with why he wasn't given custody.
This may be one of those times where it is easier to sit back and let things happen. Let dad make or break this situation. He has a choice to support the child or not. If he chooses the latter, that will be useful in court.
Stop calling him to facilitate visitation. He's a big boy, let him be responsible for making the time to see the baby. He wants to be a dad so that means he can't rely on everyone to do this stuff for him.
I will do some googling to see how long one must fail to provide support and fail to contact a child before they have met the grounds for tpr based on abandonment.