What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maine
Ok a few facts 1st.
1. i am ncp and ex wife is cp
2. 2 kids ages 10 and 8
3. I get the kids ever other weekend.
4. mother has always gone by the thinking that unless its writing in the divorce paperwork or I can show her a law or such that said I can do something or that she can't do something that she can do it or stop me form doing it. and that I can do the same to her
What is going on is that we both have different rules for the kids for when they are with ex and with me. Some difference are
1. even on weekends the kids are in bed at 7:30-8pm at mothers house. When at my house its more like 9-10pm
2. mother only lets each kid have 1 hour of computer/game system time each night. I don't put a limit on it.
3. mother only lets the kids play some types of games. I will let them play other types that mother dose not like. Such as 1st person shooters(oldest one likes these) but only if i can turn off anything such as blood/gore(ie no heads blowing off or blood showing just shoot and body drops) and i can turn off any swearing or such(or child is willing to play game with no sound at all ie tv on mute)
There are more but these are the biggest 3.
Now I don't agree with some of my ex rules but I know that what happens in her house I can't do anything about and am fine with that. But my ex seems to thing that what happens in my house she can and has informed me and the kids that if she finds out that the kids are breaking any of her rules(even if i say its ok to do) while at my house that the kids will be punished.
Can anyone point me to a website or such that i could show her that would explain that she has no right to say what happens at my house or to punish the kids if they do something she don't like while at my house. I have tryed but can't find anything that don't take a law degree to understand. I would rather avoid going to court over this but I will if she starts to do this and I try everything else to stop it.
Note with 90% of stuff to do with kids we see eye to eye on or work out something such if my daughters girl scouts have something on my weekend so that she can go to it. It just some items we don't see eye to eye on.
Ok a few facts 1st.
1. i am ncp and ex wife is cp
2. 2 kids ages 10 and 8
3. I get the kids ever other weekend.
4. mother has always gone by the thinking that unless its writing in the divorce paperwork or I can show her a law or such that said I can do something or that she can't do something that she can do it or stop me form doing it. and that I can do the same to her
What is going on is that we both have different rules for the kids for when they are with ex and with me. Some difference are
1. even on weekends the kids are in bed at 7:30-8pm at mothers house. When at my house its more like 9-10pm
2. mother only lets each kid have 1 hour of computer/game system time each night. I don't put a limit on it.
3. mother only lets the kids play some types of games. I will let them play other types that mother dose not like. Such as 1st person shooters(oldest one likes these) but only if i can turn off anything such as blood/gore(ie no heads blowing off or blood showing just shoot and body drops) and i can turn off any swearing or such(or child is willing to play game with no sound at all ie tv on mute)
There are more but these are the biggest 3.
Now I don't agree with some of my ex rules but I know that what happens in her house I can't do anything about and am fine with that. But my ex seems to thing that what happens in my house she can and has informed me and the kids that if she finds out that the kids are breaking any of her rules(even if i say its ok to do) while at my house that the kids will be punished.
Can anyone point me to a website or such that i could show her that would explain that she has no right to say what happens at my house or to punish the kids if they do something she don't like while at my house. I have tryed but can't find anything that don't take a law degree to understand. I would rather avoid going to court over this but I will if she starts to do this and I try everything else to stop it.
Note with 90% of stuff to do with kids we see eye to eye on or work out something such if my daughters girl scouts have something on my weekend so that she can go to it. It just some items we don't see eye to eye on.
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