I'm going to ask for a copy of the trust, if only as a tool to help guide future requests.
Dandy Don...it's irrevocable since my father passed in 2006. I did figure out what the "Miscellaneous Disbursements" were...it was used to pay "Federal Fiduciary Estimated Tax" ($5350.00), "State Fiduciary Estimated Tax" ($1247.00) and "Transfer to Principle, Amortization of Premium" ($0.75)...every quarter I am sent an accounting for the trust as well as market value with realized gain/loss, etc.
My request did specifically mention that it was heating oil and was accompanied by the receipt I paid for the delivery...the trust will not disburse without a receipt or a bill that they can verify. Heating oil is something I cannot claim as a monthly expense since it's delivery rate is seasonal...the trust uses what my monthly expenses were as a basis to decide my monthly stipend, and this decision is made every January. The trust has never declined a heating oil disbursement in all the previous years. But on last Thursdays meeting it decided that it feels that heating oil expenses should be covered by my monthly stipend...even though when I sent the trust my monthly expenses it did not include oil and my expenses this month for oil were over 15% of the stipend.
Interesting to hear that they are under no obligation as prior to the trust moving to NH, I was occasionally asked to go to the nearest bank branch for presentations on investments for the trust, and given little booklets showing how they planned to invest and grow the trust. They definitely gave the appearance of demonstrating that the bank was fulfilling an obligation.
I experienced two financial setbacks in the last 9 years...I completely lost everything in Hurricane Irene; my house in Leyden, MA was flooded, floated down the Green River and smashed into a bridge. I lost everything, no flood insurance and FEMA couldn't help because my town didn't join some kind of federal program. This was back before the trust moved to NH so I asked for limited help from the trust but with the intention to replace everything once I moved into a permanent house (I got a rental within a week of losing the house and stayed there for about 3 years while I worked on getting a mortgage; all of my furniture etc. in the rental came from donations and not from the trust). Once I moved to Maine in 2014, the trust moved to NH the following quarter and began nickel-and-diming every request I made to rebuild after losing literally everything I owned. And last year I lost every dime I had to an out-of-court settlement with my ex, with whom I have 2 kids...I have had full custody of both; my daughter since 2009 and my son since 2012. I asked for the trust to pay for an attorney for me to deal with my ex in court (in the past I've obviously had to take legal custody of each of our kids as well as take out restraining and trespass orders against her, which the trust did pay for prior to moving to NH), but the trust refused to even consider a request. So I settled out of court...there are no court-appointed attorneys for non-criminal cases where I live. My daughter is autistic and turned 18 in 2018, my son turned 10 last year. Both live with me. So I have dependents. And I am self-employed and I do show them proof of income whenever asked.
Does anyone know of an online source of federal and NH law regarding trusts? Case law, past decisions, that sort of thing?