treated like a step-child

[curiouscat623]

its the fathers job to disipline the child-not the stepmom,who is a legal stranger.if she beat my child with a belt,her ass would be in jail.the father needs to start standing up and protect his child,instead of being a sniveling coward.he could go to jail for failing to protect his child from abuse.i have 2 stepkids,and i dont discipline them at all,thats not my job.

In some cases, perhaps with older children that might be true. My kids are 3 and 5 (and a new baby with my wife). The 5 year old lives with us, the 3 year old lives with her mom. My wife has been in the picture since my daughter was born. She's spends as much time with my kids as I do. (Which is a GREAT deal of time). My wife spends a lot of time taking care of my 5 year old because we are a family, and thats how family's operate. When you love a child you teach them how to behave. It doesn't matter that my wife doesn't share DNA with my kids, she disciplines them because she loves them, and wants them to turn into wonderful adults. Though admittedly neither of us believe in spanking and have never nor would never use corporal punishment. My wife has every right to take priviledges away from the kids if they're not behaving, or to put them in time out. Due to the age of the kids how could she not discipline them? That would be grossly irresponsible in my opinion. My ex's boyfriend is in a similar situation (he's also been around since my daughter was born). I would think that there was something wrong with him if he didn't discipline my kids when they're at their mother's house. Though I wouldn't tolerate him spanking or physically hurting my kids. BTW Bradybunchmom...BOTH Brady's disciplined the other parent's children.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

In some cases, perhaps with older children that might be true. My kids are 3 and 5 (and a new baby with my wife). The 5 year old lives with us, the 3 year old lives with her mom. My wife has been in the picture since my daughter was born. She's spends as much time with my kids as I do. (Which is a GREAT deal of time). My wife spends a lot of time taking care of my 5 year old because we are a family, and thats how family's operate. When you love a child you teach them how to behave. It doesn't matter that my wife doesn't share DNA with my kids, she disciplines them because she loves them, and wants them to turn into wonderful adults. Though admittedly neither of us believe in spanking and have never nor would never use corporal punishment. My wife has every right to take priviledges away from the kids if they're not behaving, or to put them in time out. Due to the age of the kids how could she not discipline them? That would be grossly irresponsible in my opinion. My ex's boyfriend is in a similar situation (he's also been around since my daughter was born). I would think that there was something wrong with him if he didn't discipline my kids when they're at their mother's house. Though I wouldn't tolerate him spanking or physically hurting my kids. BTW Bradybunchmom...BOTH Brady's disciplined the other parent's children.

And if EITHER parent refused court ordered contact then that parent (whether legal or step) could be held in contempt.

And by the way, a step-parent has no legal rights of any kind. So I suggest you stick with the program. This isn't about family issues, it's about the legal aspects of divided families.

 

[curiouscat623]

And if EITHER parent refused court ordered contact then that parent (whether legal or step) could be held in contempt.

And by the way, a step-parent has no legal rights of any kind. So I suggest you stick with the program. This isn't about family issues, it's about the legal aspects of divided families.

Out of curiosity who said anything about refusing court ordered contact? My attorney advises me that the fact that I am married, the fact that my wife is a C&Y caseworker, and the fact that my wife has a warm and caring relationship with my kids is a very STRONG asset in my custody case. Certainly not legal rights, but will have legal bearing. My wife will be subject to the same psych evals that my kids, their mother, and I will have. She will also have to be observed by the evaluators interacting with the children, according to my attorney. So, apparently the courts feel that her relationship with my kids is important enough to investigate.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Out of curiosity who said anything about refusing court ordered contact? My attorney advises me that the fact that I am married, the fact that my wife is a C&Y caseworker, and the fact that my wife has a warm and caring relationship with my kids is a very STRONG asset in my custody case. Certainly not legal rights, but will have legal bearing. My wife will be subject to the same psych evals that my kids, their mother, and I will have. She will also have to be observed by the evaluators interacting with the children, according to my attorney. So, apparently the courts feel that her relationship with my kids is important enough to investigate.

Keep your issues off someone else's post. They have no bearing on the issues presented and only serve to confuse the poster.

 

[curiouscat623]

Pardon me. I thought that the poster was inquiring as to whether or not the SM and SDs relationship would be a factor in her custody case. Perhaps I should have added that in my custody case it is important, and that it may be in her's too.